Where to begin...Okay so I met a guy in one of my classes and I talk ALOT well I was just rambling and he was listening laughing etc. So then the next class we talk, and so on. Well the third time he asked for my number and was like "Lets get together and study for our test" Okay I said, well then i text him and was like if you ever wanna grab lunch let me know because I do not know too many people due to the fact that I have not lived here long. Anyway. So a couple days go by and he asks me to dinner. Then, at dinner I find out that he has not dated cause he lives with his ex but said he doesnt like her. They just moved here together so it is 4 of them. But now just good friends. Then he came over to study another day. He took me to lunch but when I thanked him for lunch he thanked me for help studying. He met me in the library today too. Sometimes he calls me to talk and texts me but sometimes nothing. He also said he would drive 3 hours to see me this weekend on a trip I am taking.
2007-02-05 12:45:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I just need to figure out whether he really wants a study partner, or if he likes me. He has not made any advances to me at all. I mean nothing, if we sit at a table he sits on the opposite end, and when he leaves he says later and walks away. But he is putting in too much time in my opinion to want a friend... PLEASE HELP I NEED ADVICE. Oh and he is 24 and I am 21. thanks
2007-02-05 12:47:01 · update #1
It sounds like he is in a situation that is difficult for him.
You said that he is living with his ex, but why? Probably because of money. You said there are four people living together? The reason he may not text you sometimes is because they probably share computer time.
Ask him how he feels about you. He probably likes you, but is still in a sticky situation as far as living arrangements go. If both of you are willing to be patient, maybe you could have a great relationship.
But you must sit down and talk about his situation. You both need to understand what you want and if both of you are willing to work at it. Don't blow off the chance for a great thing because it isn't easy. I know. I didn't give up and I am now the real winner!
Good luck. If he is it, get him!
2007-02-05 12:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wise man once said, "Love doesn't need time to grow, but friendship always needs time." From what you've said, it sounds like this guy probably wants a friend, not just a study partner, but not a girlfriend as such. I'd suggest you go out once or twice with someone else, if you can, and mention it to him. His reaction should let you know whether he wants a girlfriend or just a friend. Either way, he sounds like a guy that might be worth knowing, so don't drop him totally unless he turns out to really be a jerk. Good luck!
2007-02-05 12:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by telcontar328 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt someone would go through all that trouble for someone they just liked as a friend, he probably likes you so let it happen little by little, don't hurry it.
Be careful about him living with his ex, he may claim that they're not a couple but you can't assume it's true. It's very suspicious for him to live with his ex, it's not normal. A guy told me the exact same thing to me and one day I write him a letter and guess who calls me- his supposed ex and she says they've been together for several years!
2007-02-05 12:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds kind of sketchy there are 2 possibilities.
1) He may really like you just have other things to do
2) You might just be a booty call on his list and only want you when it is convenient with him
The ex being a friend is possible, I have heard of that before.
2007-02-05 12:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he likes u. If he is going to tell u the hole ex girlfriend situation then he probably wants u to know that he lives with his ex but dosn't like her anymore. But i think u are in good shape because he wants to eat dinner with and he would drive that far to be with u.
Good Luck
2007-02-05 12:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like the guy would like to go out with you when i say go out i mean be your boyfriend. you know how lonley college can be all he wants is someone to love and care for while he is there and maybe after and maybe i am totally wrong but it seems like to me that he really cares for you oh yea if a guy says he is living with an ex to another woman he likes he really doesnt like her anymore and he wants to move on hope this helped
2007-02-05 12:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, just be friends at first!!! He doesn't need to make a move on you! Maybe he's shy...or maybe he's gun-shy...or maybe he's not making a move on you because he actually has some MORALS!!! Just go with it and quit trying to read anything into it! Go on with your life and if it happens that you get-together, then YEA! And if you don't, it wasn't meant to be. You're over-analyzing things!!!
2007-02-05 12:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... he probably likes u, he just might not be over his ex yet. I think u should keep going out to places and just see how it goes. It sounds like he is interested in you, you just need to go for it!
Hope this helps and good luck! :)
2007-02-05 12:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by iloveyou<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well first of all from what you say i can tell that he likes you and he is just scared to admit so just text him ask Q's that you think you ought to know and if they are the ones you were guessing then you make the move and ask him
2007-02-05 12:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by *~TamBree~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋