How to convince wife to let me go to Israel for 1 week?

Question

I have been drawn to visit the Holy land for about 18 months now. I want to visit Israel and stay in the Christian Quarter to visit the Holy sites. It would cost little because I have frequent flyer miles! My wife of 20 years has no desire to go. My wife is afraid I will be harmed in a terrorist attack. I know I would be safe. I want to go real bad!! Thanks for your help---

Answer 1

If her only objection is about safety, arm yourself with some statistics. Look at how many people in the US are killed every day in car accidents vs. how many people in Israel are killed in terrorist attacks.

And, acknowledge her fear. Of course, there's a minute chance you will be harmed somehow in your travels. But that chance is so small it is outweighed by the benefits.

But, she's worried about you, so you should be happy about that. Just keep reassuring her you'll be okay (you will!), and that it's a great place. My husband lived there off and on for three years. He was never harmed in any way.

Answer 2

i live here for 37 years. y ,and my son,and my two daughters where in the army, they live in zfat,the youngest 1,the other in a moshav near Lebanon.my sisters and mother near tel aviv ,and i forget to mention my grandsons. no body was hurted,and nobody is afraid from security issues, of course,why are afraid of transit accident, of the flue, and other nonsenses. you and your wife can be sure that is safer here than at your neighborhood, and ,being she a young woman, why don't you come with her, enjoy this beautifully land and people,visit so many interesting places, and you will have what to tell to all your friends ,that contrary to the news, which peacefully and nice is this country.
if y was guided by what y see in T.V about the states, y will not travel to U.S.A in my life, Like somebody said,if a dog attack a human,it's not news,if a human attack a dog.... that is big news.

Answer 3

I wouldn't worry about terrorism. Israel's security is great and the chance of being in a terrorist attack is slim to none. I might stay out of Sderot right now, but other than that go to Jerusalem, Tel Aviv, Tzfat (Safed), the Dead Sea, Haifa, Masada, etc. I noticed somebody saying that you're more likely to be killed in a motor accident in the U.S. than in a terrorist attack in Israel and I thought that was pretty funny because if you will fear anything in Israel, it is definitely the drivers. In Jerusalem they drive like crazy, but I wouldn't worry about that because Israeli drivers are nuts but they get you where you need to be. If you take a cab, make sure to get a price before you start instead of paying what is on the moneh (meter).

Answer 4

Hi mark
Its good that you are so inclined towards visiting the holy land. but have you ever tried thinking from a woman's perspective. You know you will be safe there but have you ever wondered how painful it will be for your wife to spend those moments away from you , those scary moments when she will always be praying to god for your safety , she will be crying inside her heart , those sleepless nights she will be spending thinking about your safety.God forbid but if something really happens to you then what will happen of her . If one really loves his partner he would never do something that might have an adverse effect on his partners life. Just ask yourself one question " would you let her go to such a place " if yes then no problem go ahead and if your answer is no then i hope you have got your answer. And let me tell you one thing God is everywhere you don't need to go to any particular place to feel close to him , its inside you so if you to a local church and pray to god with a clean mind you will see him beside you ALWAYS.

Answer 5

You have a better chance of being injured on a freeway anywhere in the U.S. than you do going to Israel. Same with Iraq.

Answer 6

I personally think your nuts. Your wife has valid concerns and your belittling them isn't helping any. A marriage is filled with compromise but you don't seem to understand that. If despite her objections you chose to go anyway make sure you provide for your wife with a very large insurance policy with her as the beneficiary.

Answer 7

Buy a life insurance policy that names her primary beneficiary.

Answer 8

I don't blame your wife one little bit.
The Israeli women are the most beautiful in the whole world.

The wife's jealous.

Answer 9

Your wife is right.

Answer 10

Your government State Department says:

January 17, 2007

This Travel Warning is being issued to update information on the general security environment in Israel, Jerusalem, the West Bank, and the Gaza Strip, and to reiterate threats to American citizens and U.S. interests in those locations. The Department of State urges U.S. citizens to remain mindful of security factors when considering travel to Israel and Jerusalem at this time. In addition, the Department of State urges U.S. citizens to defer travel to the West Bank and to avoid all travel to the Gaza Strip. This warning supersedes the Travel Warning issued August 29, 2006.

Overall, conditions of lawlessness -- including running gun battles and kidnappings -- prevail in the Gaza Strip; daily incidents of intra-Palestinian violence also occur in the West Bank. Violent demonstrations and armed conflicts between supporters of Palestinian factions have increased in both areas. Security forces and militiamen have engaged in running gun battles in the streets of Gaza, and individual members of factions and the security forces have been targeted for assassination, some successfully. Areas of violent conflict shift rapidly and unpredictably. Foreigners have been subject to threats and kidnappings.

American citizens in the Gaza Strip should depart immediately, a recommendation that the State Department has maintained and renewed since the deadly roadside bombing of a U.S. Embassy convoy in Gaza on October 15, 2003. This recommendation applies to all Americans, including journalists and aid workers. Militants have continued to abduct Western citizens, and terrorist organizations have threatened attacks against U.S. interests.

Militant groups in Gaza persist in launching rocket attacks against nearby Israeli towns despite a nominal ceasefire there. The IDF (Israeli Defense Forces) has been authorized to respond to such attacks with counterstrikes against launch areas while launch crews are present. It also continues to carry out security operations in the West Bank, including infrequent, airborne targeted attacks and ground incursions, which have led to the deaths and injuries to bystanders. Rocket fire from Lebanon has ceased since the passage of UN Security Council Resolution 1701 in August 2006.

In recent months, some Americans and Europeans involved in demonstrations and other such activities in the West Bank have become involved in confrontations with Israeli settlers and the IDF. The State Department recommends that Americans, for their own safety, avoid demonstrations.

For safety and security reasons, U.S. Government American personnel and dependents are prohibited from traveling to any cities, towns or settlements in the West Bank, except for mission-essential business or other approved purposes. For limited, personal travel, U.S. government personnel and family members are permitted to travel through the West Bank, using only Routes 1 and 90, to reach the Allenby/King Hussein Bridge or the Dead Sea coast near Ein Gedi and Masada. Each such transit requires prior notification to the Consulate General’s security office and must occur during daylight hours. U.S. Government personnel and family members are permitted both official and personal travel on Route 443 between Modi’in and Jerusalem without prior notification, during daylight hours only. Travel to the Gaza Strip by U.S. Government personnel is prohibited. The Department of State strongly recommends that private American citizens not travel to the Gaza Strip. Those in Gaza should depart immediately.

All travelers who enter or travel in the West Bank should exercise particular care when approaching and traveling through Israeli checkpoints and should expect delays and difficulties. Travelers should also be aware they might not be allowed passage through checkpoints.

Israeli authorities are concerned about the continuing threat of suicide bombings. The January 2006 and April 2006, suicide bombings in Tel Aviv, the December 2005 suicide bombing in Netanya and a similar incident in Hadera in October 2005 are reminders of the precarious security environment. Despite the success of Israeli security forces in preventing suicide attacks since April 2006, the threat of such attacks is ongoing. The U.S. Government has received information indicating that American interests could be the focus of terrorist attacks. For that reason, American citizens are cautioned that a greater danger may exist in the vicinity of restaurants, businesses, and other places associated with U.S. interests and/or located near U.S. official buildings, such as the U.S. Embassy in Tel Aviv and the U.S. Consulate General in Jerusalem.

American citizens are urged to exercise a high degree of caution and common sense when patronizing restaurants, cafes, malls, places of worship, and theaters, especially during peak hours. Large crowds and public gatherings should be avoided to the extent possible, and personnel should be alert to street vendors who sometimes aggressively harass tourists. American citizens should take into consideration that discos and nightclubs, as well as public buses, trains and their respective terminals are "off-limits" to U.S. Government personnel.

Violence between organized criminal elements sometimes occurs in areas frequented by foreigners and has occasionally resulted in death or injuries to bystanders. While American citizens have not been the targets of such violence, they should be aware of their surroundings and follow common sense security precautions.

The State Department urges American citizens to remain vigilant while traveling throughout Jerusalem, especially within the commercial and downtown areas of West Jerusalem and the city center. Israeli security services report that they continue to receive information of planned terrorist attacks in and around Jerusalem. The last terrorist bombing in Jerusalem was on September 22, 2004. Spontaneous or planned protests within the Old City are possible, especially after Friday prayers. Some of these protests have led to violent clashes. The Old City of Jerusalem is off-limits to U.S. Government personnel and their family members after dark during the entire week and between the hours of 11 am and 2 pm on Fridays.

Americans in Israel, Jerusalem, the West Bank and the Gaza Strip are strongly encouraged to register with the Consular Section of the U.S. Embassy in Tel Aviv or the Consular Section of U.S. Consulate General in Jerusalem through the State Department's travel registration website, https://travelregistration.state.gov. U.S. citizens who require emergency services may telephone the Consulate General in Jerusalem at (972) (2) 622-7250 or the Embassy in Tel Aviv at (972) (3) 519-7355.

As a consequence of the current limitations on official travel to the West Bank, and the prohibition on travel by U.S. Government employees to the Gaza Strip, the ability of consular staff to offer timely assistance to U.S. citizens in these areas is extremely limited.

Current information on travel and security in Israel, Jerusalem, the Gaza Strip, and the West Bank may be obtained from the Department of State by calling 1-888-407-4747 within the United States and Canada, or, from overseas, 1-202-501-4444. For additional and more in-depth information about specific aspects of travel to these areas, U.S. citizens should consult: the Consular Information Sheet for Israel, the West Bank, and Gaza; the Middle East and North Africa Public Announcement; and the Worldwide Caution Public Announcement. These are available on the Department’s Internet website at http://travel.state.gov. Up-to-date information on security conditions can also be accessed at http://usembassy-israel.org.il or http://jerusalem.usconsulate.gov.