why is it???

Question

why is it that when my parents o something wrong it's shruged off but when I do something that's not that bad. people just start freaking out.

let me start from the beginning. my dad yells down the stares what I thought at the time to be get of the phone. so I get off the phone and yell that I was off.

an hour later my dad yells angrily. wheres thew phone. I grab the phone and head up stares. I get yelled at after explaining that I misheard them. then I go downstairs. then my mom yells wheres the upstairs phone. I walk upstairs and point out the phone I had brought. they fuse at me some more an finally just tell me to leave.

is it just me or was all that unnecessary

I forgot to ad that my mom had lost the phone and she din't get yelled at.

Answer 1

Yes, it was unnecessary. I cannot say why it happens, though, because most families are different.

I am a parent of a 12-year-old son, and not too long ago he knocked over a huge glass of Coke. I don't yell, but I was upset with him and huffed around about it for longer than necessary. A couple of days later, I knocked over a full glass and proceeded to calmly get a towel and clean it up like it was no big deal. That was an eye-opener for me. I have no idea how many times I have done that, but it just must be hurtful to be on the receiving end of such stupid criticism. I decided that was the last time that I would make such a difference over the same type of accident. Frankly, I was ashamed. I have always held the belief that kids are people too and should always be treated fairly, just as adults want to be treated fairly. I thought I always practiced my belief, until that moment. I wondered how many times, on the little things, that I didn't live up to my belief.

So, if it's any consolation, I'm a parent that made that same mistake, recognized it, corrected it, and apologized to my son.

Take care.

Answer 2

Yup. Families: you can't live with them and you can't live without them. Happens all the time at our house. The parents are getting hard of hearing, the son is 21, so the worst is over (it was worse in his teens). If we treated our families as well as we treat strangers, then we'd all be much happier, but hardly anybody does. Actually, the mother has a mentor who is urging her to try harder, and it IS much pleasanter and it rubs off on each other. It pays off when you have somewhere to go for Christmas so don't burn your bridges behind you. Besides, when you get older, you can assert yourself and insist on being treated with the dignity of an adult (if you take the garbage out without being asked). It works in alot of families.

Answer 3

Yes, that was all unnecessary. Your parents are taking their frustrations out on you, and I think that's wrong. I also think that they are angry about something, and that that something has nothing to do with you or the phone. You're just a convenient scapegoat. Stay out of their way so they can scream at the dog, the wall or each other, anything but you.

Answer 4

Yes that was unnecesary. Because adults have nothing to punish them unless they REALLY screwed up, all they can do is forget about it. But since you are young, they want u 2 learn for your mistakes. It may seem unreasonable now, but you will be 18 soon enouh!!! Happy Valentines Day!

Answer 5

lack of communication mabey??? Parents dont like to yell at their children (i know I dont) mabey ther was something that wasnt comunicated. I take it you dont have a pager on the charger of the phones. ild suggest to your parents that you get new phones that have a pger on the main unit. that way there isnt so much yelling.

Answer 6

Are you their son or the phone fetcher? I would talk to them and ask them to get a phone for the upstairs.

Answer 7

They're trying to teach you proper and polite behavior. But they're being too heavy-handed and impatient about it, a mistake most parents make. They aren't trying to teach each other proper and polite behavior: they know it's too late for that. You're their only hope.

Answer 8

It wasnt you all of that was definetly unnecessary

Answer 9

you guys need to head to walmart and by anotherphone.

Answer 10

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