i am a recent born agian christian and my husband is not. his family never went to church or talked about religion. He asks me questions and I try to answer them the best i can. but i am having a hard time with one, how do you know that God is real? I try telling his that it all comes down to blind faith. I go to church on a regular basis and just became a member of lifechurch.tv tonight. I try to read the bible often and i pray alot. He is a wonderful human being and a loving a caring husband. I just want him to know the glory of God and for him to saved.
2007-02-05 15:29:42 · 39 answers · asked by ? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think all Christians can relate to what you're going through. Once I was saved, I wanted nothing more than for all my family and friends to have the same hope and joy that I had found in Christ. So I know your heart must be aching for your husband to be saved too.
The good news is that God knows all the desires of our hearts, and just as the two of you are united as one flesh in marriage, God also wants you both united in spirit, in Christ so that you can rejoice in and serve Him together. The best thing you can do is to be the wife God wants you to be because in doing this, you are honoring God. In 1 Peter 3, we are told that by doing this, an unbelieving husband may be won over by the godly behavior of his wife. So, just continue to show him Christ-like love in your actions and words.
Another thing you can do is pray. Pray that God will reveal Himself to your husband and pray that God will show you how to show your husband His love. All throughout the Bible we are told that God listens to the prayers of the righteous. Prayer is powerful. My brother, who was a practicing Wiccan who wanted nothing to do with God when I first became a Christian, later accepted Christ as his Savior. All I did was pray for him constantly, try to show him Christ-like love, and answer his questions the best I could even though I didn't know all the answers. I think prayer was the most productive thing I did, and God gets all the glory for that.
As far as his question about how do you know that God is real, just tell him how God is real to you. I don't consider my faith in God blind at all - I have reason to believe, and so do you. Tell him what God has done for you. Also, there is credible historical, archaelogical, scientific, and textual evidence that corroborate the accounts in the Bible. A google search will turn up some good sites for these.
A book I would recommend for you to read is "The Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. Here is the amazon link with reviews: http://www.amazon.com/Power-Praying-Wife/dp/0736919244/sr=1-2/qid=1170746050/ref=pd_bbs_sr_2/002-9879863-1921619?ie=UTF8&s=books
A book I would recommend for your husband is "The Case for Christ: A Journalist's Personal Investigation of the Evidence for Jesus" by Lee Strobel. Lee Strobel was educated at Yale Law School, is an award-winning former legal editor of the Chicago Tribune, and was an atheist at the beginning of his investigation. In the book he interviews scholars, with doctorates from top-flight institutions, asking tough, point-blank questions such as: How reliable is the New Testament? Does evidence exist for Jesus outside the Bible? Is there any reason to believe the resurrection was an actual historical event? . . . Here is the link: http://www.amazon.com/Case-Christ-Journalists-Personal-Investigation/dp/0310209307/sr=1-1/qid=1170746391/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/002-9879863-1921619?ie=UTF8&s=books
I do NOT recommend that book by Sylvia Browne that another poster suggested. It is full of heresies about Jesus.
Also, here is an article that discusses the roles of husbands and wives in a marriage and also addresses wives who have unbelieving husbands: http://www.gotquestions.org/roles-husband-wife-family.html
2007-02-05 18:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the closest thing to an atheist there could be. Only difference is he used the Bible to argue against God. I lived my life for the glory of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. I started praying for him. It took five years of praying but by watching me and prayer he came to know the Lord. You know that God is real when changes occur in your life that was impossible to change before you became a Christian. That is not blind faith.
2007-02-05 15:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Imagine yourself walking in a desert all alone. Just you and sand and cactus and miles and miles of desert. Suddenly, you come upon a gorgeous house. As you enter this house, you find it has running water, air conditioning, heating, a fully stocked refridgerator and cupboards and EVERYTHING necessary to sustain your life. What would your first thought be?? Would you think, "Wow, I wonder what explosion just accidentally happened to form all of this here?" It isn't a matter of blind faith--it is a matter of OPEN YOUR EYES!! The wonder of God is all around us. Be a good example of a Christian in everything you do, you may win your husband over without a word. Also, continue to read and study your Bible and pray for God's holy spirit to help you understand. May God bless all your efforts.
2007-02-05 18:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I think you can do ... is show your husband through allowing God to change you.
Invite your husband to attend the services with you.
About the question, "how do you know God is real?" It is all based on FAITH! Ask your husband, honey have you ever felt something tugging at you when you were asked to do something that was not right to do? See what he says. If he answers, yes dear I have, why? Then take this opportunity to tell him about the Holy Spirit. He is the one tugging on your husband's heart.
Ask him to sit with you and read the book of John (the gospel) together. He can learn about Jesus there. John's entire book is about Jesus in a totally different light then the other three gospels.
Invite the pastor (and wife) to dinner; of course with the permission of your husband; and have your husband ask the pastor these questions that you find hard to answer.
God bless you and welcome to the family of God. :o)
2007-02-05 15:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Blind faith" is a lie, a falsehood. Perhaps you mean something else. But a Christian is one who works to improve their understanding of the Bible. "Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." But the Bible indicates that there are multiple ways in which God's existence is proven. One way is by the creation, God is the creator. Also God came to earth 2,000 years ago. Everyone knows Jesus exists, Jesus is God. Scripture indicates that God is known and it is written in our hearts, and that is true for every human being, so that we are without excuse. Most people know God exists, but most people are going to hell: in the end there will be those who say have we not prophesied in your name and have done many mighty works in your name, and He will say I know you not, depart from me into ever lasting darkness.
Being a Christian has nothing to do with signing up, oh just signup. You have to understand that the Church today is the same as it was 2,000 years ago when they though Jesus was the antichrist and had him crusified. The Bible teaches that in the end people will be following antichrist. But as it was in the days of Noah so shall it be in the days of the comming of the son of man, . . ...... People are worshiping in blind faith as they expect a man to come who is antichrist, but the man who is comming is Christ who is God, so who are all the masses worshiping? Revelations speaks of the 7 churches which have gone apostate.
If you have blind faith or teaching one must have blind faith, then you are teaching a lie and the truth is not in you. The truth is absolute, but you must seek the truth to find it. The truth is not a mathematical equation, it requires a philosophical leap after you have thought things through. So you must begin with basic questions, and write them down if you need to. What is the meaning of the word or name "God"? could such a being exist? Ask your husband these things to see what he thinks. Try to reason with him to see how the universe came into existence. For instance the Bible says thou knowest not how the bones do grow in the womb of her that is with child. Scientists today do not know. This is God's creation. Note how beautiful the creation is. Well, these are things you reason out with your husband and most important: wives be submissive to your husbands and husbands love your wives.
You see, actually now that you are born again your husband will see a great difference in your life and he will see love like he has never seen before, that will eventually draw him to ask questions because he thirsts for truth rather than ask questions to mock or be sceptical.
Ultimately believers names have been written in the book of life from the foundation of the world, and God will do the saving. Jesus did all of the work.
2007-02-05 15:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by David L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, so he's a wonderful person to you and a loving and caring husband, but you just want him to be saved. Gosh that must be awful having a wonderful unsaved husband, how awful. I really feel for you.
Piece of advice. Worry about saving yourself, you're not responsible for anyone else's "salvation", not even your own spouse.
The meaning of life and spirituality is an individual thing, not some one-size-fits-all cookie cutter box off the shelf. If your husband hasn't shown any inclination to be "born again", perhaps he's already made peace with his personal "God" and is happy with life. I'm inclined to think he has since he's a wonderful husband to you, but even if he hasn't, pressuring him to do it your way won't help things.
It's amazing how some people can find any nitpicky little thing to be ungrateful for. Many women have abusive or neglectful husbands, you should be happy you've got a good one whether he agrees with your views on faith or not.
2007-02-05 15:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
God is REAL sweety..so is Heaven & Hell.
Jesus is God....Saviour, Redeemer, Lion of Judah, Prince of Peace, Alpha & Omega, The Everlasting God, The First & Last, Beginning & End. He is everything! I can't breathe one second if it's not for his Love & Grace. I will die eternal death without Him.
Neither is the salvation in any other for there is none other name under heaven given among man whereby we must be saved!
As for your question.... Pray for your husband, dont just pray for the sake of praying but believe every word you utter ... Jesus said, have Faith as small as a mustard seed & you can move mountains. First of all, it's already God's will for your husband to be saved. Your husband is already in the plan of Salvation.... all you need to do is Profess it & Confess it! How? PRAYER! Prayer can shake hell...people are healed thru prayer...people are delivered thru prayer.... I am talking out of personal experience... WHEN EVERTYHING ELSE FAILS............PRAYER PREVAILS!
Also, show him much love, care, gratitute.... stand up for yourself by being humble & wise. He will come around one day, trust God.
With lots of love.........
If you will, show him the links below! just ask him to read when he has time... speak positively according to the word of God, positive things will come walking down the road of your life!
God Bless!
2007-02-05 15:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to sit down together and read the second chapter of Acts. If he wants proof that God is real then he will find it there. One touch of the spirit of God absolutely convinced me in about fifteen seconds 31 years ago and since that night I've grown more convinced of the reality of God every day. I was exactly like your husband. No background in the faith at all, never any exposure to the scriptures. I was in fact nearly sure God did not exist. But He had only to touch me one night to convince me He was indeed very real and keenly interested in me.
2007-02-05 15:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by AK 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just remember that Moses didn't believe in God...
God is pretty resourceful. He may have a plan for your husband that is purely between God and your husband. And it will happen in God's time (the way all things do).
You obviously have a great deal of faith. Nurture your connection with God and practice believing that your husband is actually in God's hands.
Blessings... Live well
2007-02-05 15:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He has to find his own path. If I may suggest that he read the book by Sylvia Browne called the Mystical Life of Jesus. It is a real eye opener about Jesus and the Bible that might help someone who is not familar with the Bible. If nothing else it will help him start to think about God and what kind of relationship he may want with him.
2007-02-05 15:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋