question about son going to daycare?

Question

my little boy has had to start going to daycare (cause of death in family)..he has been going for couple of months now but in the past 2 weeks (about) he has came home with "crash" reports 2 different times where a little girl in his class bit him and this one today she scratched his eye (really bad). i dont know what if anything the teachers done today but but before they just talked to the child (she is less than 2 i know) telling her not to bite and such..what can i do, im tired of my son being bit and hurt. and i dont want him to learn to bit (he'll do that soon enough, im sure)!!
thanks

i have talked to his teachers about the child bitting him, i have not talked to the parents, b/c i work 2 jobs while my husband is overseas i usually get to drop my son off at day care and the other child hasnt arrived yet most of the time. i am discussing his eye with his teachers in the morning..i am very upset about that. this is his third "accident" in about 2 weeks..i think is to often to get hurt!

the teachers did not point fingers when my son came home with his reports...but he is the only boy in his class (thats why i said she) and when he first started one of the teachers made a comment about one of the girls in the class is the bitter and that she has bit every child in the class already. thats also why i said that i havent spoke with the parentS...my son is usually the first one at school.

Answer 1

The preschool is being irresponsible. Demand that something be done. That is what we pay for. I am also a teacher and I would never allow such things to happen. I know that she doesn't understand, but the teacher does. He/She must keep aggressive children under constant supervision.

Answer 2

Are you a sahm? I ask by using fact which you point out conserving him abode. while you're, wait a 300 and sixty 5 days and take a inspect nursery college (maximum are 2 days a week for 2.5 hrs) and then pre-ok the subsequent 300 and sixty 5 days (many colleges have 3 or 5 day classes for 2.5 hrs), that way he will nevertheless get the socialization and early adolescence coaching, yet he additionally gets the plenty needed time with mommy. appropriate is for a newborn to be abode with a discern if achieveable, see you later as he's interacting with different babies by using play dates, siblings, etc. you additionally can try passing it slow interior the daycare. I somewhat have hear that youngsters tend to do extra advantageous in college (as a effect daycare) whilst the discern volunteers and makes a presence interior the faculty room. the newborn sees that the discern is an element of the coaching and needs to do nicely to make you proud. you may desire to easily spend some hours there the 1st first weeks (possibly much less would be needed) and he can advance into acquainted with this methodology with you there.

Answer 3

Bullys start out so early what a shame you need to ask to speak to the little girls mom so you can get a better feeling of how the little girl is being treated at home. The daycare more than likely spoke to the mother b/c they also like grade school have 0 tolerance for abuse.Poor little guy tell the teacher your feelings that you have 0 tolerance for your child being abused in a establishment that is suppose to be the caretaker for your child when you are not there. He is suppose to learn positive things not negative things. Than the system faults the parent when your kid does wrong and points the finger at you.

Answer 4

I have been an infant-toddler teacher for over four 1/2 years, and also the parent of a biter. Biting is a normal devleopmental milestone that several children go through. The center should have this child being "shaddowed" though by a staff member at all times. They should be teaching her that it is not okay to bite, and redirecting her....maybe putting her in time out depending on her development. At this age there is not much more they can do. They should not have even told you which child bit her due to confidentiality reasons!

Answer 5

this can be hard. your first instinct may be that the caregivers arent paying good enough attention to the kids, but unless there is one caregiver to every child, things like these cant always be prevented. kids do unpredictable things sometimes. the caregiver is not allowed to spank the other child for doing these things, and it would be wrong if they did, especially if the child is younger than 2, she doesnt understand that she is inflicting pain on the other person, she just knows that she gets a response from it. i am sure that they have discussed the problem with the parent of the child. really that is about all they can do. if it really bothers you, maybe think about putting him in a different daycare and see how he does there.

Answer 6

I know how hard it is to see your child get hurt. It stinks. However, while attending day care, it's impossible for him to not ever get a little hurt by another child. That being said, him getting hurt should not be a regular occurance either! Once in a while, yes, very often, NO! I would discuss the situation with the teacher and tell her your concerns...If this becomes a regular occurance, then I would seek other child care. Good luck

Answer 7

It is always difficult putting your child into day care. I understand your fear. I work in a school that has a preschool where you do see this happening. Children learn to be a bully, to be demanding, to scare others- at an early age.
Have you communicated your concerns with the administration? And have they talked to the other child's parents? If the administration doesn't do anything, I would suggest you move your child. He will only be a child once, and he sounds so sweet. I would prefer him to not be in an environment that doesn't care. Good luck. You're a wonderful father!

Answer 8

You are being overprotective. Kids get hurt when they are playing in group settings. It's just something that happens. Here's a story from my own experience.

My daughter came home from day care and told me that another kid pushed her. I asked her about it, and she did not seem too upset. I did not worry about it too much. She came home a couple days later and said the same thing. I decided that if if happened again, I was going to go in and let the teacher have a piece of my mind.

Two days later, I pick up my daughter and she is covered in dirt and has a giant scrape on the side of her leg. I ask her what happened, and she told me the same kid pushed her again.

I skip the teacher and go right to the director. The director was livid that something like this happened and calls the teacher in.

The teacher tells us what really happened. My daughter was being pushed on a tricycle type toy. The boy was pushing her, on the tricycle, around the playground. This specific day, he was pushing her too fast and tipped the tricycle.

There was nothing malicious going on. They were just playing like kids play.

Answer 9

The children are very young and need to learn how to behave. It doesn't mean this child is a bad child. She's simply in need of some training. If you cannot tolerate the wait, how about interviewing with a different daycare center?

Answer 10

I had the same thing happen with my son. I told the day care that i want him in a different room than the child who is hurting him This child would seriously ONLY do bad things to my son he was being victimized. Then the kid eventually got kicked out. ask the daycare what there policy is some are 2 warnings then timeout then kicked out. just like school. if they don't follow there policy then i suggest changing his daycare.