My best friend is a guy, and he's kinda depressed as it is. I kind of forced him into doing it, he was reluctant but he did it anyways and he was really good... anyway, eversince we had sex together, he has been aboiding me, or so it seems, like not even a hi in the hallway at school. He isn't acting like a jerk, like a lot other guys do but it seems as if he may just be uncomfortable around me now. I am not sure what to do, or even if our friendship is gone, for good?
2007-02-05 13:14:37 · 28 answers · asked by Booboo doll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think your friendship is gone, he maybe confused your in high school so its normal that he feels a bit strange cause you were friends and then you sleep together.. i think you need to talk to him and let him know that you just want to keep the friendship and please forgive you for any inconvenience.
but if you like him afterwords i think you should be honest with yourself and do what u feel like, you can lie to him but not to you.. there is a reason why you decided and kind of forced with to sleep with u. so think about it.
good luck.
2007-02-05 13:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by scarlett g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. you sort of forced yourself on him, now he is avoiding you and you ask if your friendship is gone and you are not sure what to do.. I would not try a thing.. Do not push yourself on him again.. Give him space, and time. If he has not approached you in a month or so.. then write a few words in a note telling him how you regret the loss of his friendship, apologize for hurting him and tell him you wish him well..
If he cares for your friendship and is over what happened and feels secure you won't push yourself on him again, til he is ready, be friends and leave it at that. If the friendship becomes more than friends...let him take it to the next level.. You have done all you could do and do not push it this time.. Good Luck.
2007-02-05 13:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "forced" him...I don't think so. If he didn't want to have sex then he wouldn't have. Work on keeping the friendship going, even though it'll never be the same. The key here is for you to "force" him to talk to you, and the hallway at school isn't the right place for that, to be sure!
2007-02-05 13:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by imadumas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still like him? If so you should get him to talk to you and apologize about what happened that if he wasn't ready you feel bad for forcing him into it. You should tell him that you value your guys friendship and don't want the wierdness and ask him why he feels that way. Not much else unless you want things to get worse talking is the best way to get the problem solved
2007-02-05 13:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jess_Eka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like the insecure type... you may have meant well by sleeping with him because he's depressed, but you made things worse... he may confused, and probably uncertain about what he should do or have done. I seriously doudt he'll tell the whole school that you slept with him, but he probably needs a friend, something you need to be if you're his best friend.
2007-02-05 15:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you lost a good friend.
Friends are NOT for these kind of things. If he was depressed, now he must feel worse. And you should apologize to him. You took advantage of him. Not only guys can be jerks.
2007-02-05 13:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Dulcinea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably still sorting out in his mind what to do and/or say.Let him know you are concerned that you haven't talked. Then,give him some room and hope for the best the friendship isn't trashed.
2007-02-05 13:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by rockman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when you force them to have sex with you then well be careful because it is consisted rape so give him space and time to straiten everything out and if he is really wanting to be friends again then he will let him know in the meantime just keep smiling he might be afraid
2007-02-05 13:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dorinda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry he's just confused right now, he might be thinking that your "maybe thinking not good thoughts about him" bcoz he had sex with you even your the one who force him... explain to him your reasons, your thoughts about him after you had sex with him,, maybe in that way,, some things might cleared out from his mind. just try! Gudluck,
dont think its the end of your friendship.
2007-02-05 13:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by jhust b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely since you kind of forced him into having sex with you. Your friendship is ruined.
2007-02-05 13:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by mandi 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋