My friend Jeremy died a few years ago. He was in the Navy and we were dating. I broke up with him because my feelings for him weren't as strong as they should have been. He got upset and went AWOL (abscense without leave) and was beaten to death a few weeks later, which was ironic because he was a boxer. I feel responsible for his death to this day and I miss him so much. He was buried with my military dog tags in his hand.
I had a dream about him the other night, that I was in a house and I looked out the window and there were some guy friends of mine (none of them know each other in real life, but they knew each other in the dream) in the driveway looking at a new car. The house seemed pretty upscale. Well Jeremy was there looking at the car with the others, but looked up and saw me in the window. He came inside and just held me without saying anything. And I started crying and then I told him, "I thought you were dead, Jeremy. They told me you died." Then I woke up.
2007-02-05 15:54:38 · 13 answers · asked by Maria Isabel 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Jeremy does not blame you for his death. The new car represents a new lease on life that you will have when you forgive yourself, and give yourself permission to love again.
2007-02-05 15:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
What matters more then anything else is how the dream made you feel, more then anything else.
Dream dictionaries can help, to identify symbols (such as the car, or the house), but the overall feeling is what you most need to keep in mind.
In most all my dreams, I'm searching for something- and that's how I feel most in life. I'm always looking, looking for something, anything.
You could look at it this way, though..
In the dream, your friends are looking at material things. You are looking at the world. Jeremy is looking at you. And here you are, still in this plane, this physical place (the house); Jeremy isn't (on "the outside", the afterlife). Perhaps his coming inside the house, and holding you, is his only way of trying to tell you he's okay- that it's okay, that he wants you to be healthy, and happy, and move on.
But I don't have much experience in translating dreams, I just hope this helps at least a little. :-)
2007-02-05 16:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by Winter Paws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are people around you who care about you and see your situation. They don't have to know each other, but they all know you.
Jeremy does too.
You're inside while everyone else is outside. You're in yourself, a bit introverted, and everyone else is on the outside with a little extrospection. You're watching the world with you apart from it.
And then Jeremy comes inside.
At least, that's what I get from the dream.
I will say though that the best way to interpret your dreams are on your own. Different symbols mean different things for different people. What do you think it means? Were they sad tears or happy tears? The people looking at the car -- what sort of mood were they in?
But, my advice on what your dream seems to be telling you -- don't shy away from people who care about you.
2007-02-05 16:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss and the guilt you feel. You "shouldn't" have felt more than you did when you broke up, sweetheart. You felt what you felt. His actions were his own.
As to your dream: The house is your mind, looking out a window is the quality/quantity of your perception. Was the window small, clear, dirty, etc.?
A car represents someone's path. If it is your car, it means you are ready to pursue or start on a new path.
Him seeing you at the window and coming to you to comfort you truly was him visiting you. Our loved ones that have passed over often visit us in dreams so that we can resolve unsaid issues and heal.
It seems that your friends all feel it's time for you to "move on" in some way, and Jeremy is encouraging you, and is with you while you do it.
Hope this helps!
2007-02-05 16:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by dorkmobile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm guessing (and this would look extraordinary) that you're waiting to enter a courting with a sparkling human being. There are really some those which have an interest in you, yet you're conserving your distance. The upscale living house exhibits that you've an pastime in something everlasting and high quality fairly than a passing fling. The loving portion of you that you idea had died with Jeremy is alive and nicely. Jeremy known your readiness to enter the subsequent level on your existence and he got here to you to provide you his blessing. stay nicely
2016-11-02 11:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a dream interpreter, but first.. YOU are NOT the reason your ex boyfriend got murdered. You are NOT the reason he went AWOL, there had to be other reasons unbeknown to you.
Your sub-conscience is playing with your conscience. Have you ever thought about seeking counsel on this? Not saying you are crazy or anything like that. But, it might help if you go talk to a professional, and not seek opinions here on line.
You feel "guilty" because this took place a few weeks after you broke up with him. You need to talk to someone face to face that can help you overcome this "guilt". A guilt that is NOT yours to cling to. YOU are NOT the reason for his death. Who is responsible for the death of your ex boyfriend .. are those who beat him to death.
2007-02-05 16:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are staying inside yourself where you think it is safe. Others are noticing the potential of your life. Jeremy also notices.
Jeremy is telling you to forgive yourself. You had nothing to do with his death. Get in that shinny new car of yours and move on with your life. Be all that you can be. Live well. He is fine and in a better place. Let him go.
God bless.
2007-02-05 16:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will take a wild stab at it. The dream is for you so you may not get anything more from my answer then to know what it is not. (Disclaimer in place) Here we go.
One of two things.
1. You are so upset by this deal that your own subconscious is trying to calm you down and make everything OK.
2. Jeremy is trying to calm you down and make everything OK.
2007-02-05 16:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dreaminterpreter.com
Personally I don't think dreams mean anything unless they help you remember something. Because if you believe that what you dream will happen it is sort of like believing all the dumb psychic stuff.
2007-02-05 15:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Metal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is going to keep appearing to you. this isn't about guilt, but you are intuitive and you know this.
so just accept that you will be seeing him for the next few years in your life but don't feel guilty.
he doesn't blame you. you know this.
you just wants absolution.
it's going to take time.
give him absolution and uncondtitional love, but it doesn't mean you can't be moving on during the mean time..
2007-02-05 15:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by hairy pouter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋