Motocross...my youngest son 7 loves to ride motocross but.......?

Question

My youngest son age 7 loves to ride dirtbikes and races often, I love to watch a go to almost all of his races with my new wife and kids. however at times it bothers me that his step dad got him involved with riding and that when I am at his races I feel like that is him and my son's deal and he loves it so much that sometimes i also feel I cant offer something to top that with me. I get along great with the ex and the step dad but still have these feelings. also I think I hold back true excitement towards my son at his races because i dont want toshow the step dad that i like it. It is dfficult watching a relationship like that develop with the step dad. just wondering if anyone else is dealing with these feelings or if someone can help me to get rid of these feelings.

Answer 1

You sound like you really love your son but to be perfectly honest, you're letting your pride get in the way of this whole situation. All your son really wants is for YOU to share this experience w/ him. Please don't stop going to his races and quit worrying that you can't top the stepdad. Nobody and I mean nobody can ever take your place with him unless YOU permit it. Be very glad and thankful that your son has a good stepdad. You wouldn't want the opposite would you? Love is a very funny thing. It grows exponentially, by that I mean because your son has a loving relationship w/ you, he is able to continue developing loving relationships with others in spite of a split between you and his mother. If you and your son didn't have a good relationship it might be a lot harder for your young son to learn to trust and love others ( a stepdad or even a future wife) Credit yourself with helping your son develop into a well rounded young man because you had the courage to 'share' him w/ others. Believe me, as he grows and matures this will not be lost on him and will continue to influence his relationship with his own children. Good Luck. Count your blessings. Sounds like your doing a great job w/ only a few doubts (but all parents have them we just have to ignore them)

Answer 2

I think your feelings are natural, I too have had these feelings.I want my children to live their dreams and enjoy life. And if that means someone else backing them in this, well your child only benefits from this. Sure step dad might have gotten your son started but you are and always will be, his "Superman", rather you are at the events or just the 2 of you! Be glad his step dad cares, your ex wife could have found a spouse that did not care or worse and he could be unhappy at home or you could be worrying about him all the time. So the best way to deal with it is to realize, your son is having the time of his life, but you are the biggest part of his life! For his step dad to not to be at one of his races, would probably not bother him, but it may crush him to know you were not there. And I bet when he gets to a race,first thing he is doing is making sure you are there to see him! That is what my kids did. One of mine actually got sick when dad did not show up!

Answer 3

Motocross is fun, both of my girls ride, but I refuse to let them race.

Think of it this way, as long as your son is happy, that should be it. He's bound to develop a relationship with his step dad. It's only natural. But he knows your daddy, you were his before this man came into his life. Would you rather he hate his step dad and be miserable? I don't think you would. Don't let your feelings interfere with showing your son how proud you are of him. That could hurt things too. You do your special things with him when he's alone with you. Find a sport the two of you can take up together. But be proud and supportive of him, he needs it and you'll be happy too. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

i think you got to be there no mater what love doesn't have anything to do with what you buy for your children but as long as you support what ther are interested in and doing. you cant replace his father but you can always be there for him.