I need help..I don't know how to recover fully from my anorexia, bulimia, and self injury. I can't get over this and I don't know what else to do. The only thing that is keeping me from doing anything that I might regret later is my boyfriend. If it weren't for him I would probably have cut myself long ago. I already don't eat enough, but I wish I didn't have to eat at all, and when I do eat I just want to dispose of what I have taken in. My boyfriend gets upset because I don't eat enough and some of the things that I think about. Any advice to get me out of these uncontrollable desires??
Thanks in advance
2007-02-05 14:53:14 · 11 answers · asked by ARK_drummer 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Why 'uncontrollable'?
There is one thing: Change your point of view because what is true for you IS TRUE for you. It is YOUR truth. I believe it is not easy to change a point of view, specially if your truth is deep in your mind.
Another thing:Your data about your 'uncontrollable' desires are quite stable in your mind. You may just get other stable data in opposition to the ones you already have.
This will produce confusion in the begining but you may choose which data is Important to you.
It seems that you know that what you do is not ok. This is an excelent conclusion of yours. Just work a little bit more harder to get new data and then make them stable in your mind; make these new data your TRUTH. Be vigilant regarding your thoughts to police them while you think or, in other words, get aware of what you are thinking and tell yourself everytime:
This, is bull-****, this is not what I want. What I want is... - formulate what you want: to be like other people regarding the considerations of eating, to be sure that I nurish my body with all the nutrients and in the right amount that it needs and I feel great about it coz I am the most important being to me, Things like that.
However, remember that postulates work and they can be a two edge sword. You have to formulate them in a complete way.
I.e. If one would say, postulating: I want to be rich. One could get the wrong way, stealing and robbing and assaulting. That's why we have to close all the doors to wrong when making a postulate, saying what we want.
You could also try hypnosis, but this wouldn't be you, and if you go for it, just be sure you get a woman to hypnotise you, not a man.
I wish you can make it, and very soon. Please let me know what you did and how it worked, even if you did something else. I have a sister with the same problem but the difference is that she has no bf to call her reason, and because of this it is useless to tell her anything, although we all talk and talk and talk to her about the way she feeds herself. Thank you in advance.
2007-02-13 02:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Carlos C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, find a professional in the mental health field. Things as difficult as eating disorders and self injury are too hard to recover from on your own. They function in vicious cycles from which you cannot escape. It is good that your boyfriend wants you to eat more, but it will continue to be very difficult to do this as anorexia stems from thoughts. In order to deal with the thoughts, I would highly recommend that you find a therapist who will be able to help you discover what causes/triggers you.
Best of luck, and please do your best to recover. It is a long road, but at the end you will realize that you MUST get out of these disorders.
2007-02-10 09:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by lovethemusic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a case of insecutriy. I cannot understand this disorder, but im sure that if you seen in yourself you are beautiful, and there are other ways to maintain a beautiful appearance, healthy ways, then you will not only find the joy in eating, but youll gain a good lifestyle of working out and realizing that you are beatifully and wondefully made.
2007-02-13 04:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by EyeKneadPoints 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've taken the first step by realizing that there is a problem and wanting to solve it. Get yourself into a treatment facility as soon as possible! You've got an excellent support system in your boyfriend, but it is very important that you take the next step. See a doctor and get mental and physical treatment.
2007-02-13 11:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Luv2Listen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like self-hatred /seld destruction to me..Why dont u get sometimes alone for yrself to rethink on yr purpose of life..what do u want and yr goals that u wanted to achieve...Get moral support from yr family anf let go of all the negative feelings.I know it might be difficult to start but u can always try..Just dont hang out wt people that always make u feeling down.good luck
2007-02-13 13:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by mizz_car 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might beable to kick this if you just work at it yourself. I highly recommend hypnosis - this isn't the goofy stuff they do in amusement parks, its more like deep deep intense meditation.
You can try this for starters.
http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/downloads/hypnotherapy/bulimia-treatment.html
If you don't like it they give you your money back, there's really no risk.
This beats going to the hospital, taking medication, seeing a therapist once a week... it's really an issue of mind over matter.
Good luck!
2007-02-05 15:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women, no matter what the problem, from serious to everyday, benefit from a group of like-minded women who are willing to support them. Seek a self-help group in your area. You can start by calling a local hospital.
It looks like there are many similar groups online. Here's one.
http://www.healthyplace.com/site/support_groups_hp.htm
Go Ask Alice is an excellent site online for information about any girl problem. Start here for help on eating disorders:
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/Cat3.html
You are worth it.
2007-02-11 13:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by whatda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eat a damn sandwich. I'm sick and tired of you whinny little brats with eating disorders. It's always somebody else's fault you feel inadequate about yourselves. Wake up, numb nuts. It's called puberty. Nobody has an easy time. We get through it and get on with our lives.
You are pathetic. You just need a good kick in the pants.
2007-02-13 03:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi thre, thx for ur answer. your state kinda snds similiar to mine. I used to cut myself a lot and hurt myself before rose came into my life. well, i have stopped cutting myself for her and i CANNOT break a promise that i make to her. if your love is strong enough(which i guess is true) ask ur bf to help u out. Jst keep inmind everytime u wanna eat less or do sth tht will hurt urself that it wud hurt the one u love twice as much. it should work. it did in my case :). besta luk
2007-02-06 19:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever u want to do all that stuff, just think about how badly u r not only hurting yourself but your boyfriend and your family. seriously like i felt that way sometimes and talking with friends and ur bf can really help alot
2007-02-13 11:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by J-Dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋