This guy has been calling/texting ever since our first date, showing that he is interested in me. Once I contact him or agree to come visit him, he stops contacting me and acts disinterested. Why and what should I do? I really am into him also..
2007-02-05 15:28:58 · 21 answers · asked by chloekennedy7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And also, do you think if I dont contact him for a few days, he'll start acting interest again?
2007-02-05 16:24:09 · update #1
When you say "guys" you have hit it on the head - they are young and are more interested in the chase and conquest than in learning about or maintaining a valuable relastionship, often times. What you want is a man - a grown up mature human male who is comfortable with himself and established enough that he can focus on something besides his own self.
I know it is hard when someone really tickles your fancy - but take the hint honey and move on. We date to refine our search for an ideal mate. If he is playing games with you this early on, pu-leeze! Give him a big loser buzzer and forget him. The new is always better than the old - but if you settle for less the Universe sees it and they do not have to pony up the best of the bunch, if you know what I am saying. Forget him and move on - and when he suddenly is interested in you again in a week after not hearing from you, stay strong and forget him.
Peace!
2007-02-05 15:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you scared the guy. Us guys love a challenge, a girl with mystery. When we know that the girl loves us "Passionately" we think of clingy. Do yourself a favor and stop calling him. Go out with other guys and have fun with your friends, and soon when you'll least expect it he will call. Let him call you at least two times, then pick up the phone. And when you do talk to him, there's no need to be all lovey dovey with him. Flirt with him a little, but also make him work for your affection. Don't give in to him or jump for him. Make him suffer a bit. Good luck sweetheart ;)
2016-03-15 07:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people want what they can't have. Especially immature people.
Eventually people start to want to find someone they can get along with in the long-term. Believe me, it is not so easy and they stop playing BS games.
Get out of this loop fast. This guy seems like an idiot.
2007-02-05 15:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by reslstancelsfutlle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys get a bit scared when a girl starts showing interest in return. They don't know what to do next and wonder how to keep it going............It's either this or that the challenge is no longer there for him. All guys are different. These are just 2 possibilities. It's up to you to figure out which one it is........Try telling him that you are interested in getting to know him better, but if he isn't up to it, then you'll leave him alone. See what happens..............
2007-02-05 15:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by artutina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are more into the chase than they are the prize. I don't know why that is. I have a lot of male friends that have told me that it is how things are. They first really like a girl and are dying to win her over. If it happens too quickly, they tend to lose interest. Mainly because they haven't gotten to really know her yet. You don't want to play games, but it may be better for you to slow down a bit on your end. Is this something that happens to you frequently?
2007-02-05 15:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is the chase that thrills them - getting the prize. Shopping for a new car is more fun than owning it. The asset, once owned, becomes a liability. Keep then in hot pursuit. A marketing strategy is the same as supply and demand effect...fewer the supply, greater the demand! Be in demand. The oldest game in the world - when you are unavailable, it makes you more valuable.
2007-02-05 15:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by theplayerpatrol1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he got some other thing going on on the side. don't give him the time of day. any man that really wants a woman will show it and call them. you having doubts is a sign that something is not right. go with how you feel
2007-02-05 15:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys that do that are immature losers. It's all about their ego.
If he does that, then that's a sign of how he's going to treat you down the road. Forget about him and move on.
2007-02-05 15:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HOW SHOUL I KNOW I AM J.G
2007-02-05 15:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by pradeep s 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
date older people. they grow out of that in their 30's. if you are under 18-wait until you are legal to date people over 18.
2007-02-05 15:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋