Hi, I just started a babysitting job. I bring my 18month old boy with me when I watch the 2 year old boy and 9year old girl. The girl is no prob., but when my son has one of the boy's toys he screams, MINE! and takes it, then they start fighting over it. I took the toy away, but it happens OVER and OVER. When the other little boy gets reprimanded for taking the toy, he lets out a SHRIEK! I don't know what to do. The little girl started crying the other night, saying she couldn't handle all the screaming. How can I get these two to get along and share?
2007-02-05 13:13:07 · 6 answers · asked by Dramarama 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It is a common problem among the "terrible twos" age and it caused distress among everyone around them. You have to keep re-enforcing the sharing policy with the two year old. You can try getting the older sister to show the sharing rule, most younger kids look up to their older siblings.
The key is consitancy, if they can not share then take the toy away for the entire night. You can also work on the switching thing. Give one person one toy and give the other another one to keep them occupied.
The timer also works explain that when it goes off it is the other's turn to play with the toy. It is also likely that they will get distracted by another toy also.
2007-02-05 14:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharing is learned and 2 is a difficult age to get kids to share. If there are one or two toys that he doesn't want to share its ok, maybe you could find something else to distract your son with. But when he does not want to share anything you could try asking him if when he is done, could your son play with it. If he says no tell him he has to share. If he still refuses then yes, by all means take the toy away. it is too bad if he shrieks. Eventually he will learn but it may take some time. Try to find something else for them all to do to minimize the drama, again a distraction. it is really not your job to teach him to share, that should be left up to his parents so distraction is probably all that you can do for now. This just takes time for kids and as they are around other kids more they pick it up.
2007-02-05 13:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by luvmykids 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with giving attention to the victim and not the aggressor.....you should also ask parents of the 2 year old what they do if he doesn't share....give him a time out in a different room....i would also bring some of your sons toys and if the 2 year old takes them then tell him that they are not his and if he can't share his toys than he can't play with them.....he most likely isn't use to having to share his toys....try to keep them as separate as you can......
2007-02-05 13:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by Rhylie and Paiyden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be an example over and over - and over. And say how you're sharing something. Always comfort the victim then, take the attention away from the agressor, and they'll be jealous and hopefully less likely to "steal"
2007-02-05 13:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by lillilou 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would bring a bag of "goodies" for your son and establish this is yours and this is yours have them play in seperate spots that way they are not in "reach" of each other.
then sit down with the two of them and slowly show them how to play together....
ie: take two cars show them how to ride them on the floor and eventually they will learn to parallel play
or take a ball show them how to play catch and roll....
they are a little small to fully understand parallel play but if you show them eventually they will understand.... and maybe even you could have the little girl to "help" you show them how to parallel play that way it is an activity for all.
2007-02-05 13:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by vkewl182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get ur 18month boy his own toys
u can't expect 2 little boys to share
hell me and my little bro can't share...
i 13 and he 4
get them to have their own toys
2007-02-05 13:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋