Me and my boyfriend have started going out a couple months ago but I've admitted to being in love with him about 4 mths back. I love everything about him but I think i might be falling out of love but i dont want to! I love him very deeply but Im not sure if i love him as much as i used to. Any suggestions that will help? I DO love him but not as strongly as i used to and i dont want to let it go. What can i do to get me that wonderful feeling i had at first?
2007-02-05 15:21:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We were best friends before we started dating..
2007-02-05 15:24:25 · update #1
You may just love your boyfriend and not be 'in' love with him. Until you expierence the real thing, It can be hard to tell the difference. It could just also be that te relation hip is not aas 'new' anymore so sometimes the excitement fades. Ask yourself why yoou feel that way is because he isn't as attentive as you thought he would be? Do you trust him or is it vice versa? Just think about it. Good Luck.
2007-02-05 15:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Lily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the grass isn't so green once you get to really know someone. Ask yourself why you feel this way? At what point did your relationship start to decline and why? In a way its normal to come down to a more balanced level. In the end you just have to go with your heart and not your mind. Whatever you do don't just let it go like I did and think it will solve itself. That will end up with both of you being very confused and hurt.
2007-02-05 15:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Dereck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like that dreamy period in the beginning has come and passed. Embrace the next level of your relationship. Relish in the security. There are many positive things that come with time in a relationship. it's normal for some of the exitement to fade after a while. Then again if it's only been a couple of months and your trying to feel in love again mabye it's time to rethink things with this one.
2007-02-05 15:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks to me that was not love, was a nice emotion. Love can't be go in a few months, love is like taking care of a plant: needs attention, care and constant water. If you want your first love feeling back, try telling him more often that you love him, that you admire him and that you need him more every single day! It will work on you and him.
2007-02-05 15:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by ecazdi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend, you should think wisely why you lost a little bit of you love towards him, may be something with him annoyed you and it might be your mind reaction, so try to find it out and if you really want him, think of him positively in your privacy and imagine a good man of him in your imagination
best of luck
2007-02-05 15:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by un_1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings change, and just because you're getting over the infatuation doesn't mean that you'll fall out of love with him. There's no magic recipe for getting re-infatuated. Don't worry yourself into blowing this.
2007-02-05 15:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love starts with attraction and moves on to experiences. The nature of that love changes and is often less intense. Do your real experiences with him lead you to not like him? Nor want to be with him?
2007-02-05 15:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think like that you still love him dont scrow it over by thinking that u dont love him or anything like that. love comes and goes he might do something tomm that might make you love him more than b4 or he might dump you. take a chance dont think about not loving him show him that u love him and he is prob going to do the same that way you guys can fall in love again.
2007-02-05 15:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by help me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those intense feelings at the beginning of the relationship are usually categorized as lust.. they fade but then the true love will set in if it supposed to. let things be as they are upposed to... you cannot force things like love.
2007-02-05 15:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start talking more, quit focussing on your feeling and focus on your time together and maybe that will help
2007-02-05 15:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋