we love each other for last 7 yrs. till date he is not doing any job. i believe him ,that he is trying .he tried & his home is made now . but not his job. when i ask him about this he says he is trying his best........i dont know what to do? i love him .i dont want to leave him........
2007-02-05 16:38:30 · 19 answers · asked by trina c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be with him. dont think about silly things and do not compare him with other peoples. be fair. he tried? correct? have patience!
2007-02-05 16:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by kenn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever name you give to a relationship when insecurity crops up there is scope for confusion and mis-understanding.Take some time off .....although you might have spent the best time of your life with him but make sure that the future also holds some prospect.If he is telling he is trying for a job,maybe he is ...but cross verify whethere he is there to take responsibilty.what is the age of u both ?
2007-02-05 16:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by Hyderz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dear
U should encourage him!! Can u tell me what u will do at present he has job after marriage he lost!!! Problem can come any time
so leaving him is not solution. If u not belive in u r love dump him
and get marry settle person. Risk is everywhere and everytime
in life.
Stand By him...
Good Luck
2007-02-05 18:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the girls come across these questions.but i feel u shud talk to him first alone in a nice comfortable place like it cud b a park in the evening.explain to him that life cannot go on with only love it needs money also.he shud look4 a small job for now then after about a week when his mind is refreshed,his tension is gone then he cud look out for a better job.
2007-02-06 01:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by viper18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello dear. i understand what you feel. i was in that situation too. only that my ex hubby lose his business few months after we married, and was solely dependent on my income. are u ready to take him under your wing and take care of his needs to? coz likely if for tha past 7 yrs he hasnt found a job, what's the likelihood that he will get one when you get married? you will be the one working for your finances, and he will be one of your dependents. if you are ok with that then no worries, but if not, think a hundred times....it is no easy decision, but you have to make up your mind. good luck dear!
2007-02-05 16:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by mela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him register with some job site and help him with it to write out a good resume. 7 years is a lot of time and your love towards him is genuine.
2007-02-05 16:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by anand_e_j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm for some ppl it takes time to find out what they like to do...if he is person who doesn't like to work for other ppl....ask him what he wants to do...have few ideas and go from there....
if he is getting money from somewhere else and never had to think before spending...then he is lazy and spoiled...
after spending 7 yrs.i am pretty sure u know what he is doing...love is blind so for a second forget about love and see him as normal person....u will find out if he is really trying or not hmmm.... good luck (people never change,but yes, mask can be good or bad)
2007-02-05 16:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by soahni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think urself
Is love means only getting a job?
if u love him ?and ur love is true as well as the guy .
then Ist listen to ur heart.
then decied what u waan?
to leave him or with him?
and if the guy love u truley then dont leave him
2007-02-05 16:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by PK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have not mentioned ur age? u have not mentioned that ur dependent on other or not. or the father of ur lover do. u both love each other and i think u should marry. then wait until he is getting job. other wise after marriage there will be problem to survive.
2007-02-05 19:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by jhalak r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for 7 years he is not doing any job?......... isnt that quiet a lot of time
try picturing where you will be if the same situation continues for the next 7 years
2007-02-05 16:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him then leaving him is not an option.Souds like you dont trust him.Jobs are very hard to come by these days.He needs yor support.
2007-02-05 16:51:30 · answer #11 · answered by keith j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋