I am pragnant and dont know who the father is at this stage.I am booked in for a scan to find out how far i am.when i know that i'll know who the father is. Both possible fathers are aware of the situation but they and their families all want to know the DNA results BEFORE birth.I can understand their concerns but dont want a needle through my stomach and risk having another misscarrage.I am booked in for a scan in a weeks time which should tell me the result....there's 3 weeks between partners.Should i go ahead with the DNA test to satisfy others knowledge?Or will the scan results be enough information to give an accurate answer?
2007-02-05 12:06:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
oooohhh tough call. Both possible fathers are aware of the situation. You are involved with them NOT the families. This is a personal matter between you and them. You can talk to them and say "Listen, I completely understand your position and wanting to know, however no matter who the father is I want this baby healthy and safe. I am sure you want the same...this test would be for purely YOUR peace of mind and has nothing to do with my babies well being...I think we all can agree the best thing for the baby is to wait until I deliver if you desire more conclusive results that won't risk hurting my baby/ or possibly killing it." See how that goes. I am glad you were honest about the situation to both "dads"
Good for you for being strong....your baby is counting on it :)
2007-02-05 12:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
The scan probably will not give you an accurate answer. 3 weeks isn't a big enough gap to be really sure of who the father is.
Do the DNA test after birth, you should have it done even if you think you know who it is for child support and medical history.
2007-02-05 20:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do the test until after birth, because there's no reason to let those people put your child at risk. If they can't tell for sure by the scan (sometimes they can be off a week or two), then a DNA test is much simpler to do AFTER birth. Then they take a simple cheeck swab.
Actually, no matter what the scan result is, I would do a DNA test after birth anyway, if you can afford it. That will be the only way to know 100%, no doubts, ever.
Good luck and congratulations!
2007-02-05 23:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
they aren't going to be satisfied with you saying"i slept with them 3 weeks apart" i can tell you that right now. They are going to want hard DNA. As would I if i was a guy. You want to make them wait 9 months of so to know if they are the father?That's a bit selfish. You are the person that caused this question to arise. I think you should go get the test, not to satisfy the families, but the two men involved and yourself(If you want to know) Could you imagine, if you were a guy, a girl coming to you and saying you "could" be the dad, guess we'll find out 4-6 weeks after the baby is born? That is torment. This is a life changing experience. And the risk for miscarriage from an amniocentesis is very small.
2007-02-05 20:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by cherokee 4 · 3⤊ 5⤋
hi if you slept with 2 partners in 3 weeks you will have to do the dna test after the baby is born the ultrasound cannot give you an exact date i am sorry wishing you luck oh yeah also please wait to your baby is born for the dna dont have the needle thing done.
2007-02-05 20:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by nomorebabieshaha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can actually hurt the baby by finding out before hand...just wait and to be honest if this goes to court most courts won't do anything for a dna test until after the baby is born anyway.
2007-02-05 20:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by *His_Playgirl* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No the results will not be enough especially if you want child support there will have to be a DNA test done it might be easier to have it done with before the birth so the father can be prepared. But if you are really not comfortable with it I would express this and see how they feel.
2007-02-05 20:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by goodmommy22 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Personally,
I would want to know NOW. So that the biological father could be involved (if he wanted to) with the pregnancy.
The correct family could hold a baby shower, and grandparents can have time to get excited.
Also, proper paperwork could be filed for child support payments, etc.
2007-02-05 20:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there are only 2 people you should be worried about right now and that is you and the baby everyone else can wait it out nothing is worth the baby's life or health or your own get a note from your Dr telling them how far along your are and that is fine till birth
2007-02-05 21:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless you are willing to risk a miscarriage tell them you wont be 100% sure until baby is born & they will have to live with that
2007-02-05 20:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋