There is this man that has been in my life for two and a half years. Just when I think I am over him and that I have moved past my feelings for him something happens that makes me see how deeply I am in love with him. And I am just not sure what to do! He lives in a different state and he feels that because of our age difference and our geographical difference it will never work. But I love him... He is always there for me when life takes sharp turns. We discussed once how we were falling in love, but I am afraid to bring it up again. If moving past him is what I should do, how do I do that? In case you need to know. I am 27, he is 38. And I live in the midwest, and he lives on the east coast.
2007-02-05 13:39:43 · 12 answers · asked by hougie21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I think that its really important when your trying to get over someone to keep yourself space from that person. You may be able to be friends down the road but right now you shouldn't see him, email him, or talk to him. And thats something you may have to tell him is the best thing for you right now to move on. Good luck!
2007-02-05 13:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My strongest and first instinct is to tell you to pursue this relationship. You are young - young enough to pack it all into a U-Haul and relocate. Find something close to him. Take the time to discover whether this relationship is headed somewhere. If you don't move closer, you will always be going back and forth as in the past. If you are right there - close by - you will be able to see how it will be to be a part of his life on a daily basis. Show him that you are serious about finding out where this could go. That age difference shouldn't really matter at your age. You're old enough and hopefully mature enough to take the next step. Whatever you do, don't go through the rest of your life never knowing if you did all you could. Just do it! And I really hope it all works out for you. Best of luck.
2007-02-05 13:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by pamela f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think once past 25 age differences are far less important in relationships as most of the growth and maturing has been done by then
geography can be more of a problem tho and perhaps he is too settled where he is at to be able to be flexible enough to accommodate a relationship?
either way he ought to have thought about that before getting up close and personal before backing out
if he wont commit i would leave him and move on to someone better able to appreciate what you have to offer
you sound like someone who communicates well and has a lot to offer and wish you well
2007-02-05 13:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several things you need to look at....Is he just making excuses? Does he really want you? If you really are in love then nothing should stand in the way. The age difference is NOTHING, NOTHING at all. The only question is if you are single and do not have children then why do you not move closer to him. If it is family, you can visit, email and have webcam. If children are involved it can get a little more complicated. I know what it is like to love someone and not be able to be with them. Go for it, girl. If it is true love, GO FOR IT!!!!!!
2007-02-05 13:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him again how you feel, and if he still says you 2 can't betogether. Then I would move on... you need to find hobbies that you enjoy doing to pass the time. Reading, go to a movie, shopping, whatever it is you enjoy doing. Hope this helps.
2007-02-05 13:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Dolphin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boundaries/Territories & long distances can never be a obstacle if you are sincere & devoted to your love. So don't haste have patience time will unite you if your thoughts are pure.
2007-02-05 13:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your afraid to talk to him, then nothings going to happen. he's already resolved to not have a relationship with you. You need to talk to him and open up.
2007-02-05 13:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by Charlie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him.
If this doesn't work then it is time to move on.
They have to go both ways not just one.
2007-02-05 13:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...............i think you should try to think pf him more as an older brother. hes kinda old 4 u dont ya think? thats like an 11 year old dating a 22 year old think about it or u dating a 16 year old think about it...
2007-02-05 13:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either pursue something with him...or don't. You don't want to be crushed because he cant make up his mind.
2007-02-05 13:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋