ok so heres the deal, i have noticed that i love to flirt with guys love to reel them in, but when it gets to the point where we begin to get close, and about to kiss, i begin to lose feelings and want to, and sometimes push the guy away, and i hate it, i want to like guys like normal girls do, i cant decide if this happens, becuase i dont know how to make out and im just scared or if i really have some relationship problems..please give me some advice and if you experienced this tell me, im getting tired of it, and there is a guy im getting close to rite now, and im afraid im going to end up pushing him away!!
2007-02-05 12:46:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds as if you're a bit insecure about yourself. Also sounds like you might be afraid of commitment. (By the way, there's no such thing as normal!)
Insecurity is common among almost everyone, if not everyone. The best way to deal with that is grow more confident in yourself. Believe you can do things, and prove to yourself that you can. Don't be afraid of pushing a guy away, and point out to your mind what you do that pushes them away, and work on not doing those things. If it's a matter of finding something in the guy you don't like, move on to another.
If you really like this guy, you've got to work through this issue. Explain to him what's going on, and might be able to help with that.
Good luck with everything!
2007-02-05 12:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try explaining to him a little of what you are going through, and that you would like to take it slow, as for the kissing, you don't really need to know how, it just comes, if he is worth your time, he will be happy to take it slow, I have had the same feelings, but the guy I was with was willing to take things slowly, that was 5 years ago, and then we broke it off, but are back together now, we are considering getting engaged, and now kissing him is no problem, all because he knew I was nervous in the beginning. (make sure he won't push you further than you want to go, my guy knows that I won't go any further than kissing until we are married, and never asks for anything more than that. its wonderful) You'll figure it out, no worries!
2007-02-05 20:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by chelsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok heres the deal i love to flirt with all the guys its something fun to do but its a bad thing to do too anyways the reason why you push guys away is that i think you are scared and you probably overlook things about yourself and you just decide not to make a relationship with a guy i'd say just go for it don't be self conscious!!!!!!
2007-02-05 21:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by lvm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my best friends has that very same issue. She falls for guy after guy after guy and jumps through hoops to win their affection, and the moment she's got them, she doesn't want them any more. For her, though, it's all in the thrill of the chase; she doesn't actually like the guy, and she's only doing it for the fun of flirting. In your case, however, it seems like you actually DO care for these guys...I'd say you're probably just afraid to get intimate. My advice is to go slow. Only do stuff that you're comfortable with, and be sure you trust your guy enough to be able to say "no". A guy probably won't care if you don't know how to make out; I've heard they even like to teach. In any case, you're definitely not messed up, it's totally normal.
2007-02-05 20:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by princess_naya_elphaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u kinda sound like me right now! my bf and i haven't exactly "kissed" yet(tongue). i think u should stop flirt flirting and actually try to get 2 know them more. u r a normal girl. all girls experience this stage. u just Have 2 b upfront&honest. trust me. if they dont understand, they're not the right kind of guy 4 u. true love is if they like everything about u(wether ur perfect or not). my bf and i hav even talked about SEX!!!!! u hav to get comfterble. only then can u b honest.
2007-02-05 20:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by LEAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fear of commitment and enjoyment of the rush of the game. i love airsoft it feels like the real thing. i'm military and i love the rush during excersizes when the guns blaze uo and the **** hits the fan and then i come back to normality, you just love to try and get the guy, it's a game you play and you love the rush you get when you "win" but then lose it when you have to kiss him because you already feel you have won and want to move on to the next contestant
2007-02-05 20:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Metalup87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're deffinately not messed up, you just have intamacy issues. when things get serious you pull away. there really is no cure except time. you have to feel comforatble in your own skin and stop worrying about what he's thinking or how he'll react. do whatever you feel comfortable with. =]
2007-02-05 20:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by skrinklida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is go to fast for u then u tell him to slow down u guys will make out when the time is right
2007-02-05 20:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by lizy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to like to have a challenge to get the guys, and once you have them well that's it. You dont have a problem at all.
2007-02-05 20:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you're just messed up. I say that because I've never do anything like that before.
2007-02-05 20:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋