my son's father has been asking me for help concering his girlfriend problems and my fiance appears to be getting a bit jealous how do i reassure him that there is nothing between my ex and i strictly friends....there is really nothing there i mean i am trying to help him get a new woman and all....besides this close relationship with my son's father is great for my son considering all the parents out there who can't communicate.
2007-02-05 14:44:59 · 7 answers · asked by chylie p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is one thing to be close to your ex for your childs sake and another to be close for your sake. Helping him with relationship things will not benefit your son unless the woman he is with treats your child badley. There is a line and I htink your fiancee has a right to be upset. Take a step bakc and realize that you have a new life now you do not need ot know the personals of your ex.
2007-02-05 14:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sticky situation. You say "you are starting to feel" that your fiance is getting jealous, and he "appears" to be jealous. This is important enough for you to talk about it directly and bring the issue out in the open. What is he concerned about? Are you spending too much time "advising" your ex?
It's fine to be friends with your ex, but as you are moving into a new relationship with your fiance, your major interactions with your ex should be primarily about your son. Offering your ex moral support is one thing; getting intimately involved with his girlfriend problems and helping him get a new woman may be crossing the line.
Being "friends" with your ex means that you are civil with each other and have your son's best interests at heart. I don't think it means being best buds and getting all involved in his personal life any more. After all, your focus should now be on your new relationship, shouldn't it?
This is a tough one. Good luck!
2007-02-05 22:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by The Author 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a quiet, frank discussion with your fiance about your son's father. You need him to understand that you ex is going to be in your life....because he is your son's father and you want to continue to enjoy a good relationship so that you can both parent your son successfully. He needs to understand and ACCEPT that now...before you get married. There is no room in a marriage for jealously and mistrust. Especially when there is a child involved. Their hearts break too. Good luck & best wishes.
2007-02-05 22:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very true, just tell him exactly what you said over here, and tell him how much you love him and how good it is for you to have a good friendly relationship with your ex for your sons sake.
2007-02-05 22:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by ~Val~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your ex to take control of his life and make his own decisions. If he wants to find someone else, he needs to figure out a way on his own to do that. You did.
2007-02-05 23:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only natural for your fiance to be jealous...maybe his gut instincts are telling him otherwise.
2007-02-05 23:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to reassure him. He should trust you, or you should reconsider marrying him.
2007-02-05 22:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋