So there is this guy that I like and he likes me but he lives too far away!! He says that when he is in town we can date but when he is gone we are just friends!! I don't know if i should wait until he comes into town or if i should just tell him you have me as a girlfriend or a friend. i meen right now i am not liking anyone else but what if i do and what if we start dating would that be breaking his heart?
2007-02-05 16:10:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to tell this guy that if you are friends when he is gone, then you are friends always. Stay friends with him, but do yourself a favor, & quit being the one shoved to the back burner. Find someone that you can have contact with as boyfriend & girlfriend all the time, & not just part time.
2007-02-05 16:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by sis_jk27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a guy like me. I'm sure he is not serious with you 'coz he just wants you for a date when he is in town, and friends when he is away. Come on, don't wait for him. Find guys worthy of your time. Don't think of the time you spent together but instead, think of the senseless time you'll be waiting for him when he doesn't deserve so. It's not even a long distance relationship in the first place. He might say you broke his heart when he discovers you have found someone, but in reality NO. Hey, look ahead, someone better is waiting along the way.
2007-02-06 00:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by racelamor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl just Enjoy him when he is in town and be friends when he's not.I have a guy that lives on the other side of the world and when he is in town we hook up but when he goes home we are friends we e-mail and talk on the phone. I don't think you will break his heart if you find some one BUT if you do you need to tell him right away.
2007-02-06 00:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by notes from an angry white chic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need him for a friend only he will be breaking your heart long distance is to hard and besides you are human how do you turn your heart on when he is in town and off when he is gone it is not going to work out for either of you at all.
2007-02-06 00:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His heart isn't going to be breaking if he only wants to date you when he is in town. There is nothing wrong with that as long as it is okay with you. Personally I would be fine with the just dating as long as he were aware that you will date whomever you wish. He could just as easily meet someone else when he is back at home. If you need it to be girlfriend or friend and nothing more, you need to tell him that.
2007-02-06 00:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet! So, when he's in town, you'll get some action, and when he's not, you can see other people, some of whom you'll have sex with, but probably a lot of other cool people with whom you won't. Sounds like a good deal to me -- I mean, do you want to hang out with him every single night, even when he's doing his laundry or just sitting around his apartment in his boxers watching porn, a beer in his left hand and something else in his right? C'mon, girls -- if the boys are hot for you, they certainly don't want to go blouse shopping with you or hang out in the foyer while you get a mani / pedi. Save that rubbish for your girlfriends -- call the boy only when you need a good, hard thrashing.
2007-02-06 00:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by tjacobmill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'll start by saying I'm deeply sorry. I know how you feel, I'm in the same situation...well, mine with a girl...and I ended up telling her it's one way or the other...either we're dating or we aren't. It makes it easier on both of you, and let's you know where you really stand. Long distance relationships are hard, yes, but not completely impossible. I think you're best bet is to just tell him...one or the other. You'll find you're better off in the long run. If you would like more info or insight, email me at Dante_The_Grave@hotmail.com, and best of luck to you.
2007-02-06 00:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by hotstar424 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about?
It is obvious you are a friend!
If you were his girlfriend in the truest sense of the world, he would present you as such when you are in town.
Stop giving him the benefit of a doubt. There is absolutely NO BENEFIT in doubt!
You don't need to wait for him at all. You need to recognize that you are "a friend with benefits" and act accordingly. If you hate the title, ditch him. If you are cool with the label, then take care of business when you meet him in his neck of the woods, or vice versa.
2007-02-06 00:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's decision time. He has to makeup his mind. you are either boyfriend/girlfriend or you are friends. having it both ways allows for him to get involved with someone else and give the other girl the same situation. it's not fair because it doesn't allow you to explore a romantic relationship with someone who is willing to make a commitment. Get a commitment from him or cut him loose
2007-02-06 00:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by Media Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him back, make it long distance. Just like a friend who moves. You dont want to give her up so you make the best of it. He will see you once and a while. So just make sure you keep your end clean (as in no cheating, flirting, ect.), it should be fine!! Good Luck and Happy Valentines Day!!!!!!!
2007-02-06 00:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋