My wife likes a male actor that is on television.She thinks that he is attractive,and continually has to inform all our freinds on how attractive she thinks he is.Would this bother you if your husband or wife was always commenting about other peoples looks.
2007-02-05 12:56:43 · 27 answers · asked by ash219772 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would only bother someone who had no confidence, or self esteem. After all, like she will ever get the chance. It is a fantacy of hers, and that is good. Haven't you looked at for example Pamela Anderson and thought, wow, would i like to check that out. It is a normal thing, this attraction to a celebrity. Relax, or you will say something stupid, and ruin everything.
2007-02-05 13:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends how constant it really is. These things always feel like they happen more often than they really do. Keep track (quietly!) for a week or so, and if your wife says how attractive this guy is more than about once a day, or when there is no call for it, (like changing the subject just to mention him), I'd say you have a right to be bothered. Try to stay calm, but mention to your wife that you feel she may be paying too much attention to a man she's never met. Also, try listening to yourself during the same time, and if you comment on pretty girls as much as your wife talks about this guy, that may be at least part of the problem--she could be trying to make you jealous!
2007-02-05 13:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by telcontar328 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me and my wife kept commenting about an actor that she thinks is hot, then I would probably start to get a little upset. If it only happened every once in awhile, then I wouldn't worry too much about it. I think the best thing for you to do is just tell her how you feel about it if it bothers you that much. I'm sure she's not doing it to hurt you, she probably just thinks that since you two are already married, it's ok for her to do that. But, to be 100% honest, I would just tell her b/c the key to marriage is communication. You can't keep this bottled up inside b/c it will hurt you and the pain will build up inside until, one day, it finally comes out and cause a big, unnecessary, fight.
2007-02-05 13:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by Pedro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if they are stars/famous. Seriously do you think that she will ever meet the actor and something will happen? It is just a crush, you can not look me in the eye and tell me you would not stare and dream if a girl that looked like Jessica Simpson came on TV in her underwear! It is just natural to be attracted to someone. Calm down man.
2007-02-05 13:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly, yes. it would hurt my feelings, and eventually make me down right mad if my husband did that to me.
does your wife know how much it bothers you? if not, you should tell her. if she knows and just won't stop, that's just totally disrespecting you. she may be doing it just to get your attention, but if she want's to get your attention, she's going about it the wrong way! I'm sure she wouldn't like it if you started talking about how beautiful eva longoria, scarlett johannson, vanessa minillo, etc. are!
try talking to her, and use that as an example, and ask her how she would feel if you started doing what she's doing. hopefully, she will see your point and wise up!
Best Wishes.
2007-02-05 13:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband comments on other women and even stares at them in front of me....it doesn't bother me because I KNOW he loves me and that he is WITH me for good. It's only an actor anyway.....I mean its not like anything would ever happen between them...you need to have trust in your marriage.
2007-02-05 13:01:55 · answer #6 · answered by mrs_me19 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes men have feelings too, it is just like when men comment on woman all the time. It does not feel good. You don't have to be insecure to know that some people are just rude and insensitive
2007-02-05 13:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by lost angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no , don't get annoyed or upset, u could talk to her about it, tell her how u really feel. Let her know that u are her husband and not the actor on tv. ok, good luck.
2007-02-05 13:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by sweetums 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no because my husband does it a lot.And it's like she can't hear your compliments about her looks but i don't always hear your compliments about my looks.but if we go into public a lot of guys look at me and he gets upset .So i know it's stupid but i saw a actor on T.V. and i said oooooooooooh he is such a hottie look at those abs and his muscles,and my husband got a little upset and i explained to him that how i feel when he says that about actress or singer that are near nakedness on T.V. and it worked
2007-02-05 13:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by TRUTH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you should not get annoyed. to the contrary, you should solve this issue by humor. Tell her that you want her to talk about you more than those actors, and tell her how attractive you are. make her laugh.
2007-02-05 13:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋