This is for all the mama's out there!!!!?

Question

Okay so im a 19 yr old single mom my child is 2 and i was just wanting to know if im the only mother out there that feels this way.... I love my baby more than i thought i could ever love anyone in my life, but i get so furstrated and it makes me feel so bad...i feel like the worst mom ever when i get those emotions. I just want to know if its okay to feel that way if im the only one....i would never EVER lay a hand on my child just to be clear!!! But somethimes i feel like im even letting him down as a mother, i'll tell you what this has got to be the hardest job ever!!!

Answer 1

Don't worry you are doing your best. Remember, an instruction manual specifically for your child did not pop out your stomach when he/she was born. We learn from others and do the best we can. Those feelings are normal.

Answer 2

Its easy to get frustrated, its how you deal with it that matters most. Kids can be the most wonderful thing on earth, but there are times, i think any mother will tell you, that you just dont know what to do. What i try to do when i feel overwhelmed or frustrated, is i try to take a 5 minute breather....walk out of the room so long as the kids are not going to injure themselves, or find something to get into. I take my few minutes to breath and calm down. Don't feel bad!!!! You are doing the best you can do. Thats all you can do is a parent is try your hardest. I'm not a single parent, but my husband is in the Army and is away ALOT....its during those times i feel the worst. It is hard, and i couldnt imagine doing it alone all the time. Just try to remember, those feelings are normal. Just like happiness, sadness, its just another emotion....you aren't a bad mom for feeling overwhelmed or frustrated at times!!

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel. I guess as parents we have our good days and our bad days like everything else. When my son behaves, we have a great day, go out, do lots of fun things. But on his off days (Which seem to be quite a lot lately) were stuck in with his screaming tantrums. At the end of the night when hes sleeping i feel so guilty. I think to myself 'I wish we could have done something today but instead my son was screaming for most of the day because he couldn't get what he wanted. I was so exhausted and just couldn't wait till it was his bedtI'me.'
So yeah i know how you feel. I am also a single mother to a 2 year old and im due baby number 2 next week. Although my children's dad is around and sees him lots, he doesn't take him on his own. Being a parent is the hardest job around and doign it on your own is even harder.

*hugs* if you ever need to chat im here. Leanne

Answer 4

It is a perfectly normal feeling. We all want the best for our children. Even when trying to do our best we will find our self questioning if we are doing right? Sometimes it gets very frustrating. I think the older we get the more relaxed we get. At least that is how it is for me. I used to get very upset over the littlest thing but learned overtime, it wasn't important enough to get upset about. I have learned if it is perfect it can't be mine and I like it that way. I get real nervous if something does seem to be perfect because I wonder what will go wrong then. I know that sounds crazy, but true. My mom gave us a very pretty coffee maker, it was stainless steel and just gorgeous. The first time we used it, we realized the lid did not fit tight and popped up and down while the coffee perked. My husband and I looked at each other and at the same time said if it was perfect it wouldn't be ours. We really liked that coffee pot just the way it was. Learn to take life that way, you will be much happier.

Answer 5

Honey you are NOT the only one. This happens to most every mother at some point. Regardless of your situation, there will always be something that you can't give your child, and that's what makes you feel that way. You are an awesome mom even if only for being worried that you are letting him down, you aren't. Children are complex creatures with simple needs. They need your love, it is obvious that your child has that. Just protect and love him and everything will be fine :)

Answer 6

Noone said it was easy. Some days I look at my kids and wonder how screwed up I'll make them, some days I know they'll be ok. But I know I'm doing my best. As long as your child is happy and healthy, you know you're doing a good job. It can be frustrating to be a mom, and being single to that, it tops the cake there. Just hang in there and be sure to get "adult" time in sometime too. Even if it means the child playing by his/her self for a bit, just so you can recoup. It does get better, then worse, then better.

Answer 7

Well - I was single when my child was 2 - for me, it took a lot of family support because I had to leave my husband after 6 1/2 years because of verbal abuse and when he started taking it out on my child - that was it. I went back home with mom and dad with my 2 year old and that was at the point where he was having tantrums & not sleeping at night. I did wake up one night and felt like choking him but I did have my mom and dad there to help me. When you have to be both mom and dad, it is really hard but trust me, they will NEVER forget what you did for them when they grow up. My son is 22 now and he found out on his own who is the true parent and who was the one who "put on an act" to be a father. He found this out on his own, I didn't reallly tell him much about his father and the way he treated us. It is a hard job, but keep your head up, you are a strong woman and always remember that you are taking on a tremendous job, but a job that God gave us women to be so strong for our children. These feelings you have - they are normal, and they will pass with time. God bless and much love to someone who can really relate - D.

Answer 8

i am 22 and i have a 2 year old, and i must say that i get and feel the same way. When i am trying to make dinner for him or do my homework or study and he pushes his way into being the center of my attention i get frustrated also. But let me just say this, your baby is a blessing and the fact that at 17 you didn't have an abortion makes you one of the best moms anyone could have =)

Answer 9

Welcome to the club! I don't know a single mom who hasn't felt that way. If they deny it, they are lying. I'm taking a class in parenting 3 to 5 year olds right now called "Pushing the Limits". It's about how to refrain from flinging your child into the nearest pool. Kidding. It's about how to handle tantrums, aggressive behavior, and the like. I reccommend finding a playgroup or mommies group where you can talk about your challenges and joys with other moms, like www.meetup.com. It's SO worth it.

Answer 10

That is normal to feel that way and it does not make you a bad mother. when your child is taking a nap, take time out for yourself and relax, take a bath and soak. everything will be fine. and its not easy raising a child, and as long as you love your child, and show him how much you care, you will never let him down.