I have a very small paying job.. 50 dollars a month or less, because I only work one day a week. Everytime I try find a job no one ever hires me. My girlfriend is now in DCYF custody and they can take her away whenever they feel like it, I am 22 and my girlfriend is 16.. please don't judge me, I love her more than anything in this world and we have been deeply in love for a very long time. My father has said he'll try to help me get visiting days with her, however at my age it does not look very promising, and I do not want to move on, it is not what I want. I thought maybe if I could somehow make money and move out.. I could provide a home for her, but living alone at my age would look impossible, have no money for college.. the only thing keeping me going right now is her.. if I ever consider suicide I just think, well then I could never see her anymore until she passes on too.. What can I do? I don't want a councelor..
2007-02-05 12:32:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Niki does not live with me, but with her mother.. they want to take her away for truancy court reasons
2007-02-05 12:55:24 · update #1
When I say deeply in love.. NO I do not mean sex we are waiting til marriage for that
2007-02-05 13:09:55 · update #2
as a sagitarius, your money flow has been and will be very tight until at least may. You def. need a better paying job..WHAT are you good at? usually sag is great with their hands....see if you can get to an employment agency. i see another fire sign, maybe LEO, helping you very soon.
no one should judge you and niki. she is young and inexperienced in life, but will grow up soon. as a gemini, she is faced with 2 sides of herself. she lives more in her mind than reality. that is her biggest problem now. she has to STOP analyzing everything so much ..and DEAL with her problems NOW. she keeps asking herself the question WHY? you can guide her...you are stronger......if it is meant to be, you will be together...it may just take 2 years or so.....YOU must be strong now for BOTH of you.......i wish you luck.....2007 will not be easy for either of you.......
go here and get your free birthchart..it will give you insights......
www.astralabe.com
good luck and god bless......
2007-02-05 12:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by STARZ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your story has too many gaps in it for anyone to give you sufficient counsel here even if they were qualified except for life's experiences of hard knocks.
When you say "deeply in love for a very long time" you are admitting to a sexual relationship with her as a minor since she was WHAT AGE??? If it was since you were 18, that would make her aged 12. That's the first bit of info you need to clarify.
The way I see it, your other problems on order of priority are;
1) employment
2) job search, job skills, job retainment
3) resulting lack of independence or ability to provide for your own household (prerequisite for marriage)
4) Trying to "rescue" someone else before you help yourself
5) Becoming so emotionally unbalanced that your life's value is based upon being with a young teenage girl.
How to go about working on those issues can be researched possibly through sites offering free advice or free first time sessions. I think it would make a world of difference for you in how you see yourself, your problems, love, and life in general if you will pray for a relationship with Jesus Christ. Read the Bible every day and I believe you will begin to understand what God's will is for your life, your value to Him, and things will become more clear to you as you learn true love and patience and maturity.
There is such a thing as true love waits but lust can't wait to get. An honorable man will wait patiently if it is true love until circumstances improve. Whether your intentions are honorable is between you and God. My cousin met her husband at age 12 but was graduated from high school before she realized for sure that her girlhood love was her soul mate and lifetime love. He, being five years older, learned to wait patiently through several break-ups, waiting for her to be old enough to date, etc.
The main thing you can do is work on your own state of mind and being a whole emotionally and spiritually healthy person who is financially independent of your parents. Then work your way down that list and ask yourself what you can do about each problem.
Send cards or letters if that is allowed for an outlet. Handwritten communications are still romantic.
2007-02-05 21:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important that you get a job, more than what you have going. People will hire you, don't use that excuse, if you want to be responsible and have a relationship with this girl, you're gonna have to show alot more than trying to get your daddy involved. Step up to the plate, go to an employment agency,tell them your concerns and desires regarding employment and do it. Get that job, until you takes steps to improve,nothing will. It will be a cycle, the same crap happening over and over because you sir have not made the changes needed to correct the problems in your life. Stop living in this fantasy world of rescuing the young teen from her woeful life,stop living your life so woefully. Grow up and see what the world has to offer.............it's there,but will you see it?Good luck.
2007-02-05 20:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you need aid to keep your family is ok they also can help you find a job do not give up we are in tough times go to the state and get trained for a job and take the help but let the system work for you
2007-02-05 20:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by marsh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, you have plenty of time for your life to improve. Stick with your girlfriend, she needs you too, where would she be without you?
Take one day at a time, when you feel really down seek God's help, He was there for me when I was down.
Just pray and take one day at a time.
Your in a valley at the moment next week you could be on a mountain, who knows? Life is hard but you will get there.
God bless you and your girlfriend.
2007-02-05 21:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by pansi1951 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand by her. If you harm yourself, everything about your love for her would have been a lie. Your love for her is not a lie, is it? She won't be in trouble forever. Neither will you. Tell her to be brave and tell her to wait for you. Now, do what you have to do to be her hero. YOU be brave and you raise yourself above your troubles. You show her the way to a better life. Talk with your father. Talk with the police. Talk with a spiritual guide. Follow their advice. Stop playing around . . .for her sake. Someday, you will have a son with her. Be ready. The three of you will be just fine. Get to work.
2007-02-05 20:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait, does she live with you? how can they put her into custody, were you supposed to be her caretaker? anyways, i suggest you change your work ethic. do it for love and your girlfriend. get a job and hold it. have her do the same. soon you'll have enough money for college and school and maybe to move in together. dont give up hope, start by making money, but dont sacrifice your love
2007-02-05 20:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't go on anymore you need to go to the nearest emergency room and get admitted to a mental health unit.
Take care
2007-02-05 20:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by thefinalresult 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get help from welfare or some other government asisstance if thats possible. maybe that'll give u some confidence and get you on your feet then maybe you can find a decent job/. good luck!
2007-02-05 20:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋