2007-02-05 12:49:23 · 12 answers · asked by need_help 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First of all - you need to know that it is not your fault, and you have nothing to be ashamed of.
Then, tell your parent(s), tell the police, tell a counselor at school, tell someone! That @$$#013 needs to be reported so he can not do it again.
Also, get examined by a doctor to make sure you are healthy. And then get therapy either privately, and/or a support group to help you resolve the feelings that often follow a violent crime.
I hope you are able to get all the support that you need and that you will be able to heal in all aspects. You deserve to enjoy the rest of your school years and to find happiness. He may have violated you once - do not allow him to take any more of your life. Feel free to contact me if you need someone to talk to. Take care!
2007-02-05 12:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rape is against the law first of all so it should be reported to the police. If there is an adult you can trust, you should confide in them and and don't hesitate to jump thru the steps to get results. There might be lots of questions and sometimes you might feel people are picking on you. The unfortunate thing about reporting rape or molestation is that at times you feel like you are victimized again just because it totally invades your privacy. On the other hand now is a good time for you to learn to stand up for your rights as a person and a young woman.You should go to a doctor or emergency room or free women's clinic asap after a rape preferably before you shower. You should try to make sure you are seperated from the danger of the rapist repeating the crime.Unfortunately older high school boys sometimes rape younger girls because thet think they can scare you and you won't tell. That happened in our school years ago and noone wanted to prosecute, as a result, the rapist was able to keep commiting this horrible crime. One family finally got fed up and confronted the rapist and his parents in person and they sent him to live elsewhere. At least the girls in our school were safe again. There are certain tests that are done right after a rape to look for skin cells or body hair for DNA testing to identify the rapist. In the future, at your age, double-dating would be safer or going with a group of peers. Keep in mind, that what happened to you had nothing to do with love or romance and is NOT ok. Only you can choose to let people know by your actions that you are a valuable person and not a victim. First you must begin to believe it and see your self as person of many gifts and talents that will find real love when the time is right and you will know it. For now have fun be smarter than people who want to hurt you. You should be tested for pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Family planning clinics probably could help. If you have any relationship with one or both parents they should be told. Hope all goes well. Ronniea
2007-02-05 13:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by ronniea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is tell an adult that you trust as soon as possible. Either that or tell the Police. This is so awful for you. Because you are only 14, that means that this boy has committed a really bad crime. He can not only be charged with rape but of assaulting a child. Please seek a responsible adult to talk to right away. You don't have to suffer in silence all by yourself. Just remember, none of this is your fault. In the eyes of the law, you are still a little girl.
PEACE & GOOD HEALTH
GOOD LUCK
2007-02-05 12:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Minx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, human beings are dropping it very youthful. 13 and fourteen? Oh nicely, that isn't any longer that vast a deal see you later because the age hollow's no longer that huge between the guy and the lady. human beings are waiting in any respect different a lengthy time period, so there is not any set time you should provide it up.
2016-11-25 19:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must report him....if you do not then he will do this to another girl. Unfortunantly because of the girl in the Duke rape case, girls will not report a rape because she will think that no one believes her.....you have to report.....This woman has done a great deal of harm to every raped woman in america.....but don't let these sleeze bags win.....report him, and stop going after guys older than you....you have plenty of time for that later in your life.....have fun.....you are not a failure if you do not have a guy all the time.....report him....report him.
2007-02-05 13:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that this is the last thing you want to do, but tell your parents, if not them, your guidance counsler at school. take a test to see if you are pregnant. if your are, i'm not sure what you should do. i personally, am pro-choice, but i don't like abortion at all. and if you see how it is done, i'm sure you wouldn't either. and i advise staying away from the guy that raped you.
2007-02-05 12:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Alysse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off-It is never the victims fault, NEVER
second-tell the counceler
3rd-yes tell your parents what happened, even if its hard
4th-report it to cops, and get that guy in major trouble
2007-02-05 14:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by Suirenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz report him, I witnessed a rape, and I would hate to see a rapist get away. It's a horrible thing, and don't let them walk away and do it again.
2007-02-05 12:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by politicaltnt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people won't tell you this, but you need to go to the hospital so they can collect evidence against him (semen, pubic hair, etc) (Don't take a shower, even if you want to.) & to make sure you're ok, you need to tell your parents, the police, and talk to a counseler
2007-02-05 13:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait what did he rape you? just go on dates with them while your friends are close by. i always do that.
2007-02-05 12:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by homesick at space camp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋