how do i get through this?

Question

I just found out 30 min. ago that my grandma died from a heart attack and i was crying like there was no tomarrow. i slammed things, i through things. i went crazy! im a little better now because i know she went to heaven and theres no more pain for her but i need to know how i can deal through this pain in me! im hurt because i knew her my life and now shes gone. I need help! HELP ME!

Answer 1

I am SO sorry for your loss. I don't think there is any easy way to deal with this. Let yourself be sad and angry... we have these emotions for a reason. But then think of your grandmother... would she want you to stay angry and sad? Of course not. And if you know she is in heaven, draw strength from her faith and, I hope, your own. You will see her again.

It will hurt for a long time. It's supposed to - that's just what happens when we lose someone we love so much. Know that you will get through it and that she's still with you. I'll be praying for you. I mean that.

Answer 2

You are getting through it right now. Telling people is theroputic. However, you do need to go to a counselor perhaps at school, or to a friend and just talk it out.

I never really knew my grandparents, but Not long ago I lost both adoptive parents. Before that my brother had died and then my real father. These are tough issues. It is never easy loosing someone you love, and time is what is going to heal

There is a web group called groww. Grief recovery chat room, if you are under eighteen they have a room just for young people. That may help, I am in there from time to time. If you are over eighteen, there are all kinds of options for you.

If you blog, blog about it, if you write write about it. Visit the grave as often as possible when it comes reality.

I am very very sorry for your loss, I wish there was more that I could do to help you. I know the pain is deep. It is very deep. It will get better though. Just not now and maybe not even a year from now. It is ok to be angry, it is ok to cry, and it is ok to be sad, and when the time comes, it is ok to be happy and move on. You will get to a point where the greif is all you know and you will not want to leave it, and you will get to the new year and you want want to leave the old, because you will feel like you are leaving what is left of your grandmother behind, but you will get through it I promise. You will.

Answer 3

I'm sorry for the loss of your grandma I have lost my grandmother and my mother and I think its a hole in your heart that never goes away time helps but I never feel that my grandmother or mother are gone they are always with you they have taught us so many things keep doing everything they taught us make them proud and your right she is in heaven no more pain no more sorrow be happy she is in a better place I was crying so hard at my mothers funeral when a friend whispered in my ear I hear heaven is a great place I think of that often talk to your friends and family and remember your not alone god bless you and one day you will see her again

Answer 4

You're doing a good job. You just go ahead and cry and be mad you're allowed. The depth of your grief shows the depth of your feelings. It's hard to have someone go that you saw as a constant in your life. I'm sorry for you that she died so suddenly. That's even worse. When you can, you should write down all the things you loved about grandma. Favorite stories she would tell, the thing you always noticed about her. Put it in an envelope and open it next year on the anniversary of her passing. Then you'll still feel connected to this moment and won't feel like you're forgetting.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. My Uncle died of a heart attack and I was shattered. We were very close. The shock is the weirdest thing to get thru, but I found that crying helped. But most importantly, get together with your loved ones and TALK. Talk about your Grandma. Talk about all the wonderful things she did, all the loving things she said, what a wonderful person she was and all the funny memories. It helps, because it makes you realise, that altho they may be gone, they will never be forgotten.

I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 6

I'm very sorry about your loss. My grandfather died about 10 years ago and it was unbelievably painful. I went through a very long grieving process (about 7 years) and what you are experiencing is the pain of losing someone you love. I think it helped me to talk about him and the things I loved most about him. I also practiced patience with myself. You will heal over time but there is no right or wrong when it comes to grief. Be gentle with yourself.

Answer 7

My sympathy goes out to you. My grandmother died last year. I was sad and cried my eyes out at the funeral. You know what. The bible says when a person dies you suppose to rejoice. She's in a better place no more suffering. You are going to be okay just remember your grandmother is looking down at you and want you to move on;because everything is going to be okay.

Answer 8

talk to someone about it. just have them listen to you and say nothing back. Talk about everything you want to get stuff off your chest. But the hard part is prob. finding someone who will sit through all that and not be able to give their opinion. when you are ready ask for it. as to get your anger out, really try punching a pillow, you will feel much better having your anger go to something that wont break. It might tear, but pillows arent that expensive newayz.

Answer 9

Britney,
Life and death is a circle we all must follow. Your Grandmother is no longer with you, but she will always be with you in your memories and in your heart. It is OK for you to morn her and to feel sorry for yourself because you won't be seeing her. If it helps you, talk with her, but you will have to listen very intently to your heart hear her responses. Be good, remember her in the good times, and be happy because I'm sure she would want you to do these things.

Answer 10

i just want you to know that i feel for you girl and shes in heaven now with the angels watching over you ill pray for you.