Why is it a guy will be interested in a chick until he finds out that she has a baby he hightails it.?

Question

I'm not looking for someone to take care of me or my son but i'm having a hard time finding a guy any advice ?

I have a good job so i'm not looking for someone to take care of us. I've always been told that I am beautiful with a lot to offer guys.

Answer 1

Do not listen to the person that said no guy wants to because that is not true. It takes a special guy to do it but they are out there. I have a child from a previous relationship and he is amazing with my son. All I can say is do not settle for someone that is OK with your child. He does not have to be the baby's father but he HAS to respect your baby. It may take awhile but it iwll be worth it in the end that i can promise you. Do not get discouraged they are out there.

Answer 2

I'm 23 and have two kids. And I thought the same thing. But an old friend from school, recently contacted mer and i told him straught off that i had two kids ane he surprisingly didn't mind a all!! He was still VERY interested, and said he wanted kids too. He's a nice guy and there are more out there, trust me I know.

Alot of guys these days don't want to except a woman with kids though because a lot of guys are still immature at freakin 30!! I know a guy who is 37 and still has a playstation!! I mean come on grow up!!

So you have to look for a nice, mature guy who wants kids, loves kids. I know this might siound a little strabge but military men are more mature, especially ones that have been to war. they realize that family is the most important thing in this world. Usually they are the ones that want a wife and kids to spend there time with.

I hope I helped. And just be confident, your match is gonna find you =)

Answer 3

No guy wants to look after someone else's kid. Pure and simple. It's just like: no woman wants their man to sleep with other women. Pure and simple. BUT there are always exceptions. There are guys out there who will enter a relationship with you. If you are extremely attractive, you can't get any guy you want regardless. If you are extremely ugly, you won't be able to find guys as easily, unless they are vitiating circumstances to offset your ugliness: i.e. lots of money (for example). It's just the way things are.

Also, there is a presumption that you want the guy just for your kid, so that you have a stable income, or a father figure, rather than because you love the guy (most single women are like this). Men on the other hand are more likely to like a woman if she is extraordinarily beautiful (most men are like this). But there are always exceptions, and these generalisations are very broad, but on the whole, because you are seeking an answer to a general question, the answer will necessarily involve generalisations.


Listen to Dave W.


Find a single guy with a Kid. Why go for single guys without a kid.

Answer 4

.Not all men are that way. I can tell you though that when I got married to a woman with two daughters, I loved them both as my own and when their loser mom split after seven years of marriage, I never got to see those girls again. The pain I suffered was almost unbearable but I can't imagine what those girls must have felt. I was the only dad they knew. So I steered clear of single mothers for a long time. I am however getting married in June to a beautiful woman with a beautiful daughter and I pray that I don't get my heart ripped out again! I met her in church, not a bar. That is some helpful advice for dating. Bars aren't the best place to find commitment or good spouse's.

Answer 5

You know, my sister had this same problem. Single mom at the age of 22 and she went through a string of bad guys that want her, but didn't want anything to do with her son.
I'll give you the same advice that I gave her. Focus on you and your son. The right man WILL come along it is just going to take time. In the meantime, try out a church group for single parents, you might meet a guy in there that already has a kid, and remember if a guy can't like you just because you have a child, he is shallow, so move on. You're better off with out him.

Answer 6

He probably doesn't want a ready made family and/or does not wish to have to deal with the father of your baby. However, I'm sure there are lots of nice guys who wouldn't mind. If he is really interested, he would not care that you had a baby. Tell them when you meet, so you know right away how he feels, before you start to like them.

Answer 7

There are guys who don't mind at all.. the guys who hightails are just not interested in that kind of commitment and responsibility, me I love children, there are some guys out there, you just need find them..

Answer 8

Don't give up just yet.
Keep looking. There's a saying I heard a few years ago and it goes something like: "Look in a decent place for a man and find a decent man." It basically means, if you look in a good place for a man (such as church or something) then you'll probably find a good guy.

Don't get discouraged, just keep trying. Try to meet guys who like kids.

Hang in there and good luck!!

Answer 9

Men don't want to deal with the responsibility of being with a woman who is a single mother. They have to explain it to their friends and family, and many of them find it embarrassing.

Besides, men hate being reminded that there have been men before them. It's all they can do not think of the men who will come after them.

-E

Answer 10

there are some guys who just don't want to deal with a relationship that involves a child, but a lot of guys don't mind! Maybe look for single dads!