On Friday, my bf and I went to a club. While he was dancing, I went outside to get some fresh air. While I was outside, a guy started talking and gave me his number. When I went back in the club, my bf was furious. He asked me where I was and who I was with. I told him that I went to get some fresh air and was by myself (because I went out by myself and was standing outside by myself majority of time that I was outside). Appearently, one of his friends, who was also at the club that night, saw me getting the phone number (which I didn't keep) from the dude and told my bf. My bf accused me of lying and broke up with me.
On Sunday, I explained the situation to him. I told him how much I cared about him and I would NEVER cheat on him (or anyone). He still thought I was lying but agreed to take me back.
Now, he is acting different. He used to call/text me a few times a day. When I call, he tells me he is busy or doesn't even pick up the call. Should I just give up?
2007-02-05 15:21:53 · 16 answers · asked by Sweetie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really care about him you won't give up. But just a bit of advice. I have dealt with the jealousy thing. If a guy comes up to you and he seams interested somehow work in IMEDIATLY that you have a boyfriend. You shouldn't have taken the number. It is disrespectful of your BF's feelings. If you care about him you should want to BROADCAST TO THE WORLD that you have a man.
2007-02-05 15:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kacey D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, he still cares about you or else he wouldn't have taken you back even though he stil thought you were lying to him. He's just hurt right now and it's going to take a while to get over it. The trust that he had in you is a bit tainted right now. It's going to take some time and effort from you to regain that trust back for your relationship. It's best to always be honest (no white lies). If you would have told him from the beginning that this guy started talking to you, gave you his number, but you didn't keep it, he might have let it blow over. At least he would've appreciate your complete honesty and the trust would still be intact.
2007-02-05 23:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally I always say to never give up on anything.. Try this.. Talk to him face to face, heart to heart. Then decide if you two can go back to being the way you were before that night. Just be honest though. Tell him that you've noticed he's been acting different.. And ask him if he would like some time to cool off. Like I said, never give up. Not just on this but on anyhting. Good luck with this! I hope it all works out.
2007-02-05 23:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by keesee21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you trusted him not to trade hot looks with the girl he was dancing with in the first place. Second, if I was outside, I'd take the guy's number just to end the conversation. Third, if he's being such a brat about believing you, then he's going to make mountains out of mole-hills all the time, so you're going to be trying to explain your life away. Drop him and hunt somewhere else.
2007-02-05 23:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Casperia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell him what you just told us. If he breaks up then maybe he wasnt the right person for u... But if he finally acts normal then stay with him. Believe me, if this boy wont forgive you, there are other fish in the sea. So dont stress. Happy Valentines Day!!
2007-02-05 23:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You broke his trust when you accepted that phone number, which you should never have done. It will take quite some time to regain his trust. You need to hang in there if you want this relationship to work.
2007-02-05 23:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, move on
Too many men are overly possessive and become ridiculously possessive of their girlfriends.
Often this will lead to a totally obsessive and controlling relationship where you can't do anything without 'approval'
Dump him and run, if you are hot enough to pick up without trying, then there will be plenty o fish in your sea for you to choose from
2007-02-05 23:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by bob_the_boozer_au 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say that if he doesn't believe you, you should give up convincing him that you havn't cheated on him. he my just find it hard to believe you because he may not trust you as much as his friend. guys are just like that sometimes i know that my bf would be but we don't hang out at clubs. maybe just give him some time if he doesn't believe you still i would dump him
2007-02-05 23:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by hottiesrgood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to call him, let him cool off for a while. Dont worry, he will miss you also. Tell him to trust you if he still loves you. Good luck!
2007-02-05 23:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how bad you want to keep your BF. If you really want to keep him you need to fight for what you had and regain it. Tell him how you feel and ask him how you can prove your feelings to him, then do it.
2007-02-05 23:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋