I was in a relationship with my ex for several years and just recently we broke up. I will admit it has not been the easiest time in my life and what makes things more difficult is the fact that we are not able to comminicate anymore and when we do speak arguments occur, which makes the situation even more stressful. I have told myself the best thing is to cut off all ties with her, especially since the main reason we broke up was from the verbal abuse that I endured in our relationship. I noticed that my feelings were changing for this person for a very long time but I just could not bring myself to break up with her, until finally i confronted her with her abusive ways and all she could do is deny her actions! While my feelings were fading for her I realized that I had developed feelings for her sister. This makes me feel very guilty but I cant help the way I feel anymore even if it does make me a horrible person. Everyday I wish i could tell her how I feel but I am afraid to.
2007-02-05 13:13:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Btw the sister likes me as well and I think me and my ex's relationship made her very jealous. I know I probably will get hell from my ex if I tell her how I really feel but why not tell her if she has the same feelings.
2007-02-05 13:29:47 · update #1
Your not horrible but some of these responses are! Its your time to redeem yourself meaning you should do what makes you happy in life. If you like this girl and she likes you the fact that they are siblings should not matter. Your ex sounds like she could care less and im sure she would be a lil hurt but you have to think about how she hurt you when you were together. Only thing you did wrong was not choose the other sister first. I would tell her how you feel and stop being afraid!
2007-02-05 14:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not horrible, but you are making bad choices for yourself. Get away from your ex and her family. Do you possibly think that by dating her sister that your issues with your ex will go away? Also, don't be surprised if her sister has similar issues; they did come from the same family, after all.
Listen, there are lots of great women out there looking for a good man. The time you spend (waste?) on lost causes and individuals who put your well-being at risk, you could be spending meeting someone who is sweet, baggage-free, and who doesn't make you feel like a 'horrible person.'
Think about why you make the relationship choices you make - are you a glutton for punishment? Do you feel like you deserve better? You should. Aim higher.
2007-02-05 13:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lori 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for her sister you can leave her alone. a sisters relationship is usually very close. I have 2 sisters we are inseparable. You will really put a bad vibe on their relationship. I agree no one should have to go thru horrible verbal abuse, however it sounds to me like you have probably had your eyes on her the whole time. you feel guilty because you should. and didn't you know she was this kind of person you should not have let the relationship drag on like that. anyhow, you should go single for awhile and try to figure out what you really need com paired to what you really want. good luck.
2007-02-05 13:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by siayae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is her sister worth th verbal abuse you're going to get from you ex.
Believe me, she's told her sister all about you. If her sister's open to a reltionship, then you've a big clue that she thinks your ex is full of s***.
But beware, you'll have the worst sister-in-law ever, if it goes the distance.
You're not a bad person, tell her. You may get shot down, but that'll just make it easier to get the emotional distance from your ex going.
If she tells your ex, you'll get more verbal abuse, but that'll help the distance too.
If you don't, you'll always wonder.
2007-02-05 13:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh oh you better leave her sister alone because Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned and you will ruin her relationship with her sister..
2007-02-05 13:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem jap, and performance a swatsika on your call Ahh, you comprehend in WW2 Nazi-Germany and Japan under no circumstances coordinated any defense force or political manuevers in the course of the conflict. They were in common terms linked with one yet another, no longer a real defense force alliance. They both considered one yet another inferior also.. So, why do you've a swatsika after your jap call?
2016-11-25 19:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by inabinet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your horrible, but i think if you move on with her sister too quickly things can get UGLY. You first need to somehow work out your problems with your ex. Once you can become friendly with each other, its probably ok to pursue sis.
2007-02-05 13:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by confronting her. You cannot help your feelings and you should not be afraid of them. Life is too short to live with regret. take care Heather
2007-02-05 13:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not horrible. if you wait too long to tell this girl, your feelings for her might leave. this ex, she may have a tough time getting through that if you tell her sis, but confront her and tell her(the sis) hen explain to your ex before somebody else does. that would be bad :(
2007-02-05 13:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes it does.
2007-02-05 13:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by rowdy7802 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋