I just had a baby in december 06. i want to leave my boyfriend. It's his baby too. But i dont' want to leave my baby with him. I want to take my baby. His dad is mean and throws baby around like he is a doll. he never hit me before but just recently when we argue he will hit me. i told him before i wanted to leave and take baby but he wont let me. I told the cops but they said since neither one of us has custody of him that they can't help me take baby. Custody is not written down or on paper or anything. Because i just gave birth to my baby but i didn;t think i'd leave his father. i havent yet because i don't want to leave my baby with him. I can't sneak away either becuase his father is home all day. I asked him if he'd be ok with joint custody with me but he said no. He wants full. I said thats not fair. I don't know what to do. I wont leave my baby with him i can't . Yet he is bringing me down. i feel no love from my boyfriend. anyone have any suggestions?
2007-02-05 15:25:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When you talked to the police, maybe they didn't understand your situation. I can assure you that you have custody of your baby, and I can also promise you that your boyfriend WILL NOT get custody either! Honey, you are being verbally, emotionally, mentally and physically abused. This is a crime. You need to call the police and tell them that you want to leave, but you are afraid because you are being abused. Trust me, they will help you. They will pick you and your baby up and take you someplace safe, either to a relative's or to a shelter for women until you can get an apartment. Please, please don't let this guy hurt you anymore. Emotional abuse is more damaging than any other kind of abuse because it makes you think you can't do anything on your own, you feel trapped and helpless and hopeless. You are not trapped! Your boyfriend wants you to feel that way so he can keep on hurting you. Please, please call 911 now and tell them you need them to come get you. Tell them that your boyfriend has hit you, and you need to get out now. They will come. All states have assistance and programs to help young women with babies get on their feet and make a life for themselves. There is so much help and support out there, including financial support. You are entitled to it, and you have to get out for your safety and your baby's. Hang in there. I am saying a prayer for you. Call 911 now.
2007-02-05 15:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you gave birth and are not married to this guy, under most state laws, you have custody of the baby until the courts state otherwise.
If you're being hit, get help and get out. Go to your local women's shelter. They'll help you.
Don't assume b/c he hasn't hit the kid that he won't hit you. He will.
Call the police and tell them you've been hit and you'd like to press asasault charges. They are required, by law, to file a report if you want to press charges. Do NOT let them talk you out of this.
The minute there is legitimate assault charge on file for this man, the courts will be hard pressed to give custody to this guy if it ever were to come to that.
File assault charges, get incontact with your local women's shelter. Take the baby and Leave.
2007-02-05 23:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have somewhere to go then just go. Forget material possesions they are less important than your childs welfare. I had a simalar situation and found out that if you are not married to him you have custody if he filed an affidavit of parentage. Most men do this if they want to be on the birth cert, if you leave until a case is filed you have custody of the baby. Then fight like hell to not let him get full custody.Also in most states women are more likely to get custody even if they are the unfit ones.
2007-02-05 23:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kacey D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have courage, call the police to come and escort you out of that house. Tell them that you and your child are in a dangerous situation. CPS will take your baby away from you if you are in a domestic violent situation. They can take the baby for failure to protect. So call the police and tell them your child and you are in a dangerous situation, and when they arrive, have them escort you out with your baby. Once you go to the shelter or wearever it is you are going to go, file papers in the court to get custody of your child, and state the reasons why. Good luck.
2007-02-05 23:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mysteri O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to your local women's crisis center and tell them what is happening. They have ways of getting you out. They also have lawyers who deal with issues like this and their services are usually free. You must get your baby out of this situation before he hurts or kills the poor thing. Sometimes the police aren't the best initial source for domestic issues. Of course if their is an emergency 911 is your only option. Don't wait that long to talk to specialists who actually know what to do for you. You'll find a number in your phone book. I'm sorry this is happening to you.
2007-02-05 23:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
pack up your stuff and your baby and get the hell out of there..he can;t just declare that he wants full custody...a court must decide that and they almost always award custody to the mother. Call the Ywca and tell them that you have been a victim of domestic violence and they will help u and baby get out...hurry..before its too late
2007-02-09 23:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by cupcake6777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your telling us hes a lazy bum that doesnt work. U could fit alot in the baby bag when u go shopping just go to a womans shelter they will help u. Your happines is important dont stick around with a loser.
2007-02-06 17:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a womens shelter fast before he gets carried away and loses his temper too bad. get in touch with someone from the county you live in. they can tell you where to go.
2007-02-05 23:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go some where far away and dont tell ANYONE where you are!
2007-02-05 23:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by Rapper4JC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋