best way to get over a break-up?

Question

I'm not looking for a rebound guy, I just want something I can do for myself to make me feel better and get over it.. any ideas?

Answer 1

try to do some activities that you usually didnt do it

Answer 2

So - do you have any outside interests besides your relationship? Do you like art, Music, hobbies of any sort? Do you like to help others?...volunteer! As long as you can take the focus off of your problems, it might help you bear up better when you put the attention on something else besides your needs.

It doesn't mean you can't feel sad, or lonely at times. If you need a good cry - then Cry, by all means. Break ups are traumatic, unless you're glad it's over. Consider what made the break up happen - did you learn anything about this situation that you might want to avoid the next time you meet someone? What did you learn about yourself?

I don't know how old you are - but the truth is - most relationships become better as you mature. The more you get to know about who you are - the better choices you might be able to make.

I was single for almost 18 years, after my first and only divorce. It was the best time of my life! And I learned to do alot of things during that growing period - I was 28 at the time. I met my 2nd husband by the time I was in my 40's.

When I was in a relationship JUST to be in a relationship - it was always about the guy, and not about what I wanted. Once I realized that my needs are important, I could focus better on my own happiness. Not in a selfish way, but in a way that created some boundaries and better understanding of what makes me happy. Trust me, a man isn't what makes a person happy. Unless you are already a happy person - no one can create that type of life for you. And Happy People attract Other Happy People, for the most part.

Hope this helps a bit. Don't be in a hurry to meet someone special. BE SPECIAL first - and the right person just might show up for you.

Thanks
Juliana

Answer 3

It may just take some time, unfortunately. Breakups are painful, just remind yourself that this is a chance to become stronger as a person.
Don't be afraid to cry, and let it out; give yourself a little time to grieve your relationship, but make sure to move on when it's time, too. That's all you can do.

However, you can always try and treat yourself to something special; maybe something small. Go out for ice cream with a friend, go to a movie you've been really excited about, but yourself a new outfit, watch the sun set. Anything you can enjoy; laughter is the best medicine in some cases. :-)

I was recently in a pretty bad car wreck and was having trouble sleeping; the moment I laid down, that's where my mind went. A good friend told me, just give it time- eventually, your mind will tire of it and you'll move on. And she was right. It will, certainly, take longer for a relationship, but the same does apply.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

I say if your boyfriend broke up with you. Theres a guy at every bus stop. And if you broke up with him , it means he wasn't right for you. You can do better. Breaking up is hard . I'm a guy and when I break up it hurts but I won't let it show. Think of it this way your single and you can do whatever you want your free. No more being tied down. You can enjoy more time with your friends. It great to have a companion,but at the same time , it sucks not being able to see other people and not being able to chill with your friends all the time. To behonest its funnier to have a female friend than a girlfriend for me,because I know I can just be myself and not have to please anyone. I just say go find yourself a nice guy to hang with. I'm sure most guys in my opinion like me would rather have a female friend that a girlfriend ,because sometimes relationships are stressful. At the same time other guys might need a girl friend to get some motivation. You have your whole life to find Mr. Right. I say go enjoy your life , then when your ready Mr. Right will probably come to you. I'm the type of guy that isn't clingy. I will not beg. If theres something there for me it will come to me. I bet there a bunch of guys who are looking for a girl like you. Good Luck and hopefully I didn't put you to sleep with my speech

Answer 5

ohh kay i have a few things
1.this may sound dumb to you but i just like let myself become realli sad. like i mean dont get all depressed but i listened to sad love songs and watched sad love movies and after about a few hours to a few days you'll be soooo cried out that theres nothing you can do but be happy.
2.i also talked on the phone with my friends and told them exactly what happened and they listened to me and comforted me.
3. also, if you dont find those good, find ur favorite snack or food and watch ur favorite movie (that doesnt have anything to do with romance) and just sit by urself and watch it or, go for a walk, or pamper yourself like take a bath and do a facial for yourself {{when i feel sad or sick i dress up and make myself look pretty which is sometimes the best cure}}

Answer 6

No ideas from me. I stick with what works... The rebound girl .............. (DON'T TAKE MY ADVICE I'M STILL SINGLE) OK now i'm sad.............but check this out ,look at how many positive answers you've recieved from total strangers. You must be a good girl.

Answer 7

Start with yourself. Classes, volunteer, join a professional group or just start a new hobby. After you take time for yourself, get involved with something that you enjoy. Be strong and beautiful.

Answer 8

Its hard to come up with the perfect solution but the best choice is to pray and to socialize with other people because if you don't you'll catch yourself thinking about the previous relationship and that will drive you wild. So like i said, i recommend you socialize with other men....i know its harder said then done but its the best solution

Answer 9

Get a crush on someone. You don't have to do anything with them but it's a good idea to have someone with qualities you like in a guy to take your mind off your ex.

Answer 10

Just go do something for yourself. Get your hair done, do up your make up, then go out with your girlfriends. It will be good for you. Also, write a letter saying all that you are feeling and write it to the one whom hurt you. Get it all out, write it and cry if you need to. When you are done writing it, rip it up and burn it so you are not tempted to give it to him. Write it as much as you need to and tear it up.

Answer 11

To get over a break up is to make your self feel good and if he broke up with you so him what he is missing or if you broke up with him try to forget about him and git him out of your life!!!!!!!