my boyfriend generally communicates well with me. he tells me when something's wrong, he makes a point of being totally honest with me at all times, if i'm doing something he doesn't like he'll let me know.....he even trusts me with his facebook password. if that's not ultimate trust then i dunno what is. but whenever something happens like he gets into a fight with someone or he's having a bad day or someone calls me up and says, "i think something happened 2 ur bf today, maybe u shud talk to him about it," he doesn't say a word. in situations like that, its always "nothing." it can't be a trust issue cuz we took care of that already, but why won't he just fill me in? he won't even tell me WHY he won't tell me......what am i supposed 2 do????
2007-02-05 13:59:57 · 5 answers · asked by jgmice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you got to understand men... pride is one of our major drawbacks when i come to talking about things that aren't respectable and easy for us to say. And when i comes to things we aren't proud of... it is even harder. Don't try and force him to answer, just let him know that no matter what has happened, you are there for him. I can't say he will open up, but it will help him know that you care.
2007-02-05 14:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of that book "Men are from Mars"!
It is true,men are programed so differently. When men have a problem, they like to retreat to their "caves" and think things out. They don't want your advise and most of the time don't think they need it.
Women always wnat to talk about everything, but he is not a talker and he has clearly shown you that. The more you ask him, the closer you get to him telling you to stop "nagging" him.
Best adviise is to let him have his 'quiet' time. The more often he shows you he cal trust you with the important things, then the more reason you should show him trust back by giving him his space. He will share those things with you when he is ready.
It is nothing personal, even though it feels that way. As you grow in your relationship, you will see that if you do this, he will find you more supportive because you gave him his "time" and his "space". He's not going anywhere, he just needs to be with himself to think about the situations.
Read the book, you will freak out.
2007-02-05 22:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by Chula E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it has anything to do with your relationship. Sometimes there are just things that don't need to be talked about. Maybe he got upset about something that just really wasn't important after he thought about it. If he needs to talk about something, I'm sure he will. Trust in him and give him alittle space.
2007-02-05 22:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes just a little heated up about things
when he cools down ask him again then tell him you feel left out of the relationship because of him not fully communicating with you.
2007-02-05 22:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Human 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you need to sit him down and have a seriouse takl but if you dont have tust issues than why do u have his password?not trying to be mean maybe he trusts u but do you trust him?i mean if you did than u realy dont need his password for anything unless you think something is going on and dont trust him.
im just saying u know ya'll need to talk bout it and you need to express y u want to know bout it
2007-02-05 22:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by babyboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋