What is more important in adventist relationships, Love and Trust or both persons being Adventist?

Question

Before you answer state if you are Adventist or not.
If you find a girl that you love and trust and the feeling is mutual, shouldn't that be more important than if he is an adventist? It seems that the church is a third person in the relationship, and what is bad is its a third person that can not be reasoned with, or compromised with. The relationship seems to be on notice and under seige untill i decide to get baptised.
I am not familiar with the customs as to love, Is any random adventist man more suitable than i am simply because i am not an adventist?
How do you controll who you love and why should you? why should we break up if i decide not to baptise, even if i will visit and pay tides and offering? If i open a business that makes the most money on Saturday (Sabbath) why cant i hire someone to run the business on that day as a compromise of not missing church? Do i have to give my soul to the church to avoid ending my relationship?

What if after studying adventism you feel like they are using her as a hostage and the only way you can get to her. The only reason that you would convert is because of her. The essential question is what is important and do you think it is wise to choose a faith based only on your love for a girl?

Answer 1

I am an Adventist
The Bible says do not be unequally yoked. The reason for this is, is that in the beginning you may not see the dangers that are ahead of you. Of course love and trust are important in a relationship, but that's not the only thing a relationship is built upon. if eventually you decide to get married, and children are born, which religion would you follow. and you should remember it is not the church you are doing service to, it is God. The sabbath is ordained by God and not by man, so this sabbath thing has nothing to do with the church. I am an Adventist and believe me I had struggles with this too, but I did not have to consult the church for this, but i just consulted God, and His word always gives me answers.
Know this if you get baptized just for the girl don't, but if you get baptized because you are convinced in your mind that this is what God wants you to do, go ahead. Only thing make sure you have thought about it,ecause even in the Adventist Church you don't have perfect marriages
Being Christian is a great and yet rewarding task, if I may call it so. Don't think i am one of those old guys, i might be as old as you or maybe close to your age range. So i know how you feel. Have a blessed day further and know that God loves you.
I am interested how you feel about my answer. Email me if you have more questions. I am not on the question and answering forum often. ([e-mail])

Answer 2

As an Adventist i would say, do not convert to Adventism in order to marry someone. That is not a good reason to change your religion. Instead you should pray and ask God whether he wants you to join a particular denomination, Adventist or otherwise.

As for the question of the church strongly advising its people against marrying non-Adventists, it is because being an Adventist can sometimes be hard. You sometimes have to face tough decisions and make sacrifices in order to obey God. If your spouse does not share your faith, they may not only not support you in such circumstances, but may make things more difficult for you.

For example, if the Adventist has to lose their job because they will not work on Sabbath, will the non-Adventist spouse support them in that decision even if it means the family loses the income? If the children have an exam on Saturday and the Adventist parent wants them to not go to school even if they fail the exam, will the non-Adventist spouse be ok with that? If the Adventist is conscripted into the armed forces and faces a court martial for refusing to obey orders to work on Saturdays and ends up in prison, will the non-Adventist spouse mind that?

You are right, a random Adventist man is not necessarily a better match for her than a non-Adventist, but because for Adventists, faith and obedience to God are central to life, if the spouse does not share their convictions, it can lead to tensions in the marriage and it can place more difficulties in the way of the Adventist following his or her faith.

At the end of the day the church cannot force anyone to marry or not to marry someone else, that is an individual's decision. It can only recommend and strongly advice people to marry within the faith. Adventist pastors are not allowed to officiate at weddings between Adventists and non-Adventists, but you can always get married in another church or have a civil ceremony.

Answer 3

I was an Adventist for 35 years.

The key word here is "was". After finally reading the Bible on my own and without the aid of Adventist material and ministers to tell me what the Bible said I saw how horribly wrong the doctrines of this church were.

I married a non-Adventist.

What you really need to know is how the Adventist church and your girlfriend view you. YOU are not saved...you only think you are...YOU are deceived....YOU have been exposed to "the truth"--the Adventist truth---the only truth and if you reject it you will go to hell regardless of whether you believe in Christ.

Adventist refer to all other believers (and un-believers) as non-Adventist. They have the corner on salvation. According to the doctrines of their church you must believe in Christ, first, AND YOU MUST ACCEPT THE SABBATH MESSAGE....all others will be lost.

You can work out your differences as just a couple...it's adding children to the mix that will cause problems. Any sports will have Sabbath conflicts.....do you really think your sweet little wife to be is going to let little Johnny go play Baseball on Saturday morning....not on your life. Little Susie won't be allowed to do ballet or cheerleading or band because of "the Sabbath" either.

How much do you love this girl is really not the issue. The issue you is: HOW MUCH DOES SHE LOVE YOU??!!!

Does she love you enough to allow you to be your own person spiritually????

You are obviously not making conditions on her marrying you......would she marry you if you made her change religious denominations??

DO YOU GIVE YOUR SOUL TO THE CHURCH TO AVOID ENDING YOUR RELATIONSHIP? NO. NO. NO!!!

Do you want to live a lie?

Do you really want to deny Christ by accepting false doctrines?

Are you really going to accept this girls' beliefs over what you know is right?

Is the girl or Christ more important? Adam was faced with this decision in the garden of Eden...he knew Eve had made a mistake...he willfully followed her.

What will you do?

Will you end your relationship with the girl because she won't accept you how you are?? Or, will you place a barrier between you and Christ in order to keep the girl?

If you marry her--under her conditions---you will have undending conflicts throughout your married life.....the question really is:

HOW MUCH DOES SHE LOVE YOU? HOW MUCH IS SHE GOING TO RESPECT YOU IF SHE THINKS YOU ARE DECEIVED AND GOING TO HELL--UNLESS YOU CHANGE TO HER WAY OF THINKING?

The man is supposed to be the head of the house...not the woman, however, it already seems as though she is leading you.

Answer 4

I am not a Seventh Day Adventist.

I am Eastern Orthodox. My church, like yours, has some people who seem more interested in keeping certain rules about when you should do work and eat and pay and offer and visit, etc and less interested in loving and helping their fellow man.

Despite that, the richness of the writings and theological teachings of my faith keep me rooted firmly in my church, but I have opted to prioritize my churches beliefs and try to do what I can, but when it comes to following a certain fast or attending a certain feast day service, sometimes I have to say: enough. You have to find a balance. I think god will understand.

Answer 5

The seventh-day Adventist Church is a international Christian Denomination. they're additionally respected the international over. Adventist uphold classic marriage simply by fact the only appropriate plan via God. Ellen White became into by no potential a Polygamist. She became into married to James White. this is it chum.

Answer 6

im not sure i really understand your question but it seems like religion is getting in your way and you dont like that. If it were me, i would go with the one i love, religion is important, but isnt it important to be happy in your life with someone you love? i feel thats better, why would you be punished for happiness, i mean you are totally turning your back on god, but you are taking a step that will change your life for the better, and can later figure out later, what you are going to do about the church. I'm not sure this really makes any sense, i hope it does, and i hope you do the right thing

Answer 7

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