My maid of honor asked for my guest list for my bridal shower and I don't know who I should invite. My ceremony is very small and immediate family only, so I'm not sure its a good idea to invite my extended family that will only will be invited to the reception. I don't know who to invite. HELP!!!!!
2007-02-05 11:54:33 · 11 answers · asked by Krissy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I had a small wedding with only immediate family and I truly felt very akward that my MIL invited a large number of people that were not invited to our wedding. I felt very badly that people would spend their money on me without the "bonus" of seeing us get married.
I would stick to the people who are invited to the ceremony for your shower. Most people who are invited to the reception will bring a gift to that, let them do that alone.
2007-02-05 12:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bridal shower is usually just for the family and close friends of the bride. The farthest extension I've ever seen is cousins, aunts, etc. Any family extended farther than that would most likely just send a present since you're not that closely related, or show up for the reception (if they were invited) and give you your gift(s) there. But really, you invite whoever you want. It's your shower. If you want to invite extended family, that's okay. Just make sure your maid of honor knows ahead of time how many people are planning on being there.
2007-02-05 20:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by trudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only add guests who are invited to the ceremony and/or reception. Since you are having a small intimate ceremony, maybe suggest to your maid of honor to incorporate something along with your wedding festivities. Since my family was out of state, my mother and attendants planned a small shower for me during our pre-wedding festivities at the hotel we were staying in after they all arrived. Maybe you can have a tea or luncheon after you go pick up your dress or complete other pre-wedding activities a couple of days before your wedding. This will actually make a nice memorable event during this time.
On the other hand you can also include your extended family in a traditional shower since they are being invited to the reception. This actually may make them feel more apart of the festivities since you are having a private ceremony. But the bottom line is to plan accordingly to what you feel most comfortable with doing.
2007-02-05 20:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would because your extended family is still being invited to the reception. Everyone will understand, my sister did the same thing her wedding was just our family and his and then the bridal shower and the reception had our extended family and family friends and all that. So I think it is ok to do so! Good luck and congrats!
2007-02-05 20:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by smilebig!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would only invite those whom you also have invited to your wedding ceremony. Actually, you should be only inviting people to your reception and the ceremony together, not one or the other. Read an etiquette book, or talk to your mom or an auntie about these things.
2007-02-05 20:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't want to be invited to give a gift to a bride, but not be invited to her wedding ceremony. I think for me that's a bit rude.
If you MUST have a shower, only invite those people coming to the wedding.
You could have a luncheon with those people invited to the reception, too, just be sure to mark on the invites "no gifts" so they know its their presence in celebration you want, not any gifts.
Of course, that's just my opinion and I'm not Emily Post. ;)
2007-02-05 20:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think you could go ahead and invite all the guests-even the ones only invited to the reception. It would be their choice whether to come afterall. You're inviting them to the celebration of your new union. Why wouldn't you invite them to the shower?
2007-02-05 20:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't invite anybody who wasn't invited to the wedding. If you invite extended family, it might be awkward because they weren't invited to the ceremony.
2007-02-05 20:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Pantaloons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who to invite?
Anyone who is invited to the shower must also be invited to the wedding, aside from special circumstances such as a destination wedding.
2007-02-05 21:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by sknymnie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat as you and i told my sister that i only wanted the people that i wanted there no extras no matter if they were imediate family. I want people i share my life with and time with there not people i never really ever see. So i just had a small list for her but i feel better having the people i want there not the people i never see.
2007-02-06 00:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋