i met a guy, and we talked alot. although i never met him...we live 3000 miles apart, but we talked all the time. on the phone, email, IM...but today he told me i wasn't good enough for him because i wouldn't move closer to him. i really like this guy, and i don't know if he really likes me, or if he just said he did. but he really hurt me..how should i move on? PLZ help me.
2007-02-05 14:33:46 · 14 answers · asked by Jessica O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he did just recently tell me he is sorry. that he shouldn't have expected so much of me. but he says he would [refer to be with someone that will be there for him, and not be as selfish. what does that mean? first he is sorry then he isn't. what the heck does that mean?
2007-02-05 14:51:11 · update #1
I've talked to a number of guys whom I thought I liked and they liked me. Unfortunately, when we met, we usually didn't feel the same about each other anymore. I think it's good if you don't move closer to him. I think he realized the distance won't make for a good relationship and you should realize that too. Try to find a guy closer to home. Or keep yourself busy doing things you enjoy to take your mind off of him. When the time is right, someone better suited will come along. Good luck.
2007-02-05 14:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by waterskiergal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talk to people online all the time. I have two sites that I am on. I am talking to someone to that lives about the same distance away. If I were you, I would meet this guy first before I moved anywhere with him. He can tell you whatever you want to hear on the phone, or online, but you still don't really know him. He needs to understand that. You did the right thing though. You have to be careful these days. If he really likes you, he will get back in touch and apologize, and you let him know that you two need to spend time together first. And if he doesn't then get on with your life because he wasn't meant for you in the first place. He sounds controlling to me, if he got mad because you wouldn't move!
2007-02-05 14:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by Manda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he was just hurt at the fact that you wouldn't move closer to him. If that's what he's upset about then he obviously wants to see you and be with you. I've got plenty of years of dating under my belt and I've learned that distance shouldn't be an obstacle to happiness. If you truly like someone and think there could possibly be a future with him, take a chance. Instead of MOVING, why don't you book a ticket and fly out to see him? Meet in person and see if there is any chemistry. Believe me, chatting online and on the phone constantly doesn't guarantee in-person compatibility. Take some time off work, book a flight, and see if the sparks fly. If they don't, then all you're out is a plane ticket. If they do, then you could be happy for the rest of your life.
2007-02-05 14:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't care about you giving up everything you have and starting over in a new city. You have never met - thats alot to ask someone of that you haven't met. I waited over a year - with many dates - before we even began the serious discussion about moving closer to each other.... give this guy some space.... he's not really ready for you to move out to him to try seeing each other seriously. Good enough - geesh. Your just fine bb. He's a little off.
2007-02-05 14:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by Georgina T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for being hurt. That was an awful thing for him to say! If it's that easy to do, why doesn't HE move closer to you???????? What's his excuse?
I'm one that will exhaust all options before giving up on a relationship. But in your case, I really do think you need to move on. You don't need to be with someone that doesn't think you are good enough. His behavior is a small sign what he is going to be like in the future.
2007-02-05 14:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you dont want to move on but rather figure out if he really likes you or not. Have you told him that what he said hurt you? Ask him to come see you or maybe you go see him but if he truly wants a relationship with you he will apologize for what he said and hop on a plane. If things don't work out remember that he was an asshole plain and simple.
2007-02-05 15:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by filmazul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your heart is broken by a person who does not understand you, it hurts. Cry a lot now but the next day you have to look at yourself and say how lucky you are for not going into a more deeper relationship with someone that is one sided
2007-02-05 14:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by trykindness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming closer is an human nature but he should have think before hurting you. Wait till he again approach you with his pure & sincere thoughts. Miles never matter in love remember.
2007-02-05 14:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy that could hurt you from 3000 miles away is not worth it. Find someone in your own area sweetie.
2007-02-05 14:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget it, he sounds like a jerk if he told u that. I mean, **** that, u dont need a guy that will talk to u that way. Go out, meet some new people. Forget about it and thank God it wasnt more serious.
2007-02-05 14:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋