I broke up with my gf right after the New Year, we are together for more than four years now and we broke up like this a few times before!!!! I want to buy her something for Valentines day so that she wouldn't feel so lonely, but I don't want to start dating her again..... so should I buy her something or not and if you were in here shoes how would you feel???
2007-02-05 12:53:11 · 16 answers · asked by Maradona Jr. - THE MAGIC IS BACK 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Skontala sam da se mozemo razumeti i ovako :) Pa to je prilicno zeznuta situacija. Verujem da nakon 4 godine jos nesto osecas prema njoj, pa makar to bilo i prijateljstvo. A sad, sta bi mogao da joj poklonis a da to ne ostavi pogresan utisak... pokusaj npr. sa cvecem (naravno, ne moraju to biti crvene ruze :) ) ili joj kupi neku sitnicu, nesto sto prijatelji poklanjaju jedni drugima. Jeste da je Valentinovo dan zaljubljenih, ali eto. Drzim ti fige i nadam se da ce sve to proci ok. Nije mi sad jasno da li bi se ona ponovo htela vidjati s tobom ili ne. Ako ne, onda sigurno ne mozes u velikoj meri pogresiti u odabiru poklona.
SRETNO!!!
2007-02-06 06:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by biljanarhcp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you don't want to be with her, or you are still angry with her but still care about her?
If you are just angry and still care about her, what you do must match what you think, if you care that means you still love her, so when you give her a gift, she will have the expectation to fix the relationship.
If you don't want to be with her, don't send her gift, that will break her heart again, after she got dissapointment that you said you dont want to be together.
I think you are just hurt, and you still care about her, then please say something nice to her, cause she might be in the same position, feeling hurt and heart-broken. Saying sweet things are very important. If you really love someone, you should give without condition, don't blame how much you did and get so less. instead, think what you can give to her to make her happy. If she is happy, you should feel happy too, no matter at the end you two are togehter or not.
2007-02-05 21:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How stuck up can you get? Do you think you are doing her a favor by reminding her that you two aren't together any more? How do you KNOW she's lonely, she may have already forgotten about you. If you don't want to date her again, let it go. What are you going to do if she misinterprets a gift as a sign that you want her back. Leave well enough along and stay away.
2007-02-05 21:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you guys are okay with being apart and both know that you're going to stay apart, I wouldn't get her anything. If she is still hurt and vulnerable, you getting her a gift will only make things worse. She might think you want to get back together, but you said you don't...so don't give her any ideas or false hopes.
2007-02-05 21:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a girl, but here's my input:
Yellow roses means friendship. Add a nice V-day card saying something like you care very much about her, she's special, etc. And something about being great friends for life or some other sappy stuff. Make sure you mention being friends.
2007-02-05 20:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be trying to get over you. Not wanting mixed messages. She might get something from someone else. YOU need to move on too! Find someone new to buy things for! I know its hard, believe me I know. She won't be missing you she'll be missing being in a relationship. Its hard breaking up, don't make it any harder!
2007-02-05 21:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Yay me!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww, if you two are still friends then buy her something because otherwise she might be sad. Just make sure its a friends gift and not a I want to be with you forever gift. Something small and cheap and really cute.
2007-02-05 20:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by theonlymaxsdream 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it'd be sweet to just get the usual flowers or candy.
That way she'd be happy getting something on V-day, but it's not romantic enough to mean you want her back.
2007-02-05 20:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Kella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would just get her sum chocolates, but just make it seem like it was a friend thing that u were doing. like sumthing u would give to ur friends. u really should buy her sumthing, to say that u still care about her, but no more than a friend.
ps i luved maradonna!!!! u a fan?
2007-02-05 20:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by book worm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i where you i wouldn't buy anything because if she is still in love with you she might think that you want her back and it would brake her heart to know that you are doing this because you feel sorry for her just let it go i know if it was me it would upset me alot but if you want to its your choice.
2007-02-05 21:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋