How can i help my bipolar fiance?

Question

My fiance has self diagnosed herself as being bipolar. Because i did not know what this completely was I told her that she was only trying to convince herself that she was. At most twice a week we get into an argument over something(NOT on Purpose) and her actions always start out one way and then end up another. For example is she starts out mad she will end up happy (but not a good happy), sad-mad, sad-rude etc you get the idea.
What i am trying to say is when I finally read about the condition I noticed some things about it that were related to the things she did and it scared me because the way things are now for us are stressful enough and for her to be diagnosed by a doctor would only make things worse. So just to sum this all up how do i help and prevent her from gaining and displaying anymore symptoms?

Also, Yes i know it is not good for me to keep her away from the diagnosis of a professional.

Answer 1

well, your question should be re-worded to "How can i help my fiance?"-- since you or your fiance aren't doctors, you can't diagnose yourself. And maybe a better question would be "How can I help myself?". YOu can't change your fiance. You can only change you. The more your fiance and yourself believe in this imaginary disease, the more you blame things on it. You're playing make believe until you find out the truth. Even then, you still can't change anything except for yourself. How are you going to deal with it next time? thats your choice.

Answer 2

It's obvious that you care very much about your fiance, but what you describe is certainly not typical bipolar behavior. For starters it is very rare for someone to cycle from the high to low just during the course of an argument. True bipolar builds up and peaks (either the mania or the other end of the spectrum the depression) then will flow the other way, this pattern varies with each indiviual but the cycle does follow a pattern. Whether she's bipolar or just incrediably stressed the most important thing you can do for her would be to support her in seeking help. Nobody wants to feel overwhelmed or out of control or hell just stressed, so please whether it's a Doctor, Clergy, or maybe some friend or relative that you know and would be comfortable talking over your concerns with. You can't treat something when you don't really know what's going on, knowledge is power. If you love her help her by encouraging her to get some answers. Good Luck!

Answer 3

The only answer I feel, is to get a true diagnosis. There are so many other things that could be going on. It could even be a hormonal imbalance, so it's important to get this checked out. This is what it turned out to be for me. I feel the best support you can give her is to work closely with someone who can help her through whatever treatment she needs. If untreated, it can cause her self esteem and life to whither away, as her relationships begin to suffer and life seems to fall apart. If this is what she has, it doesn't get better without specialized treatment. This could very well include medication to stablize her. ..she should feel the difference as if between night and day if she truly is bipolar. It's not fair to her to self diagnose though, because she may not be treating herself with a productive treatment. There may also be other things contributing to this such as her home environment, and relationships with others who may not understand her, to much stress dealing with life, and being around those who may not support her in the many areas of her life that need supporting. Diet plays a big role too. Staying away from things like wheat, sugar, dairy, or other things that could be compromising her health, well being, and making her very tired, and unable to cope with the many stresses that bombard us in our lives. I believe that mood disorders like this, if it does happen to be emotional illness, can actually begin earlier in life, in a disruptive, unsupprtive or unpredictable home environment, leaving an impression on the nervous system, and appearing more and more as the person has to deal with more and more stresses in life. It can be treated with some kind of medication if needed and supported with a positive and stable environment that encourages her working closely with someone professional who is specialized in caring for her important needs in this way. Knowledge is the best way to be empowered through this!

Answer 4

If I did not know that you are new to this problem, I would scream at you. Do you not know that if she is not treated, she will get worse? If she gets treatment, she will be a different person. Please do not get mad at this question but it must be asked and you must think before you answer. Are you a control freak? Do you tell her what to do all of the time? You have just as much of a problem as she does and maybe more. Bipolar individuals must be put on medications. They need their significant other to be there encouraging them. They only take meds until they feel better and most stop taking meds at that point. She needs somebody who cares enough to encourage her and make sure she takes her meds every day without hesitation. If you cannot help her, please get out. I have seen so many cases like yours and you will only hurt her more if you do not change your way of thinking. Please help her.

Answer 5

I'm bipolar and self diagnosis isn't a good measurement, you need to convince her to see a therapist. Try going to the NIH website and show her if that really is the problem how treatable it is. With a good medication regiment she can lead a full and mostly normal life, I was diagnosed in 1989 and after I Began treatment I did a lot better, takes awhile for each individual to find the rights meds for them but it can be treated in almost all cases, I own my own business now, am raising 3 great kids and have a solid marriage thanks to treatment.
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/healthinformation/bipolarmenu.cfm

Answer 6

Understanding Mood Disorders
- Tormented Minds
- Living With a Mood Disorder
- Hope for Sufferers
- How Others Can Help
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/1/8/article_01.htm

When Someone You Love Has a Mental Disorder ...
- Recognize symptoms.
- Become informed. - Pursure treatment.
- Encourage the sufferer to seek help.
- Avoid placing blame.
- Have realistic expectations.
- Stay Connected.
- Consider the needs of other family members.
- Promote good health practices.
- Take care of yourself.
- Some Warning Signs of Mental Disorders.
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/9/8/article_01.htm

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Answer 7

I would get her on a raw food diet. Tell her to avoid, "grains, beans, dairy, legumes, squashes and refined sugars". The best food for her to eat are: fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, and eggs. Of course, quality matters. NOW has a good trace mineral supplement that should mellow her out. Also, if you want to spend more, get her the "orignal crystal himalayan mineral salt".

Avoid most vitamins though, and let her get most minerals from her food.

Quality of food also matters. Organic is best. Also, mineral water is better than tap water.

Answer 8

If she does get diagnosed at least you would have all the questions that you are asking, answered by a doctor or a specialist, who know what they are talking about. You should not be asking amateurs about this.

Answer 9

well seeing a professional might be the best thing for her, because bipolar people can do some crazy stuff if they're not on medication for it.

Answer 10

She is depressed because of people, things and places. Take her to church and tell her to read her Bible..Jesus healed a few people like her and he is still doing it today. It is a spirit that has attached itself to her and the more she entertains it the longer it will stay..she has to denounce all authority that it has over her. She needs to know that man (people) cannot make her happy, happiness has to come from the inside..not based on things..