my bf and i have been together for almost 2 years, he has child by another female that he goes and sees every week, my thing is why does he have to go over to the mothers house to spend time with the child? when i ask him he says that she will cry because shes not use to him, i have seen his daughter 2 times shes almost 1 what to do
2007-02-05 13:54:45 · 14 answers · asked by bl0win.bubblez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
am i the only one who noticed that you have been with the guy for 2 years but his daughter is almost one? so he has a daughter that was born because he cheated on you. now that i have that out of the way did he do anything to require him to have to have supervised visits with his child? what you need to figure out is whether or not he is still cheating on you with this girl or not. because it seems to me that there is no reason for a almost 1 year old child to be up until 11pm. i dont know any child who would be in a very good mood being awake that long. it sounds to me, and i am very sorry to say this, that he is cheating on you with the same woman he cheated with before. and really why wouldn't he?
it seems to me like you love your bf very much so this will be really hard to hear. you showed him once that not only was it ok to cheat on you but that it was totally ok to have a child with the other woman. and you stayed with him. what i am saying is that in his head, if he cheats he will be forgiven.. i know that is not what you want to hear but it seems to me from all the men i know who have cheated and gotten away with it that they will continue to do so until you put your foot down. my honest suggestion is to let him go. it will hurt......alot, but in the end you will find a guy who is not a raging assbag. and maybe one day he wont be an assbag any more. thats is how i learned. i used to cheat all the time. then i got dumped and she told every girl on earth; as near as i could tell, that i was a no good cheater. it shaped me up. i hope you make the right decision.
2007-02-05 14:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by big_john_719 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 20 month old daughter goes to bed at 11 every night, the same time as my husband and myself. He works 12 - 14 hours a day and it's the only time a day she gets to see her Daddy. Of course she doesn't get up at 7 am though, more like 9 or 10 when she wakes up. We then go about our day like most normal families and have meals, just a little later than everyone else. I do think that your friend should put them to bed a little earlier if they have to get up at 7 am because 8 hours is not enough for a child of 2 or 4. They need about 10 hours of sleep for their growing bodies and alertness. I would make a comment to her or ask her why she does this. There may be a reason.
2016-05-23 22:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your BF that you are sick of him going over there or go and see the mother of the child and tell her how you feel about it then wait to see what happens and Good Luck
2007-02-05 13:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by Samboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there are some trust issues there,he is trustworthy or he isn't.........only you know that answer..if he cares how you feel about that arrangement and how it affects you .he might be willing to try something else..perhaps the child could start coming to your house for short periods of time...you need to decide if this is all worth it for you and if you really do matter here at all..he sees her every week ..and she's not used to him yet?? hummmmmmm
2007-02-05 14:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by shasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never get in the way of a father and child relationship and if they aren't or have never been married I don't blame him for just going over there trust me hunny I have been in that same situation.
2007-02-05 14:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY OUT OF IT!!!
this is his relationship with his daughter and has nothing to do with you.
you have been with him for 2 years so you are not a fly by night girlfriend that will disapear any time soon.
BUT if you want to keep it that way, keep quiet about what goes on with his daughter. trust me if you make a big deal out of this, you will loose in the end!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-05 13:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel about the situation, hopefully he'll understand how you feel. Also, the girl should grow out of the phase as soon as she realizes her dad's part in her life. Good luck!
2007-02-05 13:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Elusive ()Ne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ur child lived sumwhere else and you only get to see ur child once a week wouldnt u want to spend as much time with her as possible?
2007-02-05 14:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by kaykay<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust him till he gives you reason not to. Sounds legit to me.
Could be something, but could be nothing at all.
Just play it a day at a time and hopefully all will work out.
Good luck.
2007-02-05 14:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my name is chantori i think that they r messing around because u dont stay at ya baby mom's house til 11p.m and nothings going on maybe have him sit down and talk 2 u and tell him to tell u the truth...and if it's true idk what u should do probably slap him because you dont break anyone heart or hurt anyone you care about send me e-mails keep in-touch!!!!!! or he probab ly just love his daughter alot snoop around and find out!!!!!!!!
2007-02-05 14:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋