Should the EX be there?

Question

My Ex boyfriend and I broke up on bad terms. We were friends since we were little, and began to date our junior year in high school. After a year and a half, I found out he was cheating on me the whole time. After the break up, he still wanted to remain friends, and I spoke to him a few times, but that was it. A year after the break up I met my fiance. my Ex boyfriend's little brother is good friends with my little brother, and so, he knows I'm getting married. He sent me an email the other day saying that he wishes me the best, and that he envys my fiance for being lucky enough to be the one to "keep me". The little brother is going to be there because he and my little brother are always hanging out together. Further more, my parents are good friends with the Ex's parents, and the parents are going to be there as well. I don't mind his parents being there, they are nice people. Should I let them bring the EX boyfriend or not??

Answer 1

i'm in a similar situation on both my side AND my fiance's. the most similar (almost identical actually) is my fiance's situation. his ex is from a family who is great friends with his family, and the sister is BEST friends with my fiance's older sister. their family is invited, and i have no idea honestly if they will bring the ex along. i DO know that she herself signed our wedding webpage guest book, so im worried she will. if she does, oh well, the 2 families are good friends, and ya know what? i got him, not her. my OWN situation is that my highschool sweetheart and i ended (a few times, haha) on bad terms and mutual terms, alternating until the very end when it was mutual. i wanted to be friends, but for years everytime we tried he would ask me back out. finally a few months ago i found his family on myspace and have since been able to become friends, years later. anyway, i want to invite his family and him to the wedding, but still havent approached my fiance about it. im pretty sure he would be fine with it, especially since we have already talked about the possibility of HIS ex winding up there. the bottom line is, its YOUR wedding, your fiance got you, not the ex, and im sure both boys know this. it sure sounds like your ex has grown up and has nothing but well wishes for you, so i say, don't put anything like "leave out my ex" on the invite, and let his family decide if they will bring him.

Answer 2

I think, out of respect for you and your new husband, they wouldn't bring him. Just because your parents and brother are still involved with other members of his family doesn't give him a reason to be there. Your ex shouldn't wanna put himself or you through that. It would be uncomfortable for you to see him there and ruin your wedding. Don't have him there if you want a good day. Let the past stay there. I am sure his family will fill him in on the details later.

Answer 3

Absolutely not! He broke your heart and cheated on you. Unless you had become good friends throughout the years and are now friends, there is no reason for you to invite him. He's still a bad memory and brings bad karma with him. You don't want any bad karma at your wedding because it should be one of the best days of your life!

Answer 4

Make sure your fiance is ok with it first, if he isn't, don't invite him, it'll just make it uncomfortable for the both of you, and your suppose to be happy, it's IS only one of the MOST IMPORTANT days of your life. Just imagine, you, your fiance and your ex in the same room, and he's not comfortable with it? Just a little wierd. If he is ok with it, invite him, but pay plenty of attention on your fiance and not a whole lot on your ex.<<<

Answer 5

Make sure it's ok with your soon to be husband and if so then there's no reason he shouldn't be there. I personally think it's rude to invite his whole family and not him but I can see where your fiance wouldn't want him there. I invited my ex to my wedding... he didn't show... maybe you'll get as lucky?!

Answer 6

I think if you had broken up on mutual terms, or even kept in better touch, an invite to him wouldn't be such a horrible thing. But neither is the case. Personally, I wouldn't.
If his family is as nice as you make them out to be, they'll understand why he isn't invited. Don't feel obligated to invite him because his family is attending.
It's your day. Do what you think will make you happy =)

Answer 7

I would say HELL NO! my ex and i broke up on horrible terms,... we broke up since i have feelings for someone else and he not only sensed that but also pinpointed it to the right person,... he cursed me out last time i talked to him telling me if i were to marry this person he would never talk to me again.... since i told him HELL NO i am going to do what i want i havent talked to him since.
i would suggest leaving the ex out and if his family has been a part of your life than they should be a part of your wedding too. its no longer about your ex and if he cant handle it too bad. your wedding day is for you and your husband make sure that that day is nothing but happiness for the both of you. you only have one wedding day!

Answer 8

I am still very good friends with my Ex and he will be invited to my wedding! Your new fiance should understand!

Answer 9

Don't invite him. That is just bad.
I could never imagine inviting an ex to my wedding. Especially not one that cheated on me. NOT good. And I have a feeling your man wouldn't like that either.

Answer 10

Don't listen to peaches she's always negative. I'd let him come to the wedding. It's no big deal, and he's wished you the best success in this marriage. So let him show up, he more than likely won't stay long.