what makes a good parent ? and are you one of them...........?

Question

some people work 2 jobs or both parents work and you see your children once they are in bed.how can you call yourself a good parent if you don't spend time with them. it seems daycares are raising our children. are we in a time where we hardly see our kids and that's why alot of them fall into gangs and drugs. what is your opinion?

Answer 1

A good parent first of all teaches their kid right from wrong and gives them consequences for their actions right or wrong. Too many parents try to be their kid's best friend and when the kid gets into major trouble later on in life you read in the newspaper all the time the parents saying "I just don't know what happened, he or she was such a great kid, gave us no trouble", they failed to teach their kid right from wrong is what happened.

Answer 2

I think that ur statement is a matter of opinion. Becuz I work and go to school, but I still make time 4 my daughter. She is not in a daycare so daycare is not raising her. There are alot of things that make people a good parent. For instance those that work 2 jobs to take care of their children and make sure they have the things they need r good parents. How do u know that they only see their children when their in bed? Some people have to make hard sacrifices to make a better life 4 their children. Also how do u know why kids fall into the wrong crowd? Have u done studies on this or is this ur opinion? All kids do things 4 a different reason and its not fair to hard working parents 4 u to say the things that u did, when u don't have all of the facts!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Many factors go into how children develop and whether they fall into gangs or drugs. Parental involvement in a child' life is crucial to their normal development. You have to understand that many parents these days are struggling finacially and even though they may not spend much time with their children, many times it is not by choice. Raising a family is very expensive and one income is often times not enough to make ends meet. For single parent families the struggle is even more diffcult, and due to financial strain they experience more negative life events than their wealthier counterparts. There are many factors which contribute to what makes a good parent, most parents have good intentions for their children, but sometimes they do not have the means nor the support to give their children what they need. Does that make them bad parents?

Answer 4

When the single parent has to work, she/he must gain support from friends and family to help raise the child. That means staying involved in every aspect of their life and communicating every day with the daycare to know what is going on in their life when you cannot be there. Same goes with children who have both parents that work. Sometimes it's good if the parents can make the sacrifice and one parent work one shift and the other parent work the other, in order that more time is taken to personally raise the child in their younger years.

And speaking of sacrifice, it takes total sacrifice in order to spend quality time with the children, their activities, helping with homework and just listening to them. Taking time to really listen is very important and a key factor in how the child turns out.

Selfishness is a big problem with people trying to raise their kids. They want to have kids, but don't want to sacrifice their own wants.

Answer 5

I think you need to be loving, supportive. You need to set boundaries, and be very consistant with them. Make the most of the time you have. One thing that was very hard for me was to learn to let some things go. For example, the dishes can sit in the sink for a while, they won't go anywhere. Spend the time you have with them paying attention to them. At bedtime, no matter how hectic life is, I always read stories, we talk about our days, and sing songs. As long as you stay involved in their lives, and they know that you are paying attention to them, their friends, and what they are doing, it's all good. My son is only 4, and I wish I could spend more time with him, but we all do what we have to do-that doesn't make us bad parents. So play with your children, and do the dishes after they go to bed! Good luk!

Answer 6

parents should pay attention to their children but i understand that nowadays there are many working parents, most of them have less time to be with their children, and for them daycare centre is the best helper to raise their children. but why don't one of you, arrange yourself with a 9-5 job, so that u have enough time to be with your children, at least they know whenever you are busy, u still spare time for them. if you are very much busy in the working days, make sure that you have a family day at leat once a week, try to talk to your children, share with them and most important, listen to them.

Answer 7

My two teen boys think I'm a little strict(ok, alot strict) but they are both respected by their teachers and their friends' parents. I trust my boys and they trust me. I tought them early that there is NO lying to anybody. I stand behind them for anything and they know it. I work full time and their mom stays home. We spend almost all of our time togather on the weekends. Other than that it's hard to explain.

Answer 8

I don't have any children. Good parenting requires a lot of hard work, like all relationships. But I do not understand your question. I think you must have someone in mind, but who? Are you concerned about yourself as a good parent? Do you question your own parents? I think such a question should be answered on a case by case situation.