i WANT TO HAVE SEX BUT dON'T kNOW BECAUSE IN THE BIBLE IT SAYS NOT TO HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. WHAT DO YOU THINK?????
2007-02-05 15:05:13 · 31 answers · asked by TinkerBell_Lover 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Jesus never talked about having sex. He talked a little bit about having lust in your heart. - But, what do I know? I am just a dumb Orangutan here in the Zoo.
2007-02-05 15:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by MrsOcultyThomas 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sex before marriage is a very bad idea, even if you want to do it. It might be nice for a while, but it never ends well. More than that, God will judge us for our sins, we will have to stand before Him and explain our actions to Him. He will hold us accountable, unless we forsake those sins.
If your heart says one thing, and the Bible says another, go with the Bible. Your heart doesn't always know best, it only knows what it wants. Always doing what you want is called self-centeredness, and that is sin. The Bible teaches us to be God centered first, then other people centered, that is, to Love the Lord our God with all our heart, mind, soul, and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourself. Having sex before marriage isn't loving God. It also isn't loving others, because it is bringing that sin into the life of the person you are having sex with, harming that person. Not to mention it is a betrayal of whoever you eventually do marry (even if you end up marrying the person you have sex with, because you have tainted that relationship).
Take it from someone who has had personal experience in this, pre-marital sex is nothing but trouble. Most people, especially on TV and in the movies, glamorize sex before marriage, but in reality it is anything but glamorous. It's like dropping a live grenade in the middle of your relationship and your life and hoping it doesn't blow up. When I did it, it blew up, and I lost the relationship I was in. I also came very close to loosing my relationship with God.
By the way, condoms and birth control don't always work. Condoms break, pills aren't completely effective, and spermacides don't always kill everything. There is no such thing as safe sex.
I pray that you do the right thing, don't let your desires push you around, through Christ you are stronger than that!!! I hope this has helped, and God bless!
Edit- To 'guywiththehir'- nowhere in the Bible does it say sex for pleasure is wrong, just that sex outside of marriage, for any reason is wrong. Within marriage, sex can and should be very pleasurable, and there is nothing wrong with it. It is a beautiful thing. Any idea to the contrary doesn't come from the Bible, but from human traditions/church traditions that are arbitrary and not rooted in Scripture. Try reading the Song of Solomon (in the Bible), and see what it says about the matter.
2007-02-05 15:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by The Link 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe in it. I used to think it was a little ok, but then I discovered it leads to all kinds of probems, especially the breakdown of the family structure which is the causal problem for most of the other problems in the world; the lack of true love causes world problems.
You are not confused, you are simply frustrated, but that is part of our trial; so we must work to mature. Sex is exciting but meaningless without true love, happiness is the goal, not simply excitment. Happiness can only come through true love or contentment. You must learn to be content first, then later you will find true love, if you are lucky.
You need to date a lot more but avoid those who want sex.
You must come to terms with your value system which is derived from the Bible and find someone who has the same value system. Statistically people who live together before getting married have a much higher rate of divorce. People divorce because they never had true love, so they have been unfulfilled and they fought and they struggled, and they finally decide they can do better because after so long they think now they know what true love is, and then they go to find it, but how can they find it? Because they have just adulterated their previous marriage, so they fool themselves into thinking they can find true love; but they only have tired of one form and seek a new form.
2007-02-05 15:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by David L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not think that a person should. Sex is not a contact sport. It is meant to be done within marriage between two people who are mature enough to bring a child into the world and raise it successfully. You are not respecting yourself or your partner if you do not wait for marriage. And you run the risk of having a child outside of marriage. That is not fair to the child. It is not a loving thing to do. Sex outside of marriage is a selfish, live for today, sort of thing.
I know that in the past 35 years our society here in the U.S. has changed drastically and now this practice has become common place. But that does not make it right. Whether you believe in God or not, it is not the mentally healthy, mature thing to do. It is a selfish act.
2007-02-05 15:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pre-marital sex is real and it happens all the time.
But the Bible is right!!!! it is much better to wait until after marriage.
It is natural to want to have sex but don't let that confuse you. Sex out side of marriage will not satisfy that feeling.
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2007-02-06 03:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says that fornicators among others will not inherit the kingdom of God. Having sex outside of marrige is Fornication.
Look up all the scriptures on Fornication, pray and Fast and God will deliver you from this mistake.
God Bless You
God Loves You to much to let you make a mistake like this.
2007-02-05 15:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with staying pure until marriage. I did! It makes a big difference to your future husband knowing that you honored him by waiting.If he knows that you were his first and one and only and you stayed committed to your own body. Just think how much he will know that you will be committed to him and his body! It made a big difference to my wife to know that she was my first, my last and my everything! Don't buy into the pressures of society that tells you "Well every else is doing it!" Because your going to be sorry in the long run. Do you know how many people wished that they would have waited? How many fatherless family's with only the single moms out there to rise there baby's alone, regretting every day not because they don't love their baby's but because their baby's will never grow up to know there father! Also know that God has given sex to us so we for one could continue the human race from one generation to another. Two: God also gave us sex to find pleasure and honor are wife. And the most important it is an expression of love and unity between husband and wife. It is a sign of their commitment to each other in the bonds of there marriage and the marriage vows. The word of God says: Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral" (Hebrews 13:4) So, you have to ask yourself are you ready to make such a commitment to your boyfriend because by having sex before marriage you are saying that you are ready to honor him, ready for marriage and ready for a long commitment not only to him but to your baby if you weren't careful!? Think about it!
2007-02-05 15:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends on your age my dear. Assuming you're old enough, there's nothing wrong with it as long as you use protection, have fun, and don't harm anyone. And never let any one pressure you into doing something you don't feel comfortable with. If you are not sure you want to have sex, then don't do it.
Besides, trust me...pre-martial sex is like shopping for a car, you want to make sure it all fits right before you buy the car...or sign the marriage contract...if you get my drift.
2007-02-05 15:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really dont think its wise to live your life by the bible - after all we still dont know who wrote it, and how would you feel if you died and you found out there was nothing? no god, no heaven, false bible. You would feel u shud have done more with your life. So do more! have sex before marriage! its great!! its a great feeling...youll love it. feels great being premarital.
2007-02-06 09:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by KaZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you were smart you would wait. To many pregnant teens with abortions or unwanted children. It also says in the Bible to do your will then marry. If you are ready for the whole marriage thing, sure go for it, but the guy must be ready for it too.
One more thing, please remember the consequences of sex, children, if you are ready for the child to vomit down your back while burping it, go for it. If you are ready to get up at night, go for it. If you are ready for the dirty diapers, go for it.This list goes on and on. If you are not ready for the list of to do things that all mommies do, let it alone.
2007-02-05 15:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just don't seriously. when you fall in love and get married it'll be more worth it and you'll have something to look forward to. rather than sleeping with someone and then seeking other partners to live with but all they want you for is sex, and you yourself may lust after the same thing, meaningless sex. it's called a f ck and ultimately it's not gratifying. making love is having sex, real sex with the one you love.... make sure your husbands attractive, that really helps.
2007-02-05 15:11:05 · answer #11 · answered by morobell 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋