should you always tell someone how you feel?

Question

i always struggle with emotions, with telling people what i feel and now im in a compromising situation where i feel that if i don't express my feelings i could get hurt...ambiguous and vague but if you could help...

Answer 1

depends on the situation.

in personal dealings, such as with family or significant others, hiding emotions can sometimes lead to a progressive problem. not being honest with those who mean the most to you can create alot of problems.

on the flip side, telling your boss he is a jerk might not always work for the best......

as a general rule, the more emotionally involved you are with a person, the more open with your feelings you should be.

Answer 2

This is indeed a bit vague......not sure whether you are talking about a romantic relationship or not. You have to understand that whenever you are "telling someone how you feel" you are making yourself vulnerable. You have to ask yourself what is at stake here? Is it worth it? How will this relationship change? these are things you need to ask yourself before you make that step.

I would advise you that.......make sure you are comfortable with yourself and the person so that even if things don't go as you would like them. At least you can still maintain a friendship.

Answer 3

Sometimes it is hard to sit down and talk about your feelings to someone especially when you have been hurt before or have a hard time expressing yourself.

Try writing a letter if it will help get your feelings out. Sometimes it is easier to write things out then talk about them face to face. It may help to just be alone with the person away from distractions, and just let them know it is important but your having a hard time.

I am sure they will appreciate your honesty and respect the fact that your trying to get your feelings out. good luck.

Answer 4

Diane, before you express your feelings on a subject, you really have to know who is going to hear it and if they are receptive and/or desire any input. You also have to discern if this is the right time to express your feelings. You should always tell the truth.

When your welfare is a stake, keeping quiet is not at all in your best interest.

Answer 5

If you could get hurt, then you need to tell the person. I struggle horribly with telling people when something's bothering me... and I'm recently coming to realize that just doing is it generally better for everyone, as long as you do it carefully, tactfully, and kindly.

Answer 6

Sometimes it is hard for me to open up fully and I hold it in & just take it with stride. And I've learned this sitting in the back seat holds you back. It is important to open up & tell someone how you feel. But be sure "how" you tell someone, is done with tact and not trying to attack. By not opening up, you will get walked on and manipulated... Trust me this is from experience, and I'm still trying to learn how to open up & express myself better. But by doing so, I've found the results to be positive.

Answer 7

Don't worry you're not the only person with this problem.When you really care about someone you should defenantly show your feelings because that person may feel like you don't really like/love them.When you're feeling angry or upset then always let that person know,or talk to someone about it because anger builds up and you'll end up taking it out on someone else.My fiance taught me to open up.Maybe it just may take that special person to make you open up and share your feelings.

Answer 8

no you should not always share your feelings.....if sharing your feelings will make you feel better but do nothing more than hurt some one else or transfer your burden then keep them to your self. Other wise need to know the situation

Answer 9

then, express your feelings. if you feel that you're going to get hurt, then you hate to tell someone. if you're in a situation where someone else will get hurt, then you probably shouldn't. it depends on what would happen and what it is.

Answer 10

you know people are different and have different emtions and personalities, if the person was sensitive , you can be confident to tell them to stop, it hurts, but if the person was mean or bad, it is better to ignore them what they say, and don't give them smiles or a look.