Hey I was wondering if someone could help me out with a problem i'm having! My boyfriend asked me to marry him and he even announced it when we went to see his parents over this christmas break he even bought the ring and gave it to me on christmas morning inside a beautiful jewlery box. Anyways he has asked for my hand and everything but now that we are talking about marriage he said he doesn't want to do anything for a year to a year and a half!!! What should I do??? What do you think is going on? Is he getting "COLD FEET"????
Please help!!!
2007-02-05 13:02:05 · 8 answers · asked by Sara 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He asked me to plan the wedding details and everything and when I started filling him in on what I had so far he got upset and we ended up getting into a fight about the whole thing I even got pictures of the dress I wanted. But since that night and the fight we haven't talked about it since.!!! Help
2007-02-05 13:12:30 · update #1
Don't worry Sara, that is actually a normal timeline to get married after a proposal. It is silly, but organizing a wedding is so complicated that having a year to do is is typically recommended.
2007-02-05 13:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by M L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
12-18 months is great. You'll need that much time to think, let it soak in, look at some dresses, attend some wedding expos, etc. To do it right, and get what you both want, you should have at least a year to plan. Cold Feet ??? If he backs off a week before the wedding then worry, but until then, enjoy.
EDIT _ that's odd, you posted questions to this effect 10 months ago. What's the story? Your questions are all over the page, making me wonder just how old are you?
2007-02-05 13:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mickey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a year is a normal time to wait to get married after getting engaged! me and my husband got married almost 2 years after he asked me. it just gives you both time to get used to the idea and trust me, you're going to want at least a year to plan your wedding!
and maybe all the details you gave him (pictures of your dress, etc) were a little too overwhelming for him! i know when i was planning mine my husband and my dad both were like i don't care just do it, i don't want to hear anything else about it! usually the guys aren't that into it in the first place. it might also make him stress b/c he could be worried he won't be able to give you the wedding of your dreams?
2007-02-05 13:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he's not getting cold feet! Relax... he's telling you that he's committed to you for the rest of his life, and wanted you and everyone else to know his intentions. He wants a long engagement, probably so he (and you) can save money for - I don't know - maybe your wedding!? lol Or even a house down payment. Your going to get married, be happy, save and plan. Congrats on the engagement!
2007-02-05 13:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I set our date at a little over a year. We were so busy planning the wedding that the time flew by.
2007-02-05 15:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sophie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the good news is that it takes about a year to a year in a half to plan a wedding. i would just ask him if he is having second thoughts, chances are he's not, maybe he just didnt mean he didnt want to do in next month ya know??
2007-02-05 13:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats really weird he shouldnt get mad u know her asked u to marry him.. u should ask him straight out if he still wants to marry you.. im kinda having the same problems my boyfriend asked me to marry him and i dont know if i should start planning or wait... but for what right why cant we start planning thats what we have to do, to make the wedding happen.. well good luck and congratulations
2007-02-05 13:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by summer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no - don't worry about it. i have friends that were engaged for 6 years.
usually engagements tend to be one to two years
2007-02-05 13:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋