Okay this isn't so much a question but more like advice....?

Question

I really need some advice on surving a long distance relationship...i love this guy so much and no doubt im with him for the long run but its hard you know?...so if anyone can give me tips and advice i would be very thankfull

Answer 1

did you know him before it became long distance, or has it always been long distance? How often do you get to see him, if at all?

I've been in a long distance r-ship for almost 4 years because I go to school 3 hours away from my fiance. I get to see him every two weeks, for only a day. We make sure we talk to each other everyday, we don't argue b/c that will just make it worse... you just have to have a lot of trust and patience. And of course you'll miss him like crazy, but if you both can stick through with it, it will pay off in the end.

Answer 2

I asked a question about this late last year. I have been in a ldr since 12/05. Although we broke up in 7/06 I still say I am in it, because I am not a quitter. Even though our relationship has evolved into something else it still takes work and needs attention.

One thing I recommend is set goal dates to see each other. Without this all you have really is a glorified pen pal. My ldl and I met within 2months of our online intro, but did not have a financial game plan on how to sustain the relationship. By the time the 2nd meeting was in stone (6months after the 1st !!), the real world of bills, jobs, responsibility and stress took over. We ended it before the trip could be taken.

Hence the difficulty letting go. Have the talk up front. Are you dating other people? Only seeing each other exclusively? Is this a don't ask don't tell? How far away are you? Can the trip be taken every weekend or so by car? If so, then you may have it easier than those needed air for transportation.

Set a date for talking about the relocation. Not necessarily moving date. But a date where you can come to the table with your ideas. Don't necessarily start talking about whos moving where now. In one or two years, anything can change.

How and when will you communicate? Will fridays at 8pm be your "night"? Do you expect do receive some type of contact daily, weekly? This is important because if you get used to a certain standard and it stops, then you will automatically assume "uhoh somethings wrong". When you are in town, a simple driveby of the house or job will let you know they aren't laying in a ditch. Maybe you have a date the next day and will wait til then to worry. But out of town all you have is text,email, phone. This is another thing that killed my ldr. I jumped the gun whenever our communication did not fit the norm. And thought we were over, something bad had happened, or he was mad at me. He took that as I am jealous possessive or jumping to conclusions. I did not think that at all. But after 3-4 times he had his doubts.

Like enterprise rent a car, never overpromise always overdeliver. If you are going to call at 7pm then be picking up the phone at 659. Don't say you will be there next month, if you are looking at your account and thinking ramen noodles here I come. And this holds true for both sides. Honesty, trust, respect will be what decides the success of your ldr. Good luck to you both.

Answer 3

Stay strong and dont give up. This is a test to see how strong your love is for each other. If it is strong enough and you two have the will, you will make it through. To be in a relationship for the long run you dont have to see each other each day. I see my girlfriend once or twice a week and talk to her for an hour or less on the phone and we have been dating for nearly 7 months now. So just stay strong and keep your head up and it will work out! I hope it does! Good luck with it! =)

Answer 4

Someone would probably need more information to help you with this such as , how long have you been seeing him and what is making you question the long distance. It appears to me that I am reading a little insecurity in your request for answers. If I were you, I would relax and spend quality time with my guy, enjoy your moments and let the future, long distance, etc. take care of itself. Life and situations always have a way of working themselves out.

Answer 5

I was in a long distance realationship and we're not together now but not because of distance. We're still good friends. One thing that we did for each other is we wrote lists to each other that stated "100 Reasons" and they were all reasons why we loved and adored each other.
Another thing is we made sure to mke time and call each other.
You can also write letters, it's always nice to recieve something hand written by the person you love.
Oh ans think of all the personal touches of your relationship. For example I saved things from our dates for three years and when he left I mailed him some of those things to remind him of us.

Good luck, it's hard but it's possible.

Answer 6

the first thing is trust between both of you. if you have a strong enough relationship distance should be no problem as long as you communicate all the time. have him visit you and you can visit him. if its to far for both of you meet half way.

Answer 7

long distance relationship?.....honey long distance relationship will never work out...no matter how you two fight for it but it wont...i been through that on my past....n it didnt work out

Answer 8

when can/will you go see him/her?