Ive always been pretty naive with people, I usually really trust people and always look for the good in them instead of the bad and thats affected my relationships and friendships tremendously and I dont know how to change because thats the norm for me. Recently something bad has happened to me and when I expected those that Ive always been there for to be there for me there was hardly anybody if anybody there for me. Im so naive i have always been there for all my friends I actually went above and beyond in alot of ways for people and the return i get is nothing but it always been like that im the one people take advantage of and i let them, my last relationship was the case of me being naive she put me through hell and til this day im not mad and i still love her and want her back, I dont know whats wrong with me, is this something i should see a professional about?? I just need to know what I can do??
2007-02-05 14:04:48 · 3 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am like you in a lot of ways. Unfortunately people take advantage of other people who are willing to do things and be nice. All I can say is that you need to learn to set limits to what you are willing to do, you need to ask for what you want from people, don't expect them to know what you want or to step up to the plate without any prompting. Say no sometimes when people ask you for stuff. Also, have some pride and self esteem. But most importantly, I'm saying this again because I think it's important, ask for what you want from people. A professional can help you with this stuff if you need help.
2007-02-05 14:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am like you 100%.
so I don't think I am naive, but I like to be around people who make me feel good and accepted, usually they are mind players, and psychological trickers, and I didn't knowthis, because they are very convincing that they care about me through their attitude.
However, I get to feel something inside me telling me that be carefull don't trust them, but I really can't live without firends or people, and I have to talk to them, but I tend to worry about my education, sometimes I help them but they don't help me only when they want something.
so don't be afraid, you get to see abusive people in this world even I do.
2007-02-05 14:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Summer O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for yourself
2007-02-05 14:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋