My girlfriend hates me, she said i never tried, that i didnt care, when i cared more then anything, she wouldnt let me help her when she needed it most then blames me saying i never tried. I just dont get it, she says she doesnt have time for a relationship anymore. I just dont know what i did wrong, i really did try, but she thinks other wise.
2007-02-05 12:06:52 · 19 answers · asked by Need Your Help .. Need Mine? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she may be a little immature.You may be better off without her if she treats you this way.
2007-02-05 12:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem that men have had to deal with since the very first woman was created. We never seem to measure up at times and meet the needs of women. They always have something negative to think about a boyfriend or spouse.
You know in your heart you tried and she believes otherwise, you'll never change her thinking.
My only advice is to accept it and move on and if she comes back crawling on her knees like most women do after they realize they were wrong. Then and only then will you be able to decide whether to keep her or not.
2007-02-05 20:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for people to let go that past. My man still tries to impose problems that we had years ago on me now. I am not the same person and neither is he. You and your girl need to make an understanding to forgive and move forward. Understand that both of you will make an effort to change, allow each other the time to change. No one can turn on a dime and everyone messes up. Changing long help behavior is an affort, You will slip up! But if you both know that and accept that, then you might have a future. Or you can take what you have learned from this experiance with her and move on to someone new.
2007-02-05 20:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by Summer H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, listen to this, I know that if a girl or women loves a man' there is nothing or no one that will ever stand in the way, this is a fact' OK? so back to the question... think about it, now if she wanted to be with you . that's where she would be' my conclusion is
it was a excuse, that's it! so i should get the best answer for this one right? (wink) but really that's what it is what ever she is going through she didn't want you there or involved, maybe she just needs some space or need so me' time either way give her some space and if you truly did all you could do then hey' you did. so if she loves you she will be OK, and come back if not go on... you know in your heart you tried' good luck
2007-02-05 20:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by That girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ignore her in a time in need or hung out woth some friends when she asked if you wanted dinner? If so call her up and talk about all of the good times and tell her how much you care about her. Also ask her why she had time for a relationship them but not now if she says because of work ask her whats going on in work. Act as if you are interested in her work and tell her you are willing to do any thing for her. If she turns you down go to a party on friday with some friends and hang out. Peace out homie!!
2007-02-05 20:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Deadly and Divine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like she didn't really want a relationship anymore and it was easier to blame you for everything rather than telling you how she was feeling. This girl is not worth the pain and or the problem, she really needs to grow up before she can truly be in a committed relationship
2007-02-05 20:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by hottie20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. It sounds as if she wasn't really committed to the relationship in the first place; she may just want to label it "your" fault instead of accepting any blame herself for how things went wrong. I know it's hard when you have invested so much effort, but let her go. There will be someone else for you.
2007-02-05 20:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Amalthea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she thinks that you never tried or cared - If u really did care, then tell her that Sounds to me like there was a lack of communication in your relationship, which is really important.
2007-02-05 20:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by newmommie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Males and females think very differently. Their brains are actually built differently. You and a female will always see any event differently. I she doesn't see this yet, she has to mature. Don't worry. If you were married and had a few kids, then worry. Otherwise, move on all the wiser.
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2007-02-05 20:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see the same things that you are telling us, have a long conversation with her , tell her how you really feel and if she doesnt appreciae you for who you are then she's the loser.
2007-02-05 20:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by L.Sincere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋