my daughter is almost 9 and some of her friends are maturing alot quicker than she is. She hasn't asked questions yet but i think it only a matter of time. Does any one agree with me in saying that little girls aren't that little anymore and when is it appropriate to burden them with all the confusion of growing up?
2007-02-05 13:11:17 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To be honest with you, I agree with you that little girls aren't that little anymore because in today's society sex is everywhere and I do mean Everywhere. What I mean, it's best to tell your daughter now before she hears it from her friends or someone else, it's best to get the answers early and from her mom. I think you need to tell her now because there are sexual molestors and predators out here including rapists, etc. and I think you need to protect your daughter because you don't want anyone to snatch her innocence from her and you want her to know the pros and cons of these natures. Tell her now - tell her about everything and I do mean, Everything!
2007-02-05 13:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dimples 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-05 13:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by JACKHOFF 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, let's be realistic. There is the HUGE likelihood that your daughter's friends have already told her what she needs to know (or their versions, anyway!) about sex.
By the time I was 9, I had neighbors who had already informed me of what their parents said, what they caught their sister doing, what the book they read, said, etc. By the time my mother (in her crazy "wisdom") decided to have the talk with me at 13, I already knew everything she said -- PLUS some!
Besides which, she was so obviously nervous about having that conversation, I was embarassed on her behalf!!! And, frankly, 15 years later, I STILL cannot have any conversation with my mother regarding sex, boyfriends, bras, boobs, periods, etc. She can't handle the conversations and topics and her prudish attitude makes me so upset, I can't deal it! So we just don't go there. She tries occassionally (b/c it makes her feel "cool") but... she's so uncomfortable, she fails miserably.
The best thing to do is casually bring it up. If you make a big deal out of this, you're NEVER going to be able to have an open dialogue with her about sex again. You must be relaxed and honest with her, no matter WHAT the questions she asks.
9 is NOT too early in today's society where there is so much sexuality on tv's, comptuers, movies, etc. She's aware of sex... now its your turn to fill in the blanks an ensure she's got all the right information.
2007-02-05 16:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-05 13:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by pAul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got my period talk at nine when I got my period. I thought I was bleeding to death!!!! I was scared out of my mind. So please don't hold off on this particular issue as it may come sooner than you think and scare your child.
Additionally, be aware that she is learning alot more from her friends than you think. Kids know more about that stuff now and they TALK TO EACH OTHER. I remember knowing stuff, but not really understanding, if that makes sense. It's better she knows and understands what's going on. You have no way of knowing what information is being given by peers, or if it's even correct.
Additionally, kids are having sex alot younger nowadays, maybe they wouldn't be if parents weren't so afraid to bring up the issue and explain that sex(of any kind) has serious consequences.
You may not like it, but chances are your daughter knows more than you think. Arm her with knowledge that doesn't come from other schoolkids.
2007-02-05 13:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The talk should have begun when she first asked the difference between boys and girls. Then it should have been an ongoing learning process as apropriate for her age and maturity.
Yes you need to start the talk NOW. My mother got her first period at 9. I was in a B cup in the 4th grade. Now is the time.
2007-02-05 15:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you don';t have to talk to her about everything, she is only 9, maybe she needs to know some basic things about girl and boy, and you give her some rules what she can do and what not allowed to do, and to what age she has total freedom to decide what she wants.
A child at 9 is a child, she will learn from his friend, but you can tell her if she has any question, she can ask you.
2007-02-05 13:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a sister who also just went through that stage. She came home sometimes and would ask me questions like, "What's and STD?"(i'm her older brother) Everytime I asked her why she wanted to know, she answered straight away and seemingly truthfully, "My friends make fun of me because I have no idea what some of the stuff they talk about means." If she is somewhat mature, it is definately time. Most young people just want to know this stuff, but don't want you to know because they are a little afraid you might make fun of them.
2007-02-05 13:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like 10, or 11, I guess it is better to know about that stuff earlier so she is aware because the real, serious stuff will start at around 13 oe 12. That's just like a warm up.
2007-02-05 13:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by iPodFan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i remember i hated the talk and I came up to my mom when I was ready. in 5th grade we had someone come in our school and talk to us about it and after that I knew for the most part. Id say dont rush it so that shes uncomfortable, just wait it out a little bit. Id say by 11 years old though.
2007-02-05 13:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋