I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and he still hasn't ask me to marry him, we have talked about it and he says he loves me and wants to be with me and we have a son together. He treats me like a queen and I know he loves me I just feel like I want to give him more and that's the next step but I'm not sure what to do about it.
2007-02-05 14:23:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
he's not sure that he's ready. be patient, only he can realize his own emotional status. focus on your baby, and make sure you treat him equally as he treats you, that way you are re-assuring him everything's gonna be fine, at the same time, making your relationship work.
2007-02-05 14:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by reijene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not proposing because he's not the marrying type. If you need to live under the legal shelter of marriage, then perhaps the "next step" you should discuss with the boyfriend who loves you and treats you like a queen is the fact that those things don't satisfy you. Be prepared, though -- finding a husband after you've already had a child with another man will be a truly difficult task. I'm inclined to suggest you stay single, raise your son sans hubby, then start a new romantic life 16 yrs from now, when your son is a grown man. Sorry to be so harsh -- that's life.
2007-02-05 22:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by tjacobmill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems to have things pretty worked out, having a son?what god given right has he got to forcast what baby you will have, and why after only 3 years are you ready to marry him.
Let him treat you like a queen and enjoy it while you can,but dont let him plant the seed before you have that all important ring on your finger cause its amaising how these guys change once the have got what they are after, and how sour it can become if they dont get what they want, what if you have a daughter will he love you the same?
2007-02-05 22:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by bazbikes49 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really Sweetie, why buy the cow when he can have the milk for free? That's sounds so cruel but it has so much truth to it. Ask him how long he can wait for his next piece of you know what..
That is so important to a man, just the same as the marraige is important to you. It bonds the two of you and makes you even closer. I have been married for about 10 years now and I love my honey more today than I did yesterday. The paper doesn't make me love him more but that paper made me feel more bonded to him. It showed me how important I was and am to him that he would want to have everything legal to say that I am his wife.
2007-02-05 22:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by neener 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont you just ask him. I think it is better to just say it like it is. most of them time if you dont know you need to ask because some men wont tell at all. and if is says soon then dont ask when because sometimes it has to just be a surprise. I personally remember talking about it with my fiancee and not bringing the subject back up then when i didn't even expect it he asked me to marry him and i was in shock even though i knew it was going to happen sooner or later. so dont worry too much about it. And good luck
2007-02-06 00:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will ask you when he wants to marry you. Period. I would advise you not to hint or put pressure on him. Even though you may have a son together and the relationship is good at the time, he might not be ready to fully commit to you. And that is ok, because in order for your marriage to work, you both must be fully committed to each other. You never know...he might be thinking about marrying you and just waiting for the right time. Be patient.
2007-02-05 22:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by dream 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, don't screw up a good thing by getting that tiny piece of paper that legally binds you two together. Once that happens some men (at least the one's I've been with) tend to change. Be happy that he loves you and treats you so well. Depending on the state you live in, if you two live together there is a common law marriage thing.
2007-02-05 22:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by indygurl3 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you guys talked about it? Three years is a long time for it not to come up. Just ask him where he sees the relationship going. You guys already have a kid so tell him you feel it would be a good example for them to see Mommy and Dad married :)
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-06 11:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be asking your boyfriend this....then again, you have given him everything already...a home, a family, your bed....why would he want to make it legal? At this point getting married would be just another piece of paper and a different tax status wouldn't it? Oh and then he would be legally responsible for you and your son....sounds kinda harsh that way doesn't it? Like I said maybe you should ask him....Good luck
2007-02-05 22:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Whats the rush. I waited 6 years and i kept saying when we getting married? Dont you love me? Dont worry about. To many questions end up to be alot of pressure and men are pains when it comes to that. He will ask when hes ready trust me when it happens and planning starts you wish u had more time,. Enjoy the love you have. He will come around and ask. TRUST ME.
2007-02-06 16:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by kelcy129 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are already providing what he wants. You need to get more independent - if you are living with him, move out, and keep dating him if you want. Otherwise, he probably just doesn't feel a need or a want to get married. Girl, you need to read more around this site; lots of girls get stuck where you are, and it's a shame. You shouldn't be giving it up until you are in a committed relationship.
2007-02-06 05:49:34 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋