okay so me and my husband are trying to have a baby did it ever scare you that you would not be a good mom. Is it a common fear????
2007-02-05 16:08:56 · 11 answers · asked by nicole51304 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
do the mother instincts really kick in its kinda scary!!!
2007-02-05 16:16:04 · update #1
Yep, still does. You do your best. As long as he/she is happy and healthy, you're the best mom.
2007-02-05 16:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no miracale knowledge that you get after you give birth to the baby. (boy I wish there was) And yes it is a common fear. Very common in 1st time mothers.
I had the same fear but it slowly diminisses after a while because you realize that you can do this. It's scary at 1st because this is your child that you have to take care of and no amount of baby books can actually guide you through step by step of the care of your child because everyone of them is diffrent.
Now the mommy instinct you are taking about does kick in I guess you can say. Once you have been around your baby enough you can actually tell the diffrence between the cries. Don't expect these things to happen over night.
I am sure you will be a good mom. I know that because you are worring about wiether you will be a good one or not. If you didn't care for your baby then you wouldn't be worried about it. You already have the mommy instinct :D
All you can do is just take things day by day. You will realize that you are a great mommy and even though you will still have your doubts. My son who is now 2 yrs old is learning to talk and when He tells me he loves me I know that I have been a good mommy :)
"It takes only a moment in time to be a mother, But it takes a lifetime to be a mommy." ^_^
Just believe in yourself and you will be great. We all make mistakes such as putting the diaper on wrong. Not getting the buttons alined on the onesie right. And sometimes they baby just wants to be held by someone else. Don't look at these things as failures because they aren't. It happens to everyone and even though the baby wants someone else to hold her. When she wants to be craddled she will want to come back to you. :)
2007-02-05 16:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by Roe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a mother of 6.All boys.There is no instuctions with these kids.My youngest is 2 and my oldest is 17.There is always room to learn something new when it comes to raising a kid.I dont ever worry about not being a good mom but I do always hope to find the right solution to a problem.
2007-02-05 16:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely--we weren't even sure we were going to have children when we got married since we were both the babies of our families. After four years of marriage, the baby bug bit us both- wow that's a tongue twister, and voila' instant mother instincts- I nursed both my girls -- and mothering came natural because I was 28 when my first child was born and 31 for the second, so with age came wisdom in my case ........good luck to you and your husband--it's easier than you think-- if you doubt it, just look at animals, it's instinct!
2007-02-05 16:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very common to think that you will not be a good mother but that is what will make you a great mother because you will always be looking out for the best interest of your child.
2007-02-05 16:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very common. Knowing how or what to do to be a good mom comes with practice but as soon as you see that little face, it all comes to you about how you will raise them to be the best they can be.
2007-02-05 16:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by mama3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a common fear but remember to set boundries and stick to them, dont give in, parenting is all about consistancy right from the get go. your kids will still show you love the same way you love them.
do that and youll be good, besides those how to parent books are a bunch of B.S.
2007-02-05 16:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by frank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i am 40 weeks pregnant and omg i am so afraid that i wont be a good mom...i think it is a common fear
2007-02-05 16:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience as a mother is different, I wasn't scared i was petrified,I thought it would be the hardest thing in the world!...but when i had my son,I learned that "he" wasn't the only one getting "taught" or the only one "learning",...I was getting "taught" and "learning", as well!!!....I find that to be...the best part of being a Mother, "Learning Together"
Good Luck
2007-02-05 16:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel this is common problem coz i was also used to thought like this but when you will have baby, when you see and hold your baby you will automatically began to love and care him. nothing can compare to you and your babys relationship so no need to worry about.
2007-02-05 16:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Babita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a common fear. Don't worry, you'll be just fine!
2007-02-05 16:11:51 · answer #11 · answered by odandme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋