I am pretty experienced...and I just got out of a really long relationship with someone. I am really looking for the right guy, and I am scared that I am just going to find another jerk who is just going to want sex from me.
Besides the obvious of asking, how do you know if he is juts int oyou for sex?
I started dating this new guy... I am really into him, and he seems perfect. He is a youth leader at church, a singer, a guitar player, an excellent student, a sweet, romantic guy, and he tells me all the time that he is crazy about me. We have made out before (one time) and like he would just like place his hand on my lower back and like stroke my back and pull me close in. He would kiss on my neck and stuff, but has never tried anything else. I am just terrified that he is only into me for sex becuase I have been hurt by so many guys so many times who just wanted one thing and I had no idea.
How do I know? Does this guy sound like a keeper?
2007-02-05 11:55:05 · 5 answers · asked by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also i forgot to add. i am not easy. i am not planning on having sex with him right off the bat.
the guy i was with waited 6 months and then we had sex, he stuck around a year longer...but then admitts later it was just sex he wanted. i don't want another relaitonship like that, and i am scared....
2007-02-05 12:01:39 · update #1
also
we have been best friends for about a year now, so it wasn't like some random guy i met and made out with lol.
we have been very close for a while, and have hung out and talked for over a year... we just now went on a date, and it wasn't weird making out with him or anything since i have known him for so long.
2007-02-05 12:02:53 · update #2
You don't know until you give him time to show that he is trustworthy, a friend (friends first, lovers second), means what he says and does what he says he will do. That's why "hurry" and "find a good mate" don't go in the same sentence. If you are concerned about his motives, make sure you take the time you need to take to be certain of what they are. If he's too good to be true, he probably isn't true. Go slowly and you'll learn what he's about.
2007-02-05 12:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from what I read he seems like a keeper. I mean, he seems like the "ideal guy" but could be misleading. The only way to know what he really wants is test him out and talk with him. Let him know where you stand on the issue of sex. Make that clear from the beginning. From there, hopefully you will see that he is not just about sex. Best wishes!
2007-02-05 20:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Annoy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the truth is is that EVERY guy wants to have sex but it's the difference in guys of where there standards are. If this guy is a chruch youth group leader, he shouldn't have even been making out with you so soon. Plus he shouldn't be into having sex with you until marriage. You have to understand what sex is and why we even have it, it doesn't make anysense until you understand God and marriage. I would recommend checking out gotquestions.org. peace.
2007-02-05 20:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by yaabro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a nice guy to me, but thats besides the point. if a guy really likes you he will wait until you are comfortable to have sex with him. and that is exactly what you should do, if your not comfortable wait, wait as long as you want.
2007-02-05 20:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by l.rahn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some time andyou'll see even though you feel his the right one... give it more time and sooner he'll show his true colors...
2007-02-05 19:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by mei_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋