And he obssess over trying to get me to get a differnt ring. And I get upset trying to convince him I just want the simple cute one! I dont want to take away from the sentiment---what can I do!!!!
2007-02-05 12:22:19 · 12 answers · asked by Ask a Health Nut 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't get me wrong! I would accept any ring he gives me, I just dont want either of us to obsess over the ring.
2007-02-05 12:50:09 · update #1
I completely 100% picked out my ring. Flat out. I said, "That's the one I want."
And then, for a few days, I felt like I'd ruined some kind of sacred surprise.
But, the way I see it, you're gonna wear that ring every day for the rest of your life...and then you're gonna be buried with that ring. If you already know you're going to get engaged, you already know you're going to get married, you might as well pick the ring too! I mean, the way he proposes will be the big surprise.
Just explain to him why it's important to you to have the ring you want. Surely he'll understand.
2007-02-05 12:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by maggie_n_adam 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I told my fiance what kind of ring I wanted. We actually went to a jewelry store and I pointed out which diamond cut I wanted and how I wanted it. My fiance was Ok with me doing that because his biggest fear was getting me a ring that I didn't like. He says he actually had nightmares in which he would propose to me and I would be all excited, then my facial expression would change once I saw the ring! Even so, the ring he got me wasn't EXACTLY like the ones we had seen together, but it was very much like them. I think its OK for you to choose which ring you want. You are going to be the one wearing it, and I think he would hate spending a lot of time and money on something you are going to return if its not what you want. My fiance was more excited about the actual proposal. He put a lot of thinking into it and it was a beautiful moment. Explain this to him, and tell him that the actual proposal will be his time to shine. Now, on the other hand, maybe he has already bought you a ring, which is non-returnanble. Or maybe you are inheriting an heirloom ring from his family that isn't like the one you want. You might want to make sure thats not the reason why he is trying to convincce you to get a different ring.
2007-02-05 20:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by Yessi H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh this is REALLY easy to answer because this has happened hundreds of times to people everywhere. Most Jewelry stores have a special something they give out to people proposing....I admit my boyfriend loves me and I love him....more than ANYTHING but he doesn't see through my eyes.....and yours can't see through yours...what you think is pretty he may not think you will.....SO suggest to him that if he ever decides to propose (no pressure) that there doesn't have to be a ring in there or what most people do is get a ring for loan just a normal silver band then pick out the ring yourself or leave pictures around of the ring you want (maybe a different one than the one you showed him) RINGS can always always always be replaced because the most common problem is ring size....does he even KNOW your ring size? Most likely not.....and most likely he wont even be close at guessing so....just let him know that its okay and not to be so pressured....I think the best thing about it is the MOMENT...the question and the answer....not the ring...which unless its one that attaches to the wedding band you wont even keep....
2007-02-05 20:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I told my b/f what ring i wanted... we were shopping at the mall and he wanted to look in jewelry stores so we did. he asked what rings i liked pointing to the engagement rings and i told him exactly what i wanted, which was a simple white gold 1 ct. ring and he seemed shocked b/c it wasn't a huge expensive ring. which i don't like big jewelry so it was perfect for me. and after that i never really thought about it again. 1 year later he asked me and had the exact ring i told him i wanted and i was still completely surprised!! So i'd just kinda drop it. you showed him what you liked and i'm sure he'll make sure you're happy! besides, if he's asking you to marry him is it really THAT important if it's the exact ring you wanted?! most people get a new one in about 5 years anyway.
2007-02-05 20:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by akp_02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick out your own ring. I did. My fiancee and I went to the store together. He can keep the ring with him and the way he proposes (not the fact that he is proposing) will be the surprise.
2007-02-05 20:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does it matter as long as he gives you a ring that he chose from his heart. I mean i told my boyfriend which one i wanted and he ended up giving me that one but i feel as if he didnt think or put mind into which one i would have liked. I would have prefered a ring that he chose all by himself. (but then if i didnt like it i would be upset, oh well we are women who understands us but ourself right!!!) i mean dont get me wrong i love my ring but i would have liked him to chose it and i would have been more surprised. Good Luck :D
2007-02-05 20:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've already ruined everything by knowing that it is coming. Graciously accept any ring your bf gives you - you can always get a different setting a few years from now.
2007-02-06 08:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you won't ruin the suprise of the moment. I too picked out my ring...and I was completely suprised when he proposed.
2007-02-05 20:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by k_reile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep pointing out the ones you like at every chance you get
2007-02-05 20:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can stop obsessing. If you're having this much trouble with a ring, what's the point? Where's the joy and gratitude?
2007-02-05 20:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋