My mother seems very jealous of me. I dont know how to deal with her. When she asks me about my day and I tell her the good things she starts being negative. She is also very critical and talks bad about her best friend all the time. Do people like this change? She will always say things to bring me down but i have friends i talk to who lift me up. She seems to always compare herself to me. We really do not have a lot to talk about since we have nothing in common. All she wants to do is gossip and i find gossip so boring and i'd rather not talk at all. How do you deal with a mother like that?
2007-02-05 12:53:34 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well its like this she is your mom and she is only wanting to spend time with you ,so she asks you questionms to bring up conversation.just bear with her she most likely is concerned whats going on in your life cause you are not close to her , but do me a big favor , just remember you,r mom is the only mom you will ever have i promise you that.ya she may be anoying to you but if she was to pass away thats when you are gonna cry and wish she was there in your life think about this i dont thinnk she is jealous i think she wants to spend time with you so you guys can be close like a mother and child should be. i mean i am thankful i made amends with my mom 5 yrs before she passed becausee i could of never lived with my self if i and her would of never made it right. my mom was my bestfriend i still love her and miss her, do me a favor and go do something with your mom atleast once a week. that will make her feel close to you again and she will start backing off other than when you guys go out on your day . ok ty... sincerly pam
2007-02-05 15:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by angelblossom1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toxic people are hard to deal with under the best of circumstances, but when it is your mother the problem is twofold.
It would be best to try and get along with her. When she tries to
bring you down, just remember that her mindset will more than likely have a negative slant to it most of the time. If you don't value her advice, don't ask for it. When she wants to gossip, make an exit so she doesnt have the chance. There are ways of dealing with the problem without being confrontational. Remember to respect her as your mother. But also remember she is just a person like every other person, too.
2007-02-05 13:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to sit her down and tell her that what she does hurts your feelings and if she doesn't stop you will not talk to her anymore because you need positivity in your life not negativity. Mother are protective and she may be feeling like she is loosing you you have to convince her that she is not loosing you but gaining a son-in-law etc or more friends etc take care Heather
2007-02-05 12:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her the respect she deserve as your mother. Give here the affection a daughter gives their mother. But that doesn't mean you have to sit there and listen to all the negativity. Her negativity is the most damaging to a daughter. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone? But there it is.
2007-02-05 13:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lee R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you live with her get out of her house and on your own put your husband first or you will be devorced soon your not married to your mother your makeing a mistake by allowing mom to run your life there will never be the right man in her eyes she will ruin every relationship you have break off the ties now before its to late
2016-03-29 06:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably going through a fase where she is scared of egtting older so the only way she knows how is to bring it out on you, or maybe she thinks she is helping just say ok mum, and knod and when she is done the walk off just let her have her say and ignore it... you could always just tell her how you feel aswell. maybe its something she wanst to share.
2007-02-05 12:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you spent the day listening to someone who talked so negative about everything. And it was so bad that you thought to yourself...if that couch was a cliff, I'd jump off of it.
2007-02-05 12:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is sad how young children do not realize the same crazy woman[as they say] give you life so what makes you? you should appreciate your mother more and show her much love for she is craving it from you[her daughter] that is why she is attacking you have you ever wonder that her mind might be going bad just as age comes so do so many strange things of the mind mommy does not last forever enjoy every minute with her mine is gone on i wish everyday for her presence even with the mind that could not think as well as i could could not walk as well as i could could see as well as i could could not get out and make friends as well as i could could not communicate as well as i could but she did take care of me raised me educate me nurse me while i was sick.....[do you get what i'm saying]
2007-02-05 13:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by mishoney 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
she sounds like my mom. and sorry, but people like that don't change. you have to change how you deal with them. keep conversations brief and do your best not to let her words hurt you. just know you are not alone. we aren't the only ones who suffer like this.
2007-02-05 12:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by mbs4174 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sound to me like you mother has a serious problem and as soon as i was old enough i woud get away from that as fast as i can....nobody need drama like that in their lives
2007-02-05 13:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by chylie p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋