I'm a virgin college freshman dude. I don't think I'm physicially unattractive. In fact, I like my body- I'm 5'11.5" and weigh 180 pounds, with little fat. I just didn't get to make love with girls because I was busy studying and playing sports. Now I'm at my dream school, and I'm strongly attracted to a girl in one of my classes. She's a very intelligent girl, so I don't think she's dumb enough to sleep with anyone. However, I bet she has some sexual experience because she's physicially attractive (I know this is a really stupid thing to say, but most good-looking girls seem to become sexually active in high school). She seems to be interested in me to a certain degree, so I plan on asking her out in the near future. One thing I'm worried about is my lack of sexual experience. What will she think of me? That's what I'm worried about. What do girls think about virgin dudes? Do they respect virgin dudes? Or ridicule them?
2007-02-05 14:45:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Respect all the way. the only thing you better do when you do t, is to BRING IT. Don't be asking questions or act like a scardy cat when it comes down to being romantic. you still need to be a man and a woman likes a man who can hold his own. And don't come as soon as it goes in.
2007-02-05 14:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well, first of all this is exactly where boys get confused, if your a virgin that's great, you can just say your holding out for someone you love, but, guys always think being a virgin is wierd and try to find a girl to have sex with, girls hate this, we don't want to be used, don't blame being a virgin over being busy in school and sports, get to like that girl for who she is and not as your ticket out of being a virgin. Some mean b****y girls make fun of guys like you but they're sluts, most girls will think it's cute or sweet. Get sex off your mind and just be you. Don't give up on your crush though, in highschool most girl virgins would prefer to lose their virginity to someone who is also inexperienced because that way it's a big deal not just for them but for the guy and it's an experience they can share together, (which is so much more romantic) however, now that you are in college I think a non-virgin would be better so that she can 'show you the ropes'. Good luck with whatever you decide!
2007-02-05 14:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really nice guy. TRUST me, it is not a turn off to be still a virgin at ages 21. Who cares? Really. It's your own life you choice the way you want it to be. So if you choice to marry a woman who you know you are willing to spend your life forever with and then have sex, that's awesome! I just wish that there are more guys left like you in this world. Encourage yourself to be more confident, tell a girl who you like that you are still a virgin and if she will reject you, then forget about her she is defiantly not worth your time. Find someone who you would enjoying being with and one more thing, communication is # 1 key for any success in life. You are a great example to those guys out there who have FEAR to stay 40 year old virgins. Good Luck!
2016-05-23 22:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you better read up or ask some friends that you trust what girls like. You need to know a few things.You better spend a lot of time with foreplay on her since you will not be able to last very long since you have never done it before. You should probably be honest with her that you are a virgin maybe she will like this about you. If she doesn't then find another girl that accepts you for who you are. Use protection.
2007-02-05 14:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she really likes you she will not ridicule you for being a virgin! its your choice whether to have sex or not and be proud of the fact that you have waited this long. most people fall under peer pressure and have sex WAY to early. if i were her i would totally dig you for being a virgin.
maybe for her it will make her like and respect you more for not running around and for not being a "player".
if for some odd reason it freaks her out alittle don't rush into something just to say you've done it! Stay true to yourself first and if she can't respect you then your better off!!
good luck
2007-02-05 14:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's really feeling you then it shouldn't matter..she should be willing to help and do whatever she can to make the experience pleasurable for both of you..i respect a guy that is a virgin because that means that you didnt crumble under the pressure
2007-02-05 14:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by cutie14_85 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely respect a guy who chooses his education and future over casual sex. Waiting for someone you really like or love it always best, and if a girl has a problem with it, she's not the right one for you.
2007-02-05 15:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by A42381 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the girl, personally I do not like virgins because I like a guy with experience.
But i have friends who love dating virgins because "they are easier to train on what we like" instead of going based on what their ex liked.
2007-02-05 14:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she really likes you then she will think it is very cute and sexy its almost like a challenge, if she ridicules it then you didnt want to be with her anyway. She should also respect the fatc that you are clean and there are no hidden skeletons...that is a big plus
2007-02-05 14:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by blondie9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, I would respect you for your sexual choices. Just tell her how you feel and what you want in a relationship.
2007-02-05 14:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋